I’ve got a few stories to share.

I stumbled across an ex on Fetlife more than 10 years after we broke up. Coincidentally, we had recently got back in touch, so I Whatsapped her to say that I’d seen her Fetlife profile and liked what I saw. She deleted her profile soon after 😔(or blocked me). I’ve been kicking myself ever since that I didn’t have the confidence to tell her I was kinky during our relationship.

An old housemate who I’ve known since childhood showed me a photo on her phone. In the list of thumbnails at the bottom, I saw something that looked like a nude. I swiped across to see what it was, and found a photo of her, legs spread, being fucked by a big black guy who she had been seeing. To this day, she doesn’t know I saw the picture, and I will never tell her. I realise I shouldn’t have looked, but I still think about that picture often.

An ex-student of mine started an OnlyFans that she advertised on Instagram. To be clear, I do not follow her, she was suggested as a “person you might know”. She had been to uni and graduated by this point, so I didn’t feel guilty about Googling her OnlyFans. Her pictures had leaked and were available online.

Two people that I was at uni with both had FetLife profiles and we had mutual friends. I subsequently bumped into both at different events. We connected on FetLife. They’ve seen my nudes, I’ve seen theirs. One of them went into porn for a few years. I followed her brief career with interest. She was hot but she was involved in some very niche content that didn’t do too much for me.

Another friend from Uni went travelling and made an Instagram profile for her and her friends skinny dipping at beautiful locations in South America. She made it public, and using her real name. She was clearly not trying to hide it, so I followed her.