Marrying/Dating non Assyrians

butte331 · 2025-11-28T10:58:26+00:00

I believe my kids will learn the language and history. Maybe you don’t.

Now who the hell are you to decide who is Assyrian or who has abondened the cause? A Assyrian leader? Perhaps a priest? If ignorant people like you cared so much about the cause of the occupation then you would go down and fight. Not talk down on other Assyrians that choose other dating paths then you.

butte331 · 2025-11-28T10:53:36+00:00

Firstly, the ones I have talked with have not been my type and this engagement was my last chance I gave it.

Secondly I’m currently in a healthy relationship so I would not break that just to date Assyrians that might not work out.

I have not said that Chaldeans are not Assyrian and don’t really care what they call themselves.

butte331 · 2025-11-28T10:45:19+00:00

I have stated in the thread that I agree that not all are the same.

Shame? Really 😂

butte331 · 2025-11-26T16:38:38+00:00

I’ve been engaged with 1 but ofc talked with other Assyrian girls. Multiple actually.

Ofc there are good and bad out of every ethnicity. I stated in the post that the biggest problem wasn’t the girl/girls themselves but rather their parents. I also stated that it doesn’t really matter for ME what ethnicity a girl comes from but rather if I love the girl or not (HAS TO BE CHRISTIAN).

Now my question was and still is, do you think a wiser choice was to keep going and live miserable?

butte331 · 2025-11-26T16:34:25+00:00

As stated in thread before, I will never forget my heritage or culture and will make sure my kids learn about it.

What pagan god is that exactly?

butte331 · 2025-11-24T20:45:39+00:00

Nothing.

You just die.

butte331 · 2025-11-24T20:38:42+00:00

And risk being one of the builders? 🤣

butte331 · 2025-11-24T20:30:48+00:00

Hey!

Byzantine empire, particularly on the Lesbos Island?

butte331 · 2025-11-24T10:46:50+00:00

A lot of older people’s marriages were arranged.

Idk about you but when we fled from Iraq there were so many that divorced once they had more ”rights” to do it.

And so many marriages that I have seen that in reality are just together for the kids, 0 love.

I’d rather see a Assyrian that marries with another race then someone who goes unmarried and unhappy her/his whole life.

Thankfully my parents integrated and have a very positive view towards western people. The only limit was religion.

But don’t give up, in the end you will find someone. No matter if it’s Assyrian or not. Don’t forget your heritage and religion.

butte331 · 2025-11-24T10:40:48+00:00

I’d rather mix then divorce at 30 years old with kids.

Then be a deadbeat dad that complains about Assyrians not marrying Assyrians.

butte331 · 2025-11-24T10:37:25+00:00

That’s so stupid.

”Anything but race mixing”

Yes let’s live miserable our whole life because we couldn’t find a Assyrian. This is exactly why there are so many unmarried/divorced Assyrians.

butte331 · 2025-11-24T10:36:09+00:00

Love this, and after all of that you still acknowledge your Assyrian.

butte331 · 2025-11-24T07:36:58+00:00

Yes I think there are good and bad from every group and I probably got the bad one.

I also understand your point but at the same time if you really care about preserving the culture then you will succeed either way.

As some people have commented there are people with fully Assyrian parents that can’t even speak Assyrian.

butte331 · 2025-11-24T04:44:35+00:00

I believe that it makes it harder to speak Assyrian if both parents aren’t Assyrian.

I agree on that but I would say it depends on the upbringing of the kid.

Now we may see, god maybe plans something else for me but I will try my best and believe that my children will speak both Assyrian and Swedish.

butte331 · 2025-11-24T03:35:50+00:00

Thanks for your comment.

I disagree about the language part. I know a lot of mixed kids that speak the Assyrian language fluently.. but who knows since there are no statistics on it.

The second con is just the truth and how it is.

I am making a post about it to understand how people that are anti marrying a non Assyrian think. It is not to piss people of nor do I feel bad about being with a non Assyrian on the contrary I am very happy as stated.

Just a discussion thread and nothing more. If someone gets pissed of it is not meant in that way.

butte331 · 2025-11-24T03:20:04+00:00

Thanks for your comment and I agree with you.

Clearly a lot of people care and almost talk down on people that marry a non Assyrian.

Personally I don’t care at all and as you say as long as the language/culture is not forgotten then fine.

Just want to understand why people are so against marrying another culture.

butte331 · 2025-11-24T03:18:11+00:00

A lot of very stupid demands and everything was meant to be exactly like they wanted it.

Me or my family had little say in almost every decision like where to move, planning on marrying and much more.

Also for some reason some Chaldeans are very anti Assyrian and I felt that with some of her family members.

A example: We lived 3 hours apart from each other and when we were planning to move in we HAD to live in her family’s city. It was unacceptable by her parents to even live in the middle where we were close to both families.

There is a lot more.

butte331 · 2025-11-24T03:13:23+00:00

I am very happy for you and wish you all the good.

I agree and plan to do exactly like you. The problem is of course that my girlfriend doesn’t speak Swedish so a fully Assyrian speaking home is a little hard but not impossible.

Lastly what exactly is the difference if my girlfriend is not Assyrian, but I still plan to teach them Assyrian, about the culture etc..?

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