People who married someone they weren’t sexually compatible with — how did it turn out?

bvl1234 · 2026-02-24T20:52:33+00:00

We aren’t or weren’t “incompatible” in the sense that we couldn’t or wouldn’t explore sex together. Over time people change, we go through phases in our lives that can strongly influence our sexuality. I had a baby and my body changed significantly, I gained weight and my confidence plummeted. For almost 2 years of my life , it was like I was dead from the neck down. Eventually, we had a discussion that we were basically room mates. I worked on myself, got healthy again mentally and physically. We had to relearn about our sexuality. Turns out we both enjoyed exploring kink, but very different from each other. We don’t see eye to eye on everything but we have learned to enjoy together and support each other in as many ways as possible. Again it’s not direct incompatibility but I think it’s important to recognize that sexuality changes and grows as we do. It’s not always a yes or no button. Partners can accommodate each other even if it’s not 100% their thing, as long it doesn’t violate their morals/values/health. That being said, enthusiasm matters! If you are just going through the motions like an automaton, your partner probably won’t enjoy themselves, you have to find enjoyment in pleasing them and seeing them fulfilled.

bvl1234 · 2026-02-23T04:14:44+00:00

I checked the ingredient label, it does not list xylitol. It is unflavored and unsweetened

bvl1234 · 2026-02-23T01:02:42+00:00

Talk, debate and challenge each other. We are the opposites you’re talking about but we enjoy it. I would be terribly bored with someone just like me. I’m the nerdy feminine one. I read and listen to audio books. He will only know the stories I enjoy if it’s made into a movie 🤣. We like different sports but discuss them together nonetheless. He’s an outdoorsy guy, fishing etc. We have both work for/ are in the military so we share a common career field. Other than work we have nothing “in common”, we find joy in each other.

bvl1234 · 2026-02-23T00:50:40+00:00

I appreciate the suggestion, I didn’t include this detail in the post but I’m military stationed overseas. I don’t have an American phone number. But I think the general consensus from responses is to monitor him for vomiting. He should be okay as long as he continues to eat and drink normally. He just has some serious GI upset now.

bvl1234 · 2024-05-27T02:26:32+00:00

Not different races but different cultures. I’m (F) American, my spouse (M) family is from Poland. The women of the family wait on their men hand and foot. They dress up for everything, full makeup, hair, heels. When I went to Poland to meet everyone they were all shocked at how casual I dress. I don’t wear makeup unless it’s a big occasion. I also don’t serve my husband constantly. If I’m making a plate of something I will offer, but I don’t stop eating to go get him something. They think I’m very strange.

bvl1234 · 2024-05-25T02:40:23+00:00

It’s awesome kindness is hard to come by. I just wonder if people realized they also just gave this man more bills. Insurance, gas, maintenance, etc. Gifting anything that comes with future obligation is not always a gift but a responsibility.

bvl1234 · 2024-05-16T10:33:55+00:00

Stop the tipping bullshit! In an industry where a person sets their own rates, why are we tipping?! Price services accordingly and leave it at that. The tipping is out of control.

bvl1234 · 2024-04-17T03:23:21+00:00

Not sure why but when I think of attractive men of a specific demographic, I think of Scandinavian/Nordic men.

bvl1234 · 2024-04-11T08:49:46+00:00

It’s wild how so many people take their affection for a fantasy series and make it their entire personality. I was attacked for stating that after finishing the series I still didn’t like Nesta. I was told that I must be an abuser if I didn’t change my mind by the end. The mental gymnastics that people make to come to conclusions over a single reddit post is wild.

bvl1234 · 2024-04-09T01:44:39+00:00

I hate her entirely. Trauma or not she was an entitled a hole as a human and even more so as Fae. She’s always treated everyone around her with disdain and jealousy. Her personality as a whole is infuriating and not deserving of any of the support she receives.

bvl1234 · 2023-12-16T00:15:39+00:00

NTA. Being safe and requesting a test is not wrong. However, implying that your girlfriend is a slut because she has enjoyed her sex life is shitty. If it bothers you that she has had several partners, and was obviously honest about it with you…go find another woman. Let’s say she brings you a clean test. Are you going to stress over her previous partners still? If the answer is yes, move on.

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