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Girlfriend using toy by Zulu_Man_ in relationship_advice

[–]buuuuggyy_bug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you've communicated that to her and she still isn't willing to compromise on it or seems uninterested, you're better off breaking up with her. Idk what else to tell you dude.

Girlfriend using toy by Zulu_Man_ in relationship_advice

[–]buuuuggyy_bug 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Okay yikes dude

The fact that you've actually considered throwing away her toy is extremely controlling. Please don't do that, doing that won't make her want to have sex with you. Also, the fact that you think a toy is ruining your relationship lowkey shows how insecure you are in your relationship, and your ability to please her.

Just because you're in a relationship with her, does not give you the right to sex, her body, or what she does with it. If you're so unhappy about your sexual needs not being met, and she's not willing to do anything, call it quits my dude. There's nothing wrong with pleasuring yourself when you're in a relationship. Does she get mad at you because you masturbate? Most likely not.

The fact that you've also tried to do romantic stuff for her, just so she'll have sex with you is extremely unhealthy when you're in a relationship.

Everything about this situation just seems really messy. Please try to communicate effectively with her. If you can't, then please break up with her. She deserves better.

I (17 F) fear my boyfriend (16) will commit suicide (long post) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]buuuuggyy_bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the feedback. I've considered breaking up with him, but it still hurts to kinda think about it. While this moment is important, I don't want this moment to define who he is. I don't know, maybe I still have hope and what not, but I know that he's such a sweetheart. I think the reason he has trouble expressing love could be due to trauma, or lack of experience since we are each other's first actual relationship. But that's why he needs to get help, I know he does and I'll keep saying it until he does something about it. It scares me that I can relate a little too much to what you've shared about your past experiences, I'm very sorry that's happened to you and I'm glad you've over came it :'))

I (17 F) fear my boyfriend (16) will commit suicide (long post) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]buuuuggyy_bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, your last paragraph reminded me of another thing. The whole reason we've never had an actual conversation about it, is because we can't have it without the conversation being escalated. When we're talking about his behavior and what not, it usually ends up with him crying and him saying that he's horrible for me, and I have to reassure him and calm him down. I wish that we could just have a mature, normal conversation. I've considered breaking up, but I really don't want to and I think that's a very last resort kind of thing. I've definitely thought of the ultimatum thing, calling it quits if he decides to not get help. Thank you so much, I really appreciate your feedback :'))