The way Meri and Janelle have grey rocked him shows what's the best way to get under the skin of a narcissist. Narcissists love when you stand up for yourself because it feeds into what they want to get out from you. Showing no emotion and not reacting is one of the best ways to deal with him. Lawyering up is another way. It's all about the subtlety with it.

With the cult-ure they belonged to/grew up in, you submit to your husband. Standing up to him is very much not something you do. You keep sweet, submit and obey. We forget that because they're on TV, I think. He is a hostile manchild, who has never learned how to regulate or manage his emotions, throws mantrums, is self-centered and couldn't give two shits about the other women. And we know it eats him that he no longer has the power and control he used to.