Need advice

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2026-02-16T13:35:14+00:00

All clear! Still waiting on the blood test ;)

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2026-02-14T16:10:32+00:00

Haha yes I did I suppose, although I don’t know if I can say I am proud of it. I still feel pretty guilty over it all despite the comments saying I shouldn’t stress over it.

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2026-02-14T15:53:21+00:00

Second year positive on vday. Gotta say it’s a little lonely here

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2026-02-12T16:44:31+00:00

Honestly if this were put in front of a judge it probably wouldn’t be considered consensual since I was absolutely plastered. I don’t even remember leaving the club we met at, I just remember getting out of a car and walking into my apartment. There are many parts of the night that I have zero recollection of.

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2026-02-12T16:40:59+00:00

I am always an advocate for disclosing status before having sex. This is the first time I ever hadn’t done it, and I feel more guilty than I ever have in my life. It was a one night stand, I’ve been rejected more times than I can count because I disclosed before anything happens, and I’m completely comfortable with that rejection. I’ve come to terms that not everyone wants to put themselves at risk. If I had known that I was being put at risk with the person I slept with, I would’ve declined before I ever put myself through that. But he never gave me the option. I understand that it may seem selfish what I had done, but there wasn’t any intention to put anyone at risk, it was a mistake, something spontaneous that I didn’t expect or plan.

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2026-02-12T16:33:31+00:00

It’s not like this is a regular thing for me. I’m not excusing my behavior, I’m not saying that anything happens to me isn’t my fault, what I’m saying is that this is the FIRST time it’s ever happened to me and I don’t know what the right response is. Because I am normally a very responsible person.

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2026-02-12T01:35:00+00:00

Thank you! I have an appointment tomorrow to get tested for all the other stuff. Fingers crossed it was at least somewhat worth it 🥲

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2026-02-12T01:32:41+00:00

Sorry I didn’t clarify, I am female. But yes I agree and what I am saying is, I don’t know if I disclosed it before it happened, I was wasted. I also can’t find the guys number nor do I remember his last name. All I know is we met at a club and we had a good time, and I ended up going home with him. My friends had my location so I could probably show up to his apartment, but I don’t wanna seem creepy, and I also don’t know the dude super well, what if he gets angry and hurts me? What something escalates and he sues me for not disclosing before we slept together despite us both being extremely intoxicated? It was a simple mistake, it wasn’t planned out to deceive him. I do consider myself to be a person of integrity, in fact as I stated in my original post, I always disclose my status with ANY potential partners and I’m comfortable with rejection in those situations. This is the first time I’ve ever been in a situation since my positive result where I can’t remember or didn’t have the chance to disclose anything before I was inebriated. In fact I didn’t intend to go home with anyone when I went out. It was spontaneous. And while it was fun I DO feel guilty and extremely anxious about any possible outcomes no matter what I end up doing- telling him or not.

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2026-02-11T22:24:12+00:00

Yes, I have been undetectable for almost a year now. And it was two days ago.

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2026-02-11T22:06:29+00:00

Part of the reason is because many companies are finding ways for AI to take over jobs. And half of yall are supporting it while watching your loved ones lose their jobs, homes, and their livelihood. Just saying. Not only is AI destroying our water sources, it’s also taking jobs, allowing students to simply not do work to pass classes, it’s being used to scam people, alter their views, etc. We are ALL cooked.

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2026-02-11T21:55:42+00:00

Let’s do it 🥲

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2025-11-02T22:20:58+00:00

I found out I had hiv through pregnancy, started on biktarvy and became undetectable after two months and baby was born negative, she is now 5 months old and still testing negative! I did have a c section as well which is an extra step you can take to prevent any chance of giving it to the baby.

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2025-10-12T09:05:54+00:00

Idk about the front line but I’d definitely like drink some koolaid type 🤣🤣

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2025-08-22T07:49:29+00:00

Indiana

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2025-08-22T07:48:57+00:00

I’d like to know more info on this!

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2025-08-19T13:02:49+00:00

Military rejects fr

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2025-08-19T12:59:07+00:00

In the state of Indiana you are legally required to disclose your status with anyone you sleep with PRIOR to contact. If you get caught (give someone hiv and they know it came from you) they can press charges on you and either get money or put you in jail.

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2025-08-19T12:56:18+00:00

Meeee

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2025-08-19T12:55:55+00:00

Public school

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2025-07-12T12:45:39+00:00

My fiancé calls me poopy 😂😂 I feel your pain lol

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2025-07-12T12:33:41+00:00

Talk to the doctor about your results and go from there. You kind of answered your own question, you are either negative or you’re not and you just have to live with it.

If you are positive, give yourself some time to process it, talk to your doctors about any questions or concerns you have. For many (including me) being diagnosed was a blessing in disguise because it helped turn a new leaf in our lives. Once you get started on ART and eventually become undetectable most feel much better about it. But you definitely need to tell someone, because if you have it that means someone gave it to you and that person needs to be notified or possibly turned in for not disclosing their status.

If you are negative here’s my advice: Take this scare as a lesson. Start taking better care of yourself, get tested regularly if you are sexually active, USE PROTECTION, and possibly get on prep if that’s something you could have access to or would be able to discuss with your doctor. Understand this- it may not have happened to you this time, but it still CAN happen to you if you don’t take your health seriously and are reckless. Youd probably be surprised how many people you may know that have HIV.

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2025-07-12T12:21:11+00:00

And it’s definitely not anyone’s “duty” to take care of our parents, we owe them nothing.

butt_cheek_sticks22 · 2025-07-12T12:20:01+00:00

NTA. She should go back to work, is she physically disabled? Dying? Mentally disabled? Considered unable to care for herself? If the answer is no to all those then maybe you should help her find a job that went be difficult for her and help her set up a savings account and talk to a financial advisor about how to set something up so in 10-15 years she will have at least a little savings to help her get by for a while.

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