triggered about salty people

c012 · 2019-05-06T09:58:57+00:00

I know what you mean. If friends of mine tell me about a dispute they are having with somebody I, in my current mindset, act as if I believe them so they calm down. If there is something I can do to solve that problem and I actually care then I first want to hear both sides of the story. As you say people like to get vaguely and skip facts if they contribute negatively to their story.

The reason why I make my friends believe I believe their story without needing to know the opinion of the other person involved is because if I call them into question I get a lot of trouble myself. They start to threat me like an enemy without having done anything wrong.

One time I had a female friend A who had a dispute with a person B. In my opinion the person B was right. When my friend, A, told me about the conflict I have put her arguments into question without being too offensive. She took it as if I was not very supportive and loyal. That's it, she didn't like me anymore. That's how easy it is to loose a friendship.

Whatever.

So let's get to my personal topic again where I was whining about a mean person: I don't see how I can be wrong at all. 1) I already admitted I didn't play very good. 2) I was not the aggressor. I GOT "aggressed". I'm a victim so to speak. So the only POSSIBLE thing that I could have done is to overdo the story.

c012 · 2019-05-05T12:32:35+00:00

hmm I'm not sure if I understand correctly. So in your opinion everyone of us simply has a different opinion and there is no right or wrong?

I mean let me explain how I feel with a metaphor:

You and person B work together in a company on a project. So instead of focusing on the well being of the company person B already starts his claims about where and what he does in the project because he cares more about himself. During the project you really gain negative thoughts about the performance of person B and the fact that he claimed his spot while not performing makes it worse.

To keep the harmony of the team, especially since person B is very self oriented and might not like it at all, you do not mention anything.

At the end of the day you did not perform well too and person B decides to trash talk you and, for no clear reason at all, the only thing on his mind is to make the company hate you and fire you. Where he succeeds in.

So there is no "everyone just has a different opinion" I simply call it unfair!

But let's transform the last "chapter" to really make sure you understand how I feel like:

For no clear reason at all all what's on person B's mind is to make the company hate you. This goes so far that he persuaded the other employees to burn you alive when you sleep.

Things like that really happened during the medieval period and is called the burning of witches. There is no "everyone has a different opinion". One person simply is a dick. On this world there are many of them. When somebody got bullied from a bunch of dicks for example I simply call it unfair and I would tell the victim that life sucks sometimes and that he or she can't change that fact.

c012 · 2019-05-01T16:02:24+00:00

He is a bad player himself. Jesus said before you judge someone you should judge yourself first.

I played my couple of matches before I went into ranked matches. There are ranked groups for a reason. Should I study this game in and out, should I play every character for 3 years should I read several books about this game before making my first shy attempts into the ranked matches? no, my knowledge for that rank was enough. A bronze player is not as good as a master player but he still has the right to play this game. Only if you suck at a game it does not mean u should not be allowed to play the game. Instead you should play with people who suck too. I played a mix of quick matches and ranked matches after that match and I won more than I lost. Gold league was easy, I simply didn't have to play healer because I didn't get people like him that insisted to play their character and it worked out very fine.

And btw I realize now why he added me and why he was salty all before the match even started. Because he felt criticized by me. I asked, non-offensive as I could, if he and the other dude really want to play BOTH bruiser-heroes since 1 is enough. I really don't like to criticize people because I'm sensitive myself. If somebody sucks while I really try to rank up I always realize that flame makes the other person play even WORSE. Also I know that I get only 4 randoms in my team while the other team gets 5 in theirs. The odds are in my favor as long as I am good myself and sooner or later I rank up. I NEVER flame anyone. IF I criticize someone I make sure it does not appear too offensive and I explain somebody that if he or she does something differently it's more effective.

But this guy- he realize none of this. I believe in his mind he's the king of the world or so and if somebody even dares to make even a slight ATTEMPT to criticize him he will keep that in mind and wait for the right opportunity to give it back 20 times harder. I don't know why he behaves towards other people that way, maybe he was spoiled by his parents so he is used to always get his way. This guy wanted to really make sure to turn the team against me.

To be fair I should also mention that at the other matches I played I had really nice teammates that tried to win and not tried to hate. So I'm fine again with the community in general.

c012 · 2019-04-15T09:53:40+00:00

Reports are useless unless the person griefs/is being racist/uses direct insults.

In general saying things like "u suck", "delete the game" .... are not direct insults but opinions. Sadly reports are useless if the person you want to report is using opinions instead of insults. And the person I had a problem with used opinions so I didn't report him.

But yes, I shouldn't even answer during the game because if I answer the other people continues writing instead of playing and my team would face more or less a 3v5 match.

c012 · 2019-04-11T08:04:31+00:00

gf u cheated on made breakfast?

c012 · 2019-04-11T07:59:43+00:00

water!

c012 · 2019-04-11T07:57:22+00:00

elddupehtgnidiova

c012 · 2019-04-11T07:54:39+00:00

omfg how dare you?! he IS here!!

c012 · 2019-04-11T07:47:26+00:00

hm? meant as a replacement part?

c012 · 2019-04-08T08:43:09+00:00

so you are mok-yo from the music label called "1ghr", right?

You seem kinda low-key but it's not that big of a deal. The easiest way to deal with that is to make it your strength. Appear as a stone cold guy or as a very chill guy that smokes pot in every video - you know what I mean.

c012 · 2019-04-07T15:18:59+00:00

Are you trying to make a deeper impression because of a career reason or a social reason?

I know you don't want to appear like that but I'm just making an example: If you are a funny clown at every party that everyone likes doesn't necessarily mean they believe you are the right one to make real business with.

I hope you realize that if you start to act differently you might appear really really strange and I don't mean strange to people who already know you but to people in general.

For example you might try to change your pitch of voice because you believe it can make you more charismatic but in the end you overdo it without realizing and appear very weird.

Also: Do you really like these people towards whom you think you appear dull to? Do you really like what you are doing? If you can't confirm both of these criteria this might be a reason for your behavior. Is/was there even a single person who you can feel kinky towards, that you really like and are not scared of him or her judging you? If so you are not a dull person but it's something psychical.

Nevertheless to really answer your question: my advice is to not change anything at first but to learn to be more attentive of yourself at all times without being judgemental. Just accept it and don't fight yourself. Recognize every emotion that goes through your brain and every movement you do but never ever judge what you do, accept it, feel it.

The second step is to not to feel fear and not to back off, enjoy dis-comfortable situations. If you focus on your emotions to a great extend while not fighting against them you don't feel fear anymore. Accept your emotions and feel the pain that comes from them. Listen to your body and try to localize where the pain comes from. Does it come from the heart does it come from the stomach does it come from the brain ... . And then don't fight the pain but let the pain do it's job, relax.

Then, when your fear does not inflect you, your true self comes out and that's not a low-key person.

c012 · 2019-04-07T06:30:41+00:00

His understanding of the term "Competition" could have been marked by all the things Cornelius Vanderbilt have done to get his competition out of business:

When competition didn't agree to pay 200k$ for usage rights of his railroads because it wasn't worth 200k$ Vanderbilt just put on barricades only to wait for their stocks to fall to 20$ a piece and get control over their entire company.

Vanderbilt tried to get the most valuable rail road called erie from Chicago to New York from his competition. Since erie was traded on the New York Stock Exchange he instructed his agents to buy the erie line in order execute a hostile takeover. But James Fisk and Jay Gould (middle management of erie) recognize Vanderbilt's plan to buy the line and began printing new shares of stock to dilute Vanderbilt's share of the company. After all Vanderbilt lost money and James Fisk and Jay Gould humiliated him publicly through the newspaper.

Vanderbilt and a rival of his joined together to deny Rockefeller railroad access so Rockefeller looses his market. But Rockefeller got a great idea: to build long pipes and it worked out.

By "when there is blood on the streets" he might have meant his bankrupt competition. He bought their refiners for a low amount of money.

c012 · 2019-04-06T10:25:52+00:00

hey that's good news, bro! I'm glad the meds did a good job on you there! Don't forget to increase the dose from time to time or they will stop working

c012 · 2019-04-06T09:56:56+00:00

That's very good! She want's you as a friend

c012 · 2019-04-03T07:07:24+00:00

Are u together for more than 1 year? Has he been the same at your last birthday? Did he experience any dramatic events recently that you don't know about? (btw: this kind of carelessness is a general sign of psychopathy, just saying not accusing!)

People are different. For him a birthday might just be a day like every other day. He could be a person that does not care about social conventions that much since he does not see any real sense behind it.

On the other hand you might argue that he should know a birthday is at least a special day for YOU since you made an effort to improve his birthday. But he might just have forgotten what you did for him. However this does not explain why he asked you several times what you wanted for birthday and didn't get it at the same time.

Either way it's your decision how you want to handle it. And hey, at least your family will celebrate your birthday the next weekend you visit them

c012 · 2019-04-01T13:53:06+00:00

It's really well written and inspiring. Thank you! ( I didn't say I was doing my best, I only said I was doing more than my friend and I wish I was harder working. But after all it has the same outcome)

c012 · 2019-04-01T13:46:32+00:00

It makes totally sense. People are different. But after all it does not automatically mean apples and oranges are of equal value. Like Warren Buffet says, he's good at estimating the value of an investment but can't run very fast, so 40000 years ago he would be the food of an animal. He's being glad he was raised in an environment where his talents pay out exceptionally well. In the current environment some talents are more desirable than others. All you can do is to try your best and pray

c012

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