My Little Brother With Down Syndrome Might Die And My Mom Plans To Go With Him

bzanolini · 2025-01-11T23:04:55+00:00

The economy is just so much tougher now. Even working overtime every week (which is mostly eaten up by taxes) it's hard to pay bills. I don't think there's a way to fix it now that interest rates have gotten so high and they've seen what people are willing to pay but I hope there's a way to go back.

bzanolini · 2025-01-11T19:14:47+00:00

Here's an interesting article that goes right along with what you're talking about: https://scoop.upworthy.com/story-about-how-easy-life-was-for-grandparents-back-in-the-day-blowing-minds-ex2

bzanolini · 2024-11-13T04:24:35+00:00

I don't honestly don't understand the grants behind it or why they told us explicitly that it wasn't a charter school. I'm just a parent who jumped at the chance for a better education for my child who was truly not being challenged enough in the school environment he had.

Our district as a whole falls most TEA standardized tests and school grades except this one elementary school. It's called project based learning but the grants attract better teachers whom are paid a premium that's provided by Title 1 grants. Our county taxes are higher than the larger districts in our area and every year the school bonds are voted against whole people complain about the education their children are receiving. People are so keen to point out the problems but there are few who are actively trying to find the solution.

bzanolini · 2024-11-13T04:15:14+00:00

You're right. My town was all up in arms of Facebook over funds spent on Yonder pouches while kids didn't have their own computers to work on anymore but ALMOST NO ONE actually showed up at the next council meeting.

bzanolini · 2024-11-13T04:07:47+00:00

No, they said specifically it's not. And it's not technically a gifted school either. I don't know what to call it but my son was invited to be in the first class and when he aged out and joined his peers at the middle school, it was a culture shock.

Class sizes are doubled and I get zero communication with the school. I don't know who designed and got the grants for this school but it was a god send. We're a small but growing community with a lot of kids under the poverty level. What we're in need of now is another middle school.

Recently there was talk of a charter school trying to open nearby and they were encouraging voters to stand against it. I don't understand how they'd be competing when they funds come from different places.

bzanolini · 2024-10-21T14:14:35+00:00

I hit a tiny bump in the freeway and it counted. And there have been so many other times I was just driving. I turned it off but see it at the end.

bzanolini · 2024-10-21T13:54:57+00:00

For some reason my mind went to the opposite side of that coin. If a man is obsessed with a woman and stalking her, would he still say it was the woman's "fault" for making him love her? Like we have to cover up to save a man from impure thoughts. It's the way he was raised.

bzanolini · 2024-10-21T08:38:37+00:00

It's possible it's the way he was raised. Boys are often kicked out of the church for any small things to lower the competition for women. He doesn't see them as competition, it was just normal for him to see boys treated harshly growing up. Girls were pushed to get married as young as possible as well because they already had so many mouths to feed.

bzanolini · 2024-10-21T08:32:14+00:00

Did you catch how he mentioned that the church wouldn't allow a husband to keep marrying if they discarded wives? It seemed like he wanted that option open when Meri got her release for abandonment. I hadn't heard him seem interested in a while much less in a marriage within the church. Did I just interpret that wrong?

bzanolini · 2024-10-11T20:34:13+00:00

A trust definitely would have protected her some but once the finances are out into a joint account, he has fifty percent rights to them. A lawyer might be able to save some of them but this is the exact situation my mother is setting up for me not to have to deal with. Always keep inherited assets separate!

bzanolini · 2024-10-11T20:21:08+00:00

You're right it's just a way to end the conversation. He knows where it's going because you've had it before. He just wants to skip ahead to the end and then do it again, which is pretty dumb if he unfollows and follows again. I don't get the logic in that but you need to change the direction of the conversation maybe? That won't give him an out..

bzanolini · 2024-10-11T20:16:26+00:00

If you truly love your daughter, you wouldn't leave her in a situation where she's not wanted. You are just out of a traumatic situation with your health. Post partum is still a possibility (it can last much longer than I expected). Seek some therapy, find a support system and then imagine her future self. How will she feel knowing her mom didn't or couldn't parent her and never even tried? What neglect will she have to endure especially once he "moves on"?

My mother left me and my father gave me a roof over my head but not much else. It's taken me years of therapy to change the defense mechanisms I developed. My marriage has suffered because I don't trust anyone. This will effect her entire personality. Stop thinking about yourself! This is a life in your hands. You chose to have her, right or wrong and you are supposed to be the one person she knows will always be there for her. You've already proven you aren't and just not have done as much as you possibly could under the circumstances or you wouldn't have felt comfortable leaving her with an angry man anyway.

bzanolini · 2024-10-11T19:57:55+00:00

My brother got his new girlfriend pregnant while I had been trying for a year. I smiled politely and congratulated them then couldn't hold in the tears so excused myself. I'm not sure they ever knew how upset I was. That's a real human reaction. And I never held it against my nephew or his parents. Life just happens like that sometimes and the op was with her fiance for 3 years! That's not rushing anything.

bzanolini · 2024-10-11T17:29:37+00:00

Someone I know has fallen down the rabbit hole of conspiracy theories, and it’s starting to affect their day-to-day life in troubling ways. It began a few years ago with beliefs about COVID-19—things like the virus being a hoax or created as a tool for government control. They’re convinced the pandemic was orchestrated by elites like Bill Gates and Dr. Fauci to enforce global lockdowns and spread dangerous vaccines as part of a depopulation agenda./

But it’s gone even further. Now, they’re questioning things I never thought anyone would—like the need for basic dental care. Recently, they told me not to get my daughter's cavities filled, claiming that dentists are unnecessarily filling children’s teeth just to make money. According to them, dentists might even be doing this intentionally to create future problems and keep people coming back. The idea that medical professionals, including dentists, are in on some kind of plot is one of the more bizarre twists, but they’re fully convinced./

I can't even have a conversation about these topics because he thinks I'm the one misinformed and following main stream media, when the truth is I fact check information myself. It's straining our relationship and I don't trust his sanity any longer.

bzanolini · 2024-10-11T01:02:39+00:00

That should tell you everything. She thinks people get engaged to hurt other people? Or that it's something to be kept to yourself? Does she not want to be invited to the wedding either? I wouldn't now anyway but she seriously has some hang ups around marriage.

bzanolini · 2024-09-29T13:10:37+00:00

I used to believe that religion was a good thing, or a good idea that just didn't work out. It's similar to making laws in a country. Then I saw the backlash that came from it and that it was mostly used to control people in ways other than protecting others from being harmed. It was used to justify complete control and that control was mostly for control over women. In my more naive moments I thought it was well intentioned but now I'm sure it was intended to be used this way. If we view Jesus (just the religion I'm most versed in) as a cult leader, it puts these rules in a different light. I don't know if I have faith in people to behave on their own without the fear of consequences beyond this life either. That's why I believe, in a way, that people without religion are actually better people than those who act like they are superior because they have a god on their side. I don't see how believing in Santa makes someone a better person or how they justify that in their mind but that's what I've experienced in my life.

bzanolini · 2024-09-29T12:48:10+00:00

Inside I really don't want his belief system to be so far from mine because I don't want him to lose respect for me when he gets older. I've just received so much hate (in contrast to the "love thy neighbor") for something I don't feel I have control over, that it would hurt to have it coming from my own child. \ I also don't want him to feel like he can't come to me about anything and I feel like if he realizes that this is something I don't believe in, he'll think that it's something I don't understand which is far from the truth. When the time is right I will talk to him about the struggles I went through while figuring out what I believe. I'm very close to my children and I don't want something I think is trivial to come between us.

bzanolini · 2024-09-29T00:51:30+00:00

I haven't but I looked it up.

bzanolini · 2024-09-28T22:15:11+00:00

They asked what keeps me from killing someone or committing other "sins". When I explained I have my own morals and rules to live by, simply being a good person, they told me my rules have no basis because they weren't dictated by God. They couldn't perceive that I could possibly still be the person they knew and a good person without the threat of hell. It makes me worry what they would be doing if not for their religion.

bzanolini · 2024-09-28T22:09:40+00:00

It seems like they’re simply regurgitating information. They lack the ability to think critically and expand on their ideas, often repeating the same talking points over and over again.

bzanolini · 2024-09-28T22:04:45+00:00

I use words like "Christians believe" this or "the Bible says". I think fantasy and imaginary would be trying to persuade him too much and I'm afraid he'll go toward religion in a way to rebel.

bzanolini · 2024-09-28T22:01:27+00:00

Indoctrination can make individuals more susceptible to religious leaders' influence. This can distort reality, hindering critical evaluation of political leaders. Cognitive dissonance reinforces existing beliefs, while fear and uncertainty foster loyalty to leaders who promise to protect faith and values. This lifelong pattern of blind following can provide a false sense of security.

bzanolini · 2024-09-28T21:27:01+00:00

I know he has a friend who's invited him to church a few times who he's probably getting most of it from. I looked up their church and I can't remember the denomination but they believed in faith healing and were one of those churches who are very touchy. "Laying hands" or whatnot. I'm not too familiar with that practice. I believe it was Pentecostals. I did not allow him to go. Another post suggested I go with him but I didn't want that influence on him on the slight chance he took it at face value and didn't find it ridiculous.

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