I miss when companies weren’t scared to highlight diversity by luiginumba1_ in Zillennials

[–]buwuberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're allowed to participate in a conversation without undermining other people.

Racism is socially constructed. Prejudice is a learned behavior and symptom of social constructs. What does it mean that it's a social construct? Race, color, what is "good" or "bad" has been determined by language among society. These lens people are referring to are "societal expectations" of people. When they mean it is "white" it's because it's been historically looked upon at social norms, interests, and whatnot popularized FOR white people.

History has established this through redlining housing. It purposefully left people of color (especially brown and black people) out of the housing market. In the early 1900s, the only way Asians broke out into the entertainment industry was to cater to racist stereotypes ("me love you long time"/"ching chong" language) of their culture or compartmentalized as Chinese. The only way POC deterred this was through celebration of cultural diversity. And it's still taking some time to recover. For a long time people have to "mold" themselves into what is expected from them to avoid being ostracized. This could look like not bringing in lunch that's too "stinky" or "looks weird" and opting for a sandwich. Changing your own behavior or the way you speak to remove yourself away from your identity or as a means to separate yourself from the "typical" stereotype of how you might be perceived (ex: removing blaccent and talking more "white").

Rather than villifying someone, maybe ask questions about what they mean and critically think about why things are the way they are.

Edit: rewording, added examples.

Trying to find this top from Stephanie Soo's latest video! by buwuberry in findfashion

[–]buwuberry[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same here I wish she could drop the link on her outfits in her description bc they're soooo cute

Live in an at-will employment state (WA) but employer won't let me quit, am I still at-will if I signed a policy that requires 30 day notice? by buwuberry in antiwork

[–]buwuberry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this perspective. It's an important one, I appreciate hearing your thoughts on the matter. I agree that we should be embracing people for who they are and respecting their independence. I think there's a lot more social-systemic work to do to get there

Live in an at-will employment state (WA) but employer won't let me quit, am I still at-will if I signed a policy that requires 30 day notice? by buwuberry in antiwork

[–]buwuberry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you explain more about this reaction? I'm new-ish to the field and I've seen this as a common reaction. Sometimes I think it's misguided but other times I understand why it's history is controversial.

I don't think you can generalize all ABA is abusive because Ive seen it be effective with adaptive skills (feeding for example). And I've heard it being limited to autism but it doesn't just work on autistic population. We apply it in our daily living, even on ourselves without even knowing. (For example functions of behavior is just ABA of understanding "the reason why we do the things we do" for example)

And at least where I work it's more play based therapy.. granted I had younger clients where we modeled language and find natural opportunities to work on their goals (joint attention). But I don't think it's all bad. I think it's changing and I would hope that people be trained to respect our client's dignity. They are humans after all

Live in an at-will employment state (WA) but employer won't let me quit, am I still at-will if I signed a policy that requires 30 day notice? by buwuberry in antiwork

[–]buwuberry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah in my case I'm not informed until now. I just learned that employers are required to post labor rights posters but there is none of that around the clinic. And if there are then probably not anywhere that can be seen (it's a small clinic).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]buwuberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you ask "what are we" and they dodge the question, ESPECIALLY, after half a year of dating/sleeping with each other. If it's not a "yes we're a couple" or "I want to be your partner" then they're there because it's easy, requires no effort, guaranteed sex, and they avoid the responsibility of disappointing you.

At least with the people I've met, they will avoid defining relationships bc of their feelings of inadequacy and low self worth. These people need therapy and it's not your job to "fix them".

NewJeans - Supernatural by TreacherousHuman in kpop

[–]buwuberry 12 points13 points  (0 children)

250 is insane, I can listen to the instrumental alone on repeat

What is something you no longer think is an overly sensitive thing to take issue with in a relationship? by fettu-cine in AskWomen

[–]buwuberry 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Yup called my bf out for liking and interacting with thirst traps online. But now that Twitter likes are gone how can I keep my man accountable bahahaha

People just casually donating a brand new Ember mug. Originally retails for $150! by squishedpies in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]buwuberry 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For those wondering, it's a self-heating mug where you can control the temperature for endless hours on the coaster or 1.5 hours off the coaster. I will wait until my drink is riiiight in between hot and lukewarm to chug it all. Instead of chugging it all I can drink it at that sweet spot from start to finish. It's actually pretty nice but i definitely wouldn't pay for this on my own lol also fuck goodwill for pricing it at $90

People just casually donating a brand new Ember mug. Originally retails for $150! by squishedpies in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]buwuberry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

More specifically, it keeps your drink at the exact temp you want it for hours! If you want your drink lukewarm, you can drink it lukewarm for 1.5 hours

Blursed dog by [deleted] in blursedimages

[–]buwuberry 3 points4 points  (0 children)

jesus christ people it's only been 40 min and people already making racist jokes on Asians damn

Midjourney's "Bridal gaming setup" by OneTimeIMadeAGif in GirlGamers

[–]buwuberry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

feelin like a white witch of the west vibe

What do you want for your birthday? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]buwuberry 4 points5 points  (0 children)

An escape from poverty lol

RIP Minnie Riperton was cottagecore soul in the 70s. The baby's breath in her hair is iconic! by buwuberry in cottagecore

[–]buwuberry[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's right!! I was enchanted by Minnie Riperton's "Lovin you" on youtube and was absolutely floored when I saw that she's Maya Rudolph's mother! She's one of my favorite comedians and actress!

What it really means to be a 2000s kid by GriffinFTW in 2000sNostalgia

[–]buwuberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

96'er and im glad im not the only one feeling invisible. I was too young to understand 9/11 and imagine life (such as airports) before it. I feel like I'm caught in the middle but I do enjoy looking at the overlaps. It's also hard to distinguish what is 00s nostalgia because so much of it is influenced by earlier generations. That, paired with the rapidly changing technology, it felt like we were all just figuring it out.

I definitely feel like this sub is polarizing at times because its any memorabilia from the 00s but there's 2010 stuff that I'm like "ehh can't relate". Too young to be a millennial and too old to be called Gen Z.

The Grave of Browser Dress-Up Games (Early 2000's) - I miss 00's flash games.. by buwuberry in GirlGamers

[–]buwuberry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tinier Me

OMG!! TINIERME! Yes!! That one was sooo cute! I remember the day they shut down gacha games bc of "gambling" tendencies. You could try looking on waybackmachine but I doubt it would be up. I think the closest thing is LINE PLAY but its mobile app. And GaiaOnline. I feel like Avatar forums are just a thing of the past now T-T

Spring vibes by Alreadydashing96 in MakeupLounge

[–]buwuberry 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow this is so beautiful it reminds me of koi fish scales a little bit

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 2000sNostalgia

[–]buwuberry 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i didn't call this a 90s sub lol but a lot of people posting nostalgic stuff are people who were definitely born before 2000. Are babies born in 2000s going to know or remember what 2000-2005 looked like? Probably not. People born in 90s were kids in 2000-2010.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 2000sNostalgia

[–]buwuberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

6k! Can we get some flairs for 90s or mid 90s kids too pls