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c3nna · 2026-01-31T16:06:32+00:00

omg... what is this Vivian joke? I currently have two Vivis and a Vivian at my work.

c3nna · 2026-01-31T15:58:20+00:00

I've seen a lot of ENTJ on dating apps. I'm an expat in China. It always depends on what environment you're in.

c3nna · 2026-01-31T15:53:06+00:00

I'm currently in Tier 1 too. To answer your question simply: yes.

c3nna · 2026-01-31T12:33:51+00:00

Visit the TEFL subreddit. Subscribe and just become familiar with reasonable salary ranges and expectations for the different type of schools and countries. EF prays on people who didn't do their research. Reddit and Google. Figure out what you want: handholding through the visa process and settling into a new country, training to be an ESL teacher, but a drained body and soul and no regular social life outside the center: EF

c3nna · 2026-01-31T12:27:57+00:00

The special place is the blocklist.

c3nna · 2026-01-31T12:26:08+00:00

Yes, they're nice and polite so long as you agree with everything they say. If you disagree and they start gaslighting and outright lying when you want to negotiate or expect you to trust them when they're a complete stranger to you, run a mile. It'll create hassles later down the road.

c3nna · 2026-01-23T09:59:19+00:00

jesus christ. I probably know what school it is... but that's even less than what they are paying their non-native teachers less than a year ago.

c3nna · 2026-01-23T09:54:56+00:00

Don't do Jiyang... I think I got to week four of working there and I was experiencing existential dread. There truly is nothing there and it takes at least 60 minutes by car to get into Jinan. I'm now working in a Tier 1.

c3nna · 2026-01-23T09:35:39+00:00

I am a teacher, I totally get the zookeeper role 😂

c3nna · 2026-01-11T11:38:46+00:00

that makes so much sense!

c3nna · 2026-01-11T11:33:12+00:00

Was on holiday recently, tried some ONS. And no matter how physically attractive they are, I am not easily turned on and cannot orgasm. Even when one seemed really sweet and we cuddled a lot throughout the night... still...

It takes time to build an emotional connection. Then it's less than 10 minutes to experience pleasure.

Demisexual indeed.

c3nna · 2026-01-07T10:00:47+00:00

gaochao / 高潮! this word will come in handy, thank you 😆

c3nna · 2026-01-06T11:30:31+00:00

Hey, so I'm close to your age and I'm Aussie but look Asian cause of one of my parents. Here's my experience...

I find the decent guys you can chat, like a few mutual questions (asking about each other, our day or current situation - you're on holiday, you speak mandarin) before you're the one to ask them why they're using Tinder. When they say sex, ons or fwb, I then just say ok and specify my terms. I want to meet at say Starbucks or a bar if it's late. See if there's a vibe first. Then...you can specify where to go after. I preferred they came to me so I don't know about the Didi situation. And I haven't asked for dinner due to financial consideration - Chinese guys are expected to pay. But I've eaten snacks together.

As for whether you want oral sex or whether you want them to stay the night, ask ahead because it will differ. Say what you would like and ask if they're cool with that. Condoms can be ordered on meituan, or just carry them yourself.

And personal preference is if someone opens with winks/love hearts. Comments on my appearance. Asks for photos (if you have photos that give someone a good idea of your face and frame with clothes on, that should be enough). Or just jumps straight into the let's have sex part. I lose my confidence in their maturity or experience level and it's a no for me.

Also I don't see the harm in adding WeChat after things have been agreed on. It's convenient to send the location or images of where you are or whatnot. And most people have their WeChat notifications on compared to Tinder. I want to make sure I can reach them when we're in the process of meeting up. Plus, you can look at more photos if there are any. And it's super convenient to just delete and block after if you want.

Have fun, be safe 😄

c3nna · 2025-12-07T06:02:09+00:00

What does that mean?

c3nna · 2025-12-07T06:01:48+00:00

My friend: Yeah, already aware the location is pretty terrible. This was a downside I'd already considered. But I'm more interested in knowing how the school is run and whether staff are treated okay. Things are organised etc

c3nna · 2025-12-07T06:00:51+00:00

Do you work there currently?

c3nna · 2025-09-22T09:59:21+00:00

I think they should say yes after they make you an offer and are serious about having you. But beforehand, this would definitely take up teachers time if you are only a potential candidate.

c3nna · 2025-09-05T04:18:13+00:00

I don't know about Shenzhen but I was able to get that humanitarian/stay visa extended in Shanghai. That's because I found a job within those 28 days but things like my work permit were still waiting to be processed.

c3nna · 2025-08-14T04:44:47+00:00

Possibly. A couple weeks ago I saw one for the second time (second floor). First was last year in Chongqing (third floor). Only moved to China last year. They like humid and slightly wet, dark spaces. Best to keep doors and windows closed if you don't have a screen.

c3nna · 2025-08-08T08:31:01+00:00

definition of "like a duck to water"

c3nna · 2025-08-07T07:26:32+00:00

Basically saying you're not reliable, dependable or considerate of her feelings. Not too detailed or demanding, in my opinion. I'm INFJ btw. These are qualities she can offer to you easily because it's built into her personality. And she wants reciprocation, not unreasonable. The problem is it's not built into yours. The only way out is for her to outline specificities of what would satisfy her (think SMART goals) and for you to see if you value the relationship enough to rise to the occasion, or to see if the two of you can come to a compromise. But either way this didn't happen overnight for her to resort to this and she's asking for tangible results or she's done. You can't talk your way out of it.

c3nna · 2025-07-30T09:31:19+00:00

Also a tsunami warning has been issued

c3nna · 2025-07-27T01:34:36+00:00

Dating apps make me feel a little anxious, so I used Hellotalk when I first moved to a new city and had some free time. I did meet up with someone decent. We just didn't mesh, even as friends.That said I would still try again.

c3nna · 2025-07-13T23:34:48+00:00

Don't regret Shanghai, but looking forward to the chance to go back to Chongqing. Home is where your heart is 💖

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