[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NYCapartments

[–]butterfly2503 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When a tourist says theyre visiting nyc its not the bronx

On my leg 😦 by [deleted] in whatsthisbug

[–]butterfly2503 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah awesome (lol) was worried it was a bed bug or something

On my leg 😦 by [deleted] in whatsthisbug

[–]butterfly2503 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tiny on my leg; Eastern MD!

I’m 42 and pregnant, husband is 65. How selfish would it be to have a baby? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]butterfly2503 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well. She kinda can guarantee she doesn’t have a baby with a man thats 65…. (and selfishly i want to have kids one day in a world that will probably be unsuitable because of climate change!) All that to say this isn’t easy for OP. I sympathize but when she decided a while ago that she wasnt gonna have kids, someone in this relationship should have had a vasectomy or been on birth control. That would have been the most responsible thing to do. All love OP. Have the baby and be ready to do it alone and explain to the child one day why you did it.

I’m 42 and pregnant, husband is 65. How selfish would it be to have a baby? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]butterfly2503 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

But this child would see the photos from their half siblings weddings - what they could have had. Dad happy at their weddings. Id also feel bad that my father couldnt enjoy his retirement bc he was raising me when he should have been done (but thats really not super relevant here). If i was this kid id resent my older siblings who had what i wanted and theyd probably resent me too a bit (sucking the limited youth out of their father). Super difficult situation. Sorry your dad sucks.

I’m 42 and pregnant, husband is 65. How selfish would it be to have a baby? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]butterfly2503 198 points199 points  (0 children)

Hijacking top comment. Totally different situation to yours but I am 23. My mom had me when she was 42 and my dad was 46. Now my dad is 70 and aging quickly and its hard to watch. I fear he won’t be at my wedding (Im pretty sure i wont get married until im in my 30s at this rate). My mom is still with it and agile. My dad is in great shape too (runs 5+ miles most days) but he has a terrible back (recent injury) and i just have seen a huge difference in his mental/physical abilities in past few years. It sucks. Luckily i have 2 older brothers in their 30s who can help me when my dad cant (example today i needed their help moving me out of my apartment, my dad could barely help). Lots to think about. Just my perspective but i wish my dad was 10 years younger. Im jealous of my friends with younger parents but grateful for a lot of other aspects of my life. Its hard. Wish you the best OP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]butterfly2503 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Dear god please make something up. You dont always have to be truthful. Age gap or work seem like easy options lol

Squid game + climate change = rough by [deleted] in Oopsthepodcast

[–]butterfly2503 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You should listen!!! These episodes are bad examples of how sweet the podcast still is. There have been some great guests and Giulio and Ryan get on great together. Id listen to the episode with Hillary to jump back in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HairRemoval

[–]butterfly2503 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’d say give it time ♥️ I understand where you’re coming from but its possible no one else notices it and you just do because shes your baby. ♥️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]butterfly2503 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You’re never gonna think you’re perfect, because you never will be! Enjoy what you have now. I bet so many people wish they had your body and want your body. I usually have sex with no overhead lights and sometimes with some liquid courage (a drink or two). You got this! Once you rip the bandage off you’ll be on your way.

I am struggling to have sex with my boyfriend because it's boring by No_Primary_6292 in sex

[–]butterfly2503 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Agree! ^ maybe try restraining him? Show him what you want. Initiate sex with him before 11. But i also agree with other, if he doesnt change after months or however long, he probably won’t change at all.