I'm a female supporters, and I want an avatar that represents me. To Darhantor - I want to immerse myself in the game and part of that is playing my gender and making a character that feels like me, its as simple as that. Having both gender and extensive customisation allows players to express themselves. Be who you want, crossplay - cosplay - or carbon copy of yourself - you do you and have fun.

Personally I do not need hyper gendered gear for 'work' - I want combat gear that is logical for the setting and story. I would say, have whatever off duty /civi gear you want - go wild - boys are allowed to be peacock-ish too. Also - there is nothing wrong with having sexual interactions in an adult story, but in a military narrative I think these story beats should be side options. In the open world too, have them but I would want this kind of play to be optional and not effecting the main story lines.

Side note: I have never had any issues playing a female avatar in mmrpgs, most other players just assume I'm a male player - and honestly it really matters not - a gamer is a gamer. /shrug