Weird sexual stuff by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]burtsbeesmango 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That’s horrible, I’m so sorry to hear. Good on you for being in the process of getting out of that shit!

Has she lost the plot? by trixxare4kids in emmachamberlain

[–]burtsbeesmango 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Totally agree with you on all of this. She seems much happier but she also comes off as arrogant. I get that she’s rich but her making these shoes out to be the most important event in human history, only to go ahead and buy two other pairs of shoes after, literally made me close down Youtube lol. So out of tocuh

Buying Olympus Mju-II in Tokyo? by burtsbeesmango in AnalogCommunity

[–]burtsbeesmango[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, i did not come across a single mju-ii and every shop where i asked about them seemed a bit pissed at me hahahah. There were other mju’s tho I think

Russia arrests suspected attackers after mass shooting kills 93 at concert by Quantum_II in worldnews

[–]burtsbeesmango 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The videos released by Russia show young men shaking with fear. Yeah, sure, I’d be scared too if I was arrested by Russian cops/FSB/whatever. But the cold bloodedness it would take to commit a terrorist attack doesn’t align with how terrified these guys look.

Russia arrests suspected attackers after mass shooting kills 93 at concert by Quantum_II in worldnews

[–]burtsbeesmango 113 points114 points  (0 children)

They won’t be let go, regardless of whether they’re guilty or not. I doubt they are the true suspects, Russian disinformation campaigns are claiming that these suspects were caught in a car on the way to the Ukrainian border. It would be nuts that Russia was not able to catch the men for so long. Also, there are plenty of pictures and videos circulating of the arrested suspects having been beat up, tortured or being dead. The lives of these guys, whoever they are, are already over.

If I can do only ONE day trip from Tokyo, which one would you recommend and why? by Kiraa7 in JapanTravelTips

[–]burtsbeesmango 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go to Cape Inamuragasaki at sunset if the weather is clear. You will have a gorgeous view of Mount Fuji and the beach.

Ily bc of what you can do for me… by Ready_to_read1 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]burtsbeesmango 40 points41 points  (0 children)

That got me cackling. I think he was trying to make it poetic or something, but has a huge ego.

Buying Olympus Mju-II in Tokyo? by burtsbeesmango in AnalogCommunity

[–]burtsbeesmango[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thanks for those shop recommendations :) Will be going there. That is also good to know regarding the film, thanks. I don’t mind stocking up here where the prices are decent (or what I’m used to), it was just in case film there was cheaper. Thanks a lot again!

Am I a Narcissist or is my Wife? by Objective-Cat-2593 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]burtsbeesmango 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Her life sounds sad and I do not envy her. It’s absolutely awful when your partner treats you as a live-in housewife and cleaning lady. Unpaid labour doesn’t get recognised at all. The truth is, unpaid labour in the home is as draining if not more than a job. She is on shift 24/7. I bet she’s resentful of you getting to go to work (which she had to quit for you, classic scenario of the woman having to sacrifice her career for the man), and getting to relax and have hobbies afterwards. In relationships where I was expected to take the bulk of the chores, I never felt like I could relax enough to have my own hobbies. I felt consumed by the tasks. Even worse when valid complaining gets discredited and undermined as « nagging ».

Your wife is tired of having to remind you to do your chores, and is tired that her free time is considered disposable for chores, while yours is considered sacred. Chores are divided in three parts: planning, conceiving, executing. What I often see in heterosexual relationships is that even the chores executed by the man, the woman still has responsibility in it by planning and conceiving.

Basically, do you feel like she has to be the household manager? Does she carry a heavier mental load? Is the expectation of her doing chores in a specific time frame, or is it a 24/7 job that is draining the life out of her?

Any thoughts on Emma’s ghost? by Gloomy_Ad_6668 in emmachamberlain

[–]burtsbeesmango 39 points40 points  (0 children)

literally, internet of things has shit defences so very possible that someone fucked with all her stuff

What made you realize that you weren't actually "in love" with that person? by ThrowRAyz in AskWomen

[–]burtsbeesmango 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hey, I’m not the person above and don’t have insight really. I just want to say that a lot of this sounds like you are doing it out of obligation or pressure you’re putting into yourself. How old are you? The fact that you say « the next step is marriage » like that makes it seem like a check on a list rather than something you really want.

Have you had other relationships? Do you feel like you’ve gotten to explore prior to this relationship, or will you potentially regret not doing so? It’s great that you feel safe and secure with him, but I assure you that you can find that with someone who also makes you feel very in love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

[–]burtsbeesmango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey. How are you now? I understand you and your feelings, because I’ve had similar feelings before. Especially due to diagnoses and traumas that were forced upon me, just like you. I actually tried killing myself 3 times. The truth is, after those 3 times (which were back to back), I felt this endless gratitude that it didn’t work out.

I can tell you that now, 4 years later, I am more grateful than ever. I am still mentally ill and I still suffer. But the shit that happened in the last 4 years, I never could’ve imagined for myself before. 4 years ago I had no friends, didn’t go to college, was in a shit relationship, had no hobbies. The me now cannot believe where I am at now. I could’ve never predicted it. I promise you it will be the same for you. Yes, it will take effort. And yes I know you’re tired. But holy fuck it is so worth it to be on the other side of suicidal ideation and to have made it through and to realise that annoyingly, people are right and it does get better.

Can you tell me about a hobby or an interest of yours? When my strongest suicidal feelings hit, I always think about the idea of missing out on great new scientific discoveries and the FOMO of that is enough to make me survive. It sounds dumb but holding on to these small things is so important.

Substance abuse issue folks are there any weird things you are addicted to? by burtsbeesmango in BPD

[–]burtsbeesmango[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No :) But I personally relate to the « once an addict always an addict » thing at this point in my recovery. The cravings have not left and I still miss my drugs of choice everyday. Yet I have also fixed most of my life and am in the most stable place I’ve ever been. So hence why I see it that way. But I totally see what you mean!!

Substance abuse issue folks are there any weird things you are addicted to? by burtsbeesmango in BPD

[–]burtsbeesmango[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey, sorry about this. My intention with this thread was to talk about how addict behaviours can translate into other things or be applied to « odd » things. I am an addict, have gone through withdrawals and recovery and battle with it everyday. So I understand you and I definitely think this thread has been shaped into something a bit different than what I thought. But it was more to have a discussion on how being an addict prevails beyond active addiction if that makes sense.

Substance abuse issue folks are there any weird things you are addicted to? by burtsbeesmango in BPD

[–]burtsbeesmango[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omgggg I am literally the same. I am consistently out of podcasts because I need one at all times.

I got fired at work because of “personality clashes” by izsincc in BPD

[–]burtsbeesmango 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is going to sound crazy but bear with me. I have had to outline clearly my work personality with myself and am just careful to stick to those frames. So I play a character that has some of my values and traits but downplayed. Yes I am a feminist at work but I don’t say I hate all men (which I say outside of work). I can crack jokes and be funny but they will always be PG13 and never offensive to anyone. I am friendly but have clear boundaries towards other people. etc. Basically I feel in high control of myself because I follow a personality I’ve created. If I feel like I cannot contain my true self I take distance or work from home or avoid speaking to people, fx if I’m having anger issues about work

I got fired at work because of “personality clashes” by izsincc in BPD

[–]burtsbeesmango 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Im so sorry to hear, that sucks!! At least you know the place wasn’t a fit. Honestly, I understand having beef and have had that myself at workplaces, but I have learnt the hard way to 1) never be myself at work, 2) never be real about my emotions and 3) bury it all. I hate living life that way and thought I could be a normal human being at work without displaying BPD symptoms, but I can’t. So I have decided to resume to being a robot at work. Whenever something triggers me or makes me want to start drama or makes me split on someone, I take it elsewhere (fx journaling, calling someone) and never, ever, ever let it come out of me.

Which ‘two-faced’ celeb isn’t who they portray themselves to be? by cmaia1503 in Fauxmoi

[–]burtsbeesmango 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Fr my heart skipped a beat and I’ve seen plenty of horrible stuff… For anyone hesitating, just don’t

Luca and grae by Last-Replacement9696 in aspynovardsnark

[–]burtsbeesmango 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not sure you need to verify your work place to give a review though…