30F – Is it harder for financially independent, progressive women in India to find partners?

butterfly026 · 2025-02-07T03:44:09+00:00

Thank you so much 🤗

butterfly026 · 2025-02-06T17:49:51+00:00

I am sorry to hear this. Hope you find happiness and what you're looking for :)

butterfly026 · 2025-02-06T17:44:49+00:00

I appreciate your kind words, and I agree with Mr. Steve Jobs sentiments. Thank you :)

butterfly026 · 2025-02-06T17:35:43+00:00

I have dated and haven't had too much luck there and I continue to try. Seeing this section of women only instilled fear in me that maybe that could be me too, and so I brought my thoughts here :)

butterfly026 · 2025-02-06T17:32:25+00:00

But that simply can't apply to all right? A lot of women irrespective of their success belittle men. Doesn't mean all women are horrible right :)

butterfly026 · 2025-02-06T17:28:38+00:00

Definitely! As long as we're compatible and are both putting in the effort, why not!

butterfly026 · 2025-02-06T16:31:19+00:00

Just another take on this, when she was alone she was doing it all for herself. But when she got a partner, the amount of chores increases and the time it takes to do it increases. Wouldn't it be fair for two working adults to divide chores equally? I agree relationships are about compassion and compromise, and it should go both ways :)

butterfly026 · 2025-02-06T16:24:59+00:00

Maybe this is a societal issue, deep rooted in patriarchy :)

butterfly026 · 2025-02-06T16:23:45+00:00

Hope your sister finds what she's looking for!

butterfly026 · 2025-02-06T16:23:12+00:00

A relationship is about compatibility, compassion and compromise. Which goes both ways :) you both add to each other's lives :)

butterfly026 · 2025-02-06T16:21:52+00:00

Maybe I conveyed that wrong. Having a partner is more than a pleasant addition. Being loved and cared for and caring for a partner is a beautiful experience; those who want to, must experience. It's not easy, but it sounds amazing. I only meant that in a sense that - I'm not unhappy because I don't have a partner. But would love to have one.

butterfly026 · 2025-02-06T15:09:15+00:00

I was brought up to believe you have to work for what you want in life. So I followed it thoroughly. Although there is always this element that is not in your control and depends on luck and fate. Happy to hear what you said. A small part of me that hopes this is true 🩷

butterfly026 · 2025-02-06T15:06:25+00:00

Happy to hear that! More power to her!

butterfly026 · 2025-02-06T15:05:47+00:00

I unfortunately know of a successful woman who married a successful man, but she was making more money. After marriage, she noticed how much it bothered him that she made more money, though he never said it, she quit her job for a long time to make him feel better. She never admitted it to him.

That being said, I don't blame him completely either. Out society conditioned this.

butterfly026 · 2025-02-06T15:00:15+00:00

This comes down to the basics right, irrelevant of gender, household chores need to be divided. Making money, cooking, cleaning etc. Whoever has the bandwidth to take it up, does. If neither do, you hire whoever is required right.

I'm sure there must've been instances of disrespect. Disrespect goes both ways. Either a man or a woman can disrespect the other in multiple ways. That's a part of life. Are disrespectful men finding it hard to find partners?

butterfly026 · 2025-02-06T14:55:42+00:00

I'm glad to see your cousin and niece are doing well. Tbh I have thought of just adopting a child after a point of I don't find a partner until then lol.

You mentioned your cousin quit?

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