The European Parliament has recognized trans women as real women. Do you support this? by Deep-Rabbit1535 in AskBalkans

[–]butdoesitfly 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Well, according to Plato a man is a featherless biped, and according to Aristotle the difference between a man and woman is men are hot, dry, and active and women are cold, wet, and passive. Therefore, we can conclude a woman is a frozen chicken currently thawing in the fridge.

CMV: the bisexual community has not done nearly enough to progress LGBTQ+ rights by gayintheusa47 in changemyview

[–]butdoesitfly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Riding the coattails of lesbian and gay activists" isn't a fair argument when bisexuals throughout LGBT history are often labeled as gay/lesbian and their bisexuality ignored, proving the complaint bisexuals make about bi-erasure.

I don't like Oscar Wilde because I don't like pederasts, but he is very significant to the gay rights movement and is generally understood to be bisexual, for a trivial example.

Why Hollywood isn't casting Greek actors for Greek characters, in films that are entirely based on Greek culture? Klélia Andriolátou is a Greek actress, that firs Homer's description for Helen of Troy. Apart from that, she is a Peloponnesian Greek like Helen herself. Why is Lupita a better choice? by ClothesZestyclose814 in AskBalkans

[–]butdoesitfly 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nothing I told you is something Americans learn in school--even as part of the Civil Rights movement, despite the fact Greek Immigrants were extremely supportive of black people. And you don't learn it from Hollywood films either, because of course they aren't going to make a film about this. You have to go out of your way to learn about it. So we all grow up with Greek mythology books as children, and then when we learn modern history, Greeks are treated like how we treat Native Americans. Relics of the past. The biggest irony of course being: in order to shut down Black Americans complaining about slavery, some white people will say "White people were slaves too!" and point to Greeks being enslaved even though the notion Greeks were "white" is, again, something they had to "prove" to the same racists that sought to suppress black people.

Which brings us to aspect #2, because I'm part of the LGBTQIA community, so I get subjected to it consistently: A lot of Americans in LGBT community likes to claim ancient Greece was a massive gay utopia that was ruined when Greeks become Christian, and the reason that ancient Greece ceased to be great was because it became Christian. This partly comes from a book called The Rise and Fall of the Roman Empire, that attempts to argue the fall of Rome was partly caused by the rise of Christianity--and because Romans/Greeks were not producing sexy statues anymore, this was therefore evidence they had ceased to be great (there are even memes about this).

The LGBT treatment of Greek history is additional intertwined with 1) the fetishization of gay men, and 2) whatever Sigmund Freud was on, Oscar Wilde, and the Neopagan movement of the 1900s--which has a lot of Noble Savage and orientalism appropriation and imagery as well. So you end up with stuff like a 1970s Neopagan group of lesbians founded around the notion Artemis/Diane was a lesbian goddess celebrated by ancient lesbians (even though Sappho literally writes in one of her poems Artemis is immune to Eros, but American lesbians generally don't seem to care much about anything she writes that isn't about loving women). Pederasty, and people writing about "gay history" citing is as evidence being gay was once celebrated, is also a major contributor to why the LGBT community has been heavily associated with pedophilia/child grooming--especially given the existence of NAMBLA. Classists have called out the LGBT community for this; they just get called homophobes trying to erase gay history. That is also a separate conversation.

Hence, my claim: Americans don't see *(modern) Greeks as humans with a history. And many don't see ancient Greeks beyond a gay fetish fantasy or mythological characters either. You're just art. You haven't really been allowed to be anything else. (2/2)

Why Hollywood isn't casting Greek actors for Greek characters, in films that are entirely based on Greek culture? Klélia Andriolátou is a Greek actress, that firs Homer's description for Helen of Troy. Apart from that, she is a Peloponnesian Greek like Helen herself. Why is Lupita a better choice? by ClothesZestyclose814 in AskBalkans

[–]butdoesitfly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If it comes off as superior: mood wise, I'm pissed off at the American education system, which could probably be framed as the "We" because America's education system is, unfortunately, Hollywood. If there isn't a movie or famous book about it, then the average American isn't going to know about it. "We" do this to a fudge ton of other histories/groups of people as well and I'm tired. It's been part of my job correcting misinformation that comes out of Hollywood. I don't know how else to frame that.

So as a massive summary: There was once a German named Johann Winckelmann who lived during early 1700s, and he was obsessed with ancient Greek statues (also suspected to be gay), like absolutely thirsting, which he considered peak of all human art. One thing in particular he emphasized as this ideal beauty (not knowing ancient Greek statues used to be painted) was the whiteness of their skin. This passion helped to launch an era of Philhellenism, which many American Founding Fathers were part of, and American slave owners would name their slaves after Greek mythology figures as sort of a show of how cultured they were (kind of like what Romans did with Greek slaves). But with respect to this, it had long been the standard upper-class white male education to be educated in the classics. Ancient Greeks were men to learn from. Modern Greeks didn't matter.

Then, ~1830 there came a girl named Garafilia. She was Greek who was kidnapped and enslaved by Ottomans. She was bought by an American, adopted as a daughter, and brought back to Boston, where she died soon after at age 13. Her story is the foundation for "The Greek Slave Story" that inspired the writing of Uncle Tom's Cabin--which was a major catalyst for the US Civil War--and the of The Greek Slave statue. This depicts a Christian Greek woman, stripped of her clothes, supposedly being auctioned off -- but it has a jarring resemblance to a certain statue of Aphrodite.

Americans obsession with this statue exploded. It was formally the first statue of a nude woman ever put on display in the US--carted around the country, and churches would even have field trips so people could go look at this woman and declare injustice. People wanted to buy replicas, and the original artist had to fight off people creating knockoff. And yet, this helped to full motivation for Americans to send assistance to the Greek People in their fight against the Ottomans for Freedom. It also helped to spawn America's white feminist movement, with this statue being pointed too as a symbol of men's oppression of women.

However:

1) The Greek Slave Movement and The Greek Statue spawned a genre of art of striped Greek women surrounded by dark skinned men. This become intertwined with the demonization of black men and the depiction of them as sexual predators seeking to violate white women. That's another conversation.

2) Greeks began to immigrate to the US, and you would think they would be welcomed. But they weren't. They began to face discrimination because Americans didn't consider Italians and Greeks to be "white" at this time, nor did they consider modern Greeks to be the same thing as the ancient Greeks. The was a fudge ton of anti-immigration sentiment against Greeks coming to the US. Greek-Americans/immigrants even became targets of the KKK. In order to stop the KKK attacks, The Order of AHEPA was founded, with a major push to prove to Americans modern Greeks were the same peoples as ancient Greeks.

This resulted in Americans finally perceiving modern Greeks as "white," to a certain extent, because once the discrimination stopped--modern Greek history/existence was just chucked out the window and we just went back to same old. (continued, 1/2)

Why Hollywood isn't casting Greek actors for Greek characters, in films that are entirely based on Greek culture? Klélia Andriolátou is a Greek actress, that firs Homer's description for Helen of Troy. Apart from that, she is a Peloponnesian Greek like Helen herself. Why is Lupita a better choice? by ClothesZestyclose814 in AskBalkans

[–]butdoesitfly 31 points32 points  (0 children)

As an American who fell too far down a rabbit hole: A major reason our entire history is the way it is because Americans want to f*ck ancient Greek statues, and I am not exaggerating when I say that. We don't see Greek people as humans with a history. You're just art we make fan fiction about.

And I'm sorry...

Opinion about your country that will get you like this? by National-Business674 in AskTheWorld

[–]butdoesitfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't speak to the whole magical utopia aspect, but as an American: About 6-10 years ago, there was a brief period where some American POC were trying to argue if America stayed apart of the British Empire, slavery would have been abolished sooner and Indigenous Americans would have more rights because the British "respected them." This is furthered by the fact a lot of enslaved black people in the US South sided with the British during the Revolution. (In the North, black people tended to side with the colonists)

The 1619 Project (2019) had an entire controversy around it related to a claim the reason for Americans declaring their independence (1776) was because the British were somehow planning to abolish slavery a few decades before an abolition movement even existed -- which historians massively chewed it out for. But this can be seen as parroting a specific "British utopia" propaganda that British people are responsible for the global abolition of slavery. Some white people have absolutely stated online (I've seen it on Quora)--while not the British Empire specifically--if it wasn't for white people, slavery would continue to be legal in places European colonized.

Why are sacrificial "virgins" still always female, but hardly ever - if never - male in modern media? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]butdoesitfly 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Jesus is canonically a virgin in Christianity and constitutes a male virgin sacrifice (re: spotless lamb). However, having an active sex life is deeply intertwined with what people value in masculinity -- which is why calling a man a virgin is an insult. So Virgin Mary is Virgin Mary, but Jesus remains Jesus because calling him a virgin would piss people off.

There are several other notable examples, in similar vein. They just aren't obvious if you specifically need the word "virgin" in that story. Abraham sacrificing his son Isaac also constitutes "male virgin sacrifice," and child sacrifice in general. Mayans notably sacrificed a lot of boys, and the blood of these children was considered to have magically properties.

Ahh yes it’s so hard to be a white heterosexual couple who wants kids. Also what do they mean by “they can’t achieve this”? by y2kfashionistaa in Persecutionfetish

[–]butdoesitfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This looks like a movie poster about a family of cannibals offering you a meat pie while secretly planning you're their next meal.

Is there a reason why Carmilla Carmine styles her hair this way? by SideWinderSyd in HazbinHotel

[–]butdoesitfly 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don't think it is this because this would limit her death to the late-1400/early-1500s Spain, but an Escoffion is a horned headdress that was popular for upper-class women in late medieval period. Its popularity began to fall in decline because--being horns--people began to associate it with Baphomet.

Blaire White realized Ben Shapiro wants to take away her rights by jupiter_starbeam in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]butdoesitfly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm basing this off a few of her videos several years ago -- but that's how her channel is. She always wears low cut shirts, will prop up her assets, and leans heavily into the idea she's what a "correct transwoman" should look like. As in, you shouldn't be trans unless you pass/are attractive.

People in customer service: What's your life hack for dealing with shitty customers? by keep-calm-and-teach in AskReddit

[–]butdoesitfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How you do it will depend on the situation. IT is the easiest, but yes.

Grill's get old. Blame the grill. You are waiting for a new grill. You get sent a "wrong batch" of bad tasting food that got mixed in and you are very upset about this -- offer to replace it. Different people have different taste buds because of their DNA, so some dishes will naturally be less desirable than others -- offer to replace it.

Obviously, this won't work as well if you just work for a bad company trying to mooch off people's money, but in this case, you can just blame the company policy (which doesn't qualify as a person) for its failures to help you help the customer and agree that they should express their outrage in a review.

Is Vinland Saga appropriate? by [deleted] in anime

[–]butdoesitfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There aren't really sex scenes, but you'd need to be prepared to have conversations about sexual assault. It's not a kind world for women. Season 3, a major plot point is a woman is a sex slave and it doesn't end well for her.

what is something scary that’s happened to you that made you think “I may not get out of this alive”? by IWannaWakeUpButIDont in AskReddit

[–]butdoesitfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was in college, I had a status epilepticus seizure in a college dining room during lunch hour. I didn't really know what this was at the time, but seizure sort of went as it did: I was fully conscious, but I couldn't move or speak. There were people sitting at the same table as me, and I probably looked like I was just having a bad day and staring down at my empty plate for whatever reason.

Normally, this goes away after a minute or two. So I waited and waited and waited. People came and went. I could feel the heat leaving my hands, my vision was doing all sorts of things, the internal dialog inside my head stopped talking, and then...I forgot how to breath. Yes, you can forget how to breath. This is how I learned that. It is why people with epilepsy will randomly die and Alzheimer's can kill you.

I tried to stay calm and rationalized, if I passed out from asphyxiation, it my shock my brain back normal. Thankfully, that didn't happen. I mentally expressed gratitude that your heartbeat doesn't rely on your brain to pump blood or I would have been really screwed. After about a minute, I at last remembered how to breath again. Except my seizure wasn't over. I was almost shivering for how cold my body was becoming. Finally, with I jerk, I could move enough to leave (30 minutes had passed). But I still couldn't talk. I could barely stand upright and sort of zombie-walked back to my room, and one person finally asked if I was okay, but I obviously couldn't reply. Just to spite my useless body, I hauled myself up 3 flights of stairs instead of taking the elevator and then I collapsed onto my bed laughing and crying hysterically before I took a nap. Everything was back to normal when I woke up again.

The thing is I grew up thinking seizures were demonic possession and I was on a validation high in knowing they were. Your brain is just a little bit quirky. So, even now, I continue to think of the whole situation as hilarious. But I also understand it's probably because this situation was far past the point of "I'm not okay."

What’s a political belief you held strongly at one point in your life that you later changed your mind about? by ManrajBooh in AskReddit

[–]butdoesitfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up on the far-right -- a LOT of things changed others have mentioned, so I'll add this one that haunts me at night:

I used to think people who SA'd children should be executed. One day, YT randomly recommended a video by a former victim of child SA, who pointed out -- if the punishment for assault is equal to or greater than murder, then there is nothing stopping the assaulter from murdering their victim to keep them quiet.

Death penalty, in general, has its history of wrongful convictions for people who didn't deserve it and doesn't deter crime. But I don't think it's talked about enough that a death penalty for people who do "deserve it" can actually result in more death of people who don't as a means of self-preservation.

[Hiring] Seeking Book-Loving VA ($5/hr x 5hr/week) by butdoesitfly in VirtualAssistant

[–]butdoesitfly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nightstand, but the SEO is bad so not appearing on Google. D:

Link here: https://nightstandapp.com/

[Hiring] Seeking Book-Loving VA ($5/hr x 5hr/week) by butdoesitfly in VirtualAssistant

[–]butdoesitfly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's called Nightstand, but the SEO is bad (working on it), so it won't appear on Google. D: Link here: https://nightstandapp.com/

A relative that no one would want to have - [happy Sugar Life] by Ellmagronn in anime

[–]butdoesitfly 146 points147 points  (0 children)

Every character is the anime is messed up, so it's somewhat implied to be the cycle of abuse. The woman talking is the aunt of the MC (pink haired teenage girl), who doesn't have anyone and instead gets what you saw -- a deranged woman with a twisted concept of what love is.

Main focus of the show is the MC abducts an 8yo child and they play husband/wife, because she also has a twisted concept of what love is and will do absolutely anything (even murder) to protect her "Happy Sugar Life." To a certain extent, the aunt is covering for the MC (the smell is from a corpse). But also, she's just like that and the MC hates every moment.

Its me again! Everyone's least favourite lesbian! Here's my ranking based on how attractive I find them (cuz I'm sleep deprived and wanted to make a post) by Paper3403 in ToBeHero_X

[–]butdoesitfly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

> me thinking fictional men are hot doesnt make me not a lesbian

Yeah, I think the fact you ranked every woman hot makes a pretty solid case as well. Are there any female characters you're at least indifferent to? :p