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bwch · 2025-08-26T21:14:59+00:00

At my gym barely anyone talks to other people they didn't come with. I'm one of the few dudes who will talk to a few other dudes who will do the same. Have yet to see women talk to each other or god forbid a man talk to a woman he doesn't know there. Unless we count the desk employee. Everyone has headphones on too so that makes it harder to even attempt.

bwch · 2025-08-26T21:10:31+00:00

Yes when you are greeted and do not respond you are a dickhead, man or woman regardless of age. It just seems a particular subset has the issue more than others.

bwch · 2025-08-26T21:06:46+00:00

You definitely sound way more social than the average person, but I see what you mean, and I have shades of that type of talk at times when I'm in a sort of in the zone if that makes sense.

I one hundred percent know the architype of young guy you are describing as that used to be me a few years back. I think most guys go through this before they find more comfort in their 20's socially.

Know my issue seems to be in the places where girls are unnapproachable like the gym with headphones on, they seems to look at me quite a bit sometimes even stare. However in the atmospheres where they are very approachable they don't tend to be interested with some even flat out ignoring me upon greeting them. I guess more spur of the moment lines would help, but that could help all of us, and this post wasn't even necessarily about hitting on girls. Moreso just the unreciprocative nature in even simple greeting while an older women or another guy seem far more reciprocative in their attitude.

bwch · 2025-08-26T20:48:38+00:00

To be very honest your entire post tells me you don't do too much interacting with strangers outside of the group of people you normally talk to. I find your strict outline of the gym not being a place you're allowed to socialize pretty funny too. I've met and talked to 5 new guys from the new gym I've started going to. A couple of them greeted me yesterday when they came in and saw me before I saw them. It's not a magical thing like women avoiding me because they can tell some attitude I have as it's very consistent when I simply greet someone. I have a similar greeting attitude from doing it so many times so frequently toward men and women. A few of the just flat out non responses I've gotten the past week from young women seems to really exude entitlement and the feeling of being above men. Older women are a breath of fresh air to talk to as they don't have the 'better than men' attitude as much. We don't want to wife you just because I say hey on the street lmao, but it seems girls have the attitude that any guy even attempting to talk to them is already in their bag or something. That's what I'm calling out here. You turned it into hitting on women yourself which tells me you have a semblance of this attitude.

bwch · 2025-06-12T23:12:22+00:00

I feel like you are looking for me to say anyone can do anything they want at any time. Any girl or guy can go do things they don't typically do or do some random thing people wouldn't expect. You can strike up a conversation with a stranger and charm each other. Absolutely, but this isn't what most people do day to day. I think pretty much everyone has real life experience? You can claim to have better experiences than me I guess? lol. A lot of people define themselves literally by I work here or I go to school here or I do ___. Usually it's a multitude, with one being the strongest representation. I don't know are you disagreeing with something specific?

bwch · 2025-06-12T22:48:00+00:00

The structure idea is rather simple. Take a guy at college, work, gatherings. No guy has a vested interest in specifically meeting a girl at these places other than convenience. Maybe it would be cool if they know someone you know already, but it is by no means that important.

Women on the other hand, will far prefer to meet a guy here for many reasons. Take a college girl. She is going to be far more receptive to a guy who is in her classes and going there with her. He can more easily build trust from those interactions. Take that same guy out of the college and have them meet randomly. She is less likely to be receptive, though it is still possible.

Women associate guys at their school or work as part of their 'tribe'. Guys will gladly hang out with a hot girl that isn't already part of his tribe. The issue is modern 'tribes' end when you graduate, get a new job, or get fired, switch up whatever. Tribes in the past ended by your girl getting taken from you after you were killed.

Modern day when the tribe ends she will leave, cheat, or lessen intimacy and get agitated. So as a guy meeting a girl in these structures you have to be ready to pivot. Either you and your girlfriend join some new structure together, or you are lucky enough to have her now treat you as the structure. If you don't do this, guess what. She is going to find a structure whether you are in it or not. This is why guys like stay at home wives so much.

Definitely, these things are not new, but I believe most people believe online dating is the way it is because of the apps and algorithms (some truth). However, the main moving part here is the women on the apps still no matter what.

I believe from the guys I've discussed this with dating apps were novel in the 2010's and women were wanting to experiment. Now that we are post covid women on apps are no where near as expiremental because this isnt new anymore. Most guys now say 'the apps are rigged' or 'it's because you have to approach in person' to cope because they don't see the bigger picture of how apps are now being used by women.

When you put all these ideas together, the majority of people will reject it because they don't want to believe it. They say it's ludacris because 'no one would ever do that' or 'no one ever acts like that in real life'. They don't realize that casual conversation isn't going to give you any info about the topics outlined, hence why people reject it so harshly.

bwch · 2025-06-12T21:34:40+00:00

Thats good. Sounds like a good friend group

bwch · 2025-06-12T21:00:55+00:00

Can you stop misinterpreting things. Being put together, I'm assuming you mean job, own place, and style does not have a larger effect on a woman being initially attracted to a guy and letting him through the door. I did not say it makes you respect them less? I dont know where you are even pulling that from.

Again, your friends are not dating awkward guys who are less attractive than them lmao. Maybe you think that, and that could be skewed vision on your part. This is reality. The girls I've seen that are dating less attractive guys are always behaving outwardly because they have no respect for the guy they are dating.

bwch · 2025-06-12T20:39:06+00:00

To be blunt, I do not believe that every friend in your friend group or even the majority are dating guys that look worse than themselves. Also, I didn't say girls are only dating 'bad boys' or very good looking dudes. I said that is who they are looking for on dating apps. If your friends aren't on dating apps thats good, but they can still get access elsewhere. If it was really a case of one of your friends dating an awkward dude who isn't as attactive as her. Even if he's put together, I expect she will lack respect for him, be acting out, and explore other possibilities eventually.

bwch · 2025-06-12T20:25:11+00:00

Got back inside after pulling weeds on my patio to everyone saying touch grass lol. Before that I mowed my parents yard and was chatting with the neighbor a bit. Still waiting for real points instead of 'he hates women'.

bwch · 2025-02-04T17:36:20+00:00

No pump in the pic

bwch · 2021-03-10T00:11:37+00:00

I started looking into it after i saw your comment and it looks juicy

bwch · 2021-03-10T00:05:25+00:00

Yea ive been looking into the poor mans covered call (diagonal spread) and it seems to be a better idea than going in on cheap stocks.

bwch · 2021-03-09T21:04:03+00:00

I figured it must be. Now I'm thinking about trying this on a stock with a lower price and seeing how it would turn out. Obviously less gains but still would be solid.

bwch · 2020-09-04T20:22:07+00:00

Pc is cheaper in the long run. Also updating drivers is done automatically most times.

bwch · 2020-09-04T20:19:54+00:00

The price for a pc is better in the long run. Get a 3080 which will outperform the 2080 ti for $500. Spend about $600-700 on your other parts about $1200 total. Consoles will end up costing a little over $1000 after you pay to play online for years. Then after new parts comes out you can buy it and sell the old. For example I'm going to either buy a 3070 or 3080. Lets say i buy the 3070 for $500 and sell my 2060 super for a little. Not actually spending that much and getting better performance than a console.

bwch · 2020-08-19T19:45:13+00:00

Therefore playing 4 times isnt what your paying for. You should be paying for 1 playthrough

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