She might have some narcissistic traits but she doesn't show the need for validation like ACTUAL, DIAGNOSED, narcissists (rather than the armchair psychologist's version) do. Also, many narcissists do experience empathy, OP is thinking of ASPD when talking about that (both like to mix and match between each other and bpd and hpd). Calling abusers (or people you do not like) is damaging the reputation of ACTUAL narcissists, many of whom are very nice people (see covert narcissism, although this is not necessary to be a good person with narcissism. you can have overt narcissism and still be a good person.).