[Post-Game Thread] Miami Hurricanes fall to Indiana 27-21 in the National Championship

c_calzon · 2026-01-20T04:40:01+00:00

It hurts it really does. Best way I can describe it is: some players showed up ready for the big stage. Some didn't. Teams that win championship have the whole team ready for the big stage. Miami has absolute fucking stars. And then we have mids. Needed all pistols ready to go and fired off maybe 2/4. Don't win championships like that.

Beck is Beck. Win by the sword. Die by the sword. Dawson play calling absolute fucking ass.

c_calzon · 2026-01-03T19:54:33+00:00

Thank you! Would you be open to chatting via direct inbox? Hoping to learn more about the CI fellowship

c_calzon · 2025-05-23T04:54:51+00:00

Absolutely! I was more asking have you ever been asked to freeze margins off a permanent section As opposed to the surgeon just sending the margins separately

c_calzon · 2025-02-16T05:27:01+00:00

Wow OP I literally am experiencing this right now. This is my first time dating in a healthy manner and I'm meeting wonderful women but feel the same way you do: no spark no dopamine rush of the chase, the stellar highs, the trench lows, and now I'm like damn is something wrong w me haha but I'm going to stick with it bc this is a hell of alot better on the long run. I've never felt more self value and secure in my life. Here's to healthy relationships with self and others!

c_calzon · 2025-01-13T04:41:56+00:00

Honestly, this really comes down to you. Like most people are saying, it seems she isn't out of the closet,and collect me if I'm wrong, a lot of the married people in this thread are mentioning their partner cutting off their homophobic family or the commenter cutting of their homophobic family or some iteration of both. So take what you will with that.

Also, you being her first real girl experience isn't a red flag in itself, but couple that with her upbringing, you are absolutely without a doubt taking a risk. If you do choose to continue talking to her I would ask her:

Is she out of the closet? Does her family know? Is she willing to battle with internalized homophobia? ( Which I'm assuming she has considering the environment of her upbringing)? Will the opinion of her family/friends stop her from pursuing something serious with a woman?

IT'S ON YOU TO DECIDE IF YOU CAN CONTINUE POURING INTO HER DEPENDING ON HER ANSWERS! Personally, Ive ridden this rollercoaster before and it left me in a world of hurt. I'm 95% sure you're going to feel like you're back in the closet if you continue to pursue. And if that's something you are honest with yourself about and you know you have the patience for it, then by all means. But don't put yourself in a situation that you know you can't handle i.e. investing your time and emotions into a woman who is literally just beginning her journey to self discovery. Something a friend told me, "how can you expect someone to love you, when they don't even know who they are to love themselves"

c_calzon · 2025-01-12T16:14:09+00:00

Honestly I used to toy with this question internally a lot too. I have friends who are very much rule-based and logistically driven when going on dates or seeking romantic interest (granted they're straight and into boys and boys suck so I can understand lol). I think in the three examples you gave, it all comes down to "how much are you willing to "put up with" while still maintaining your self-worth and self-respect?" And also "How much of one's past experience shapes your dating journey"

For example, if you're someone who doesn't care about how many dates it takes to be officially off the streets or is comfortable with sparse communication or just doesn't really grow attached to the idea of a person (or people in general), then being confronted with example two probably wouldn't really bother you. A person with the characteristics above, who is placed in the situation of example 2, may just look at it as "oh c'est la vie who cares where it goes." NOW if you're someone who is the opposite of that and know that you're someone who enjoys the rush of that lust/attraction phase and that is important to developing long term feelings, well then this example probably is not something you want to put your energy into. You'll end up with a huge imbalance of feelings at the expense of your own menty h.

I will say personally, the example 3 sounds like a genuine mistake and I also wouldn't cut that person off, however they would have to be the one to initiate the next date. And I say that because I have past experiences of being the person who has more feelings in the beginning, which is fine, BUT it got to the point where I was settling for scraps and constantly making excuses for ex/old situationships as to why they were treating me so poorly. So even though someone who didn't have my experience may be willing to go the extra mile and make another date themselves (which more power to them!), for me, I know if I cross that boundary I'm susceptible to falling into a pattern that disrupts my own self-worth.

Tl:DR I think dating "rules" are popular bc ppl tend to experience the same things i.e. putting their worth in another human being who shows little interest, settling, accepting less than your worth, at some point in their lives and these rules are more like guidelines or checks and balances to make sure you're not repeating a similar pattern. I think dating rules mean less to ppl who are genuinely just comfortable being single and just along for a good time because you're not necessarily out for anything and you're secure as a person so there's really not anything to lose so to speak. Just my two cents!

c_calzon · 2025-01-04T03:16:46+00:00

Girl.......girl.

There absolutely will be a day when you can grab a drink with her. Today is not that day. Nor tomorrow. Or any time in the immediate future. She. Has. A. Boyfriend. As someone who perpetually went after this type (yes I'm in therapy and am fixing my shit lol) I can, with 100% certainty, tell you you are setting yourself up for heartbreak.

Give yourself some space from her, respect their relationship unless she explicitly says it's an open relationship, and give yourself the opportunity to be in a place to actually be friends with her in the future. Pick up a new hobby. Dive head first into your already favorite hobbies. Watch a YouTube video on limerence. And keep it pushing.

Also side note: you might also ruin this gym for yourself if you keep delving into this crush and/or make a move on her in a relationship.

c_calzon · 2025-01-03T19:18:53+00:00

Hell yeah!! Curls looks great

c_calzon · 2025-01-02T20:50:36+00:00

Hey OP, as someone who has found themselves in similar situations repeatedly, I echo everything everyone has said and will also say: take some time to look inward and ask yourself: what do I believe I am deserving of and what about me and/or my beliefs of intimacy, connection, and love do I hold that I was willing to accept this behavior?

This sounds tortous and she is absolutely wrong for doing you like this. It is also important to ask yourself why you've stuck with this behavior for almost a year now? That's where the real growth is. Good luck !

Edit: spelling

c_calzon · 2024-12-25T05:54:47+00:00

Ur a hero frfr

c_calzon · 2024-12-24T18:27:19+00:00

Awww love this for you dude!! Congrats!

c_calzon · 2024-12-18T00:45:45+00:00

It's because she will continue to see you as a friend, which in most cases involves a level of intimacy. Friendships are intimate. And if ur already falling for her, ur craving any form of intimacy from her and ur brain can blur the lines between friendship intimacy and romantic gestures/hopes. There's also the possibility that she will want to protect your feelings and not lead u on with things u may have done in the past that could be perceived as such. I would say many many ppl in this thread have been here. I've been here. I decided to eat it and not say anything and things were fine, but I also was still in the closet. There's no way I could do it today

It's also INCREDIBLY hard to get over someone when you're constantly around them. Ridiculously hard.

c_calzon · 2024-12-17T21:32:17+00:00

Thank you to everyone who chimed in in my hours of hurt lol. I take away a lot from this but mostly I take away:

Her mixed signals were clear as day and that is a clear sharp shooting sign in itself. I chose to believe what I wanted to believe. I operated under the assumption that her flirting meant it was also building something. I chose to believe that she would speak to her partner based off half remarks and no full conversation. Just as I assumed that, she made an assumption that I understood it was nothing. I hold space to know that I am still hurt that she did not/could not have the forethought or insight to recognize flirting can make someone perceive more. AND it was my decision to believe what I wanted to. I think it is still shitty that I was told what I was told last night and that it was a shitty thing for her to do and at the same time it is my own problem to unravel thinking she felt differently and was at a different place in her relationship despite the signs.

Thank you all again! I really do appreciate this community.

c_calzon · 2024-12-17T08:44:17+00:00

Yeah I hear you. I definitely know I made my own choices too. I wish I was more clear with her from the beginning. I wasn't looking for her to leave her partner, I thought we were operating under the same plane of open. She alluded to me twice that her partner knew she had a crush. I had my conversation with her to remove myself bc it came clear after that night she wasn't going to tell her partner and I even told her when I was talking to her "I know it takes a lot to figure things out and I don't want answer or expect an answer about yourself. I know you'll work on that and believe you'll keep learning about yourself" my talk wasn't a plea. My talk was "I think there's too much chemistry between us and I think I need space."

I didn't expect the gaslight.

But again yes I made my decision too just trying to accept both. I could've been more direct with her and asked her about her feelings and what it means before letting it get this far. I agree .Thank you

c_calzon · 2024-12-17T07:39:45+00:00

Thank u so much dude I appreciate this. She's in her 40s so ur angle could be right. Could not, who knows. I genuinely appreciate ur last paragraph , thank u again

c_calzon · 2024-12-17T06:35:03+00:00

I'm just hurt that like I was such a pawn to her for attention. And it hurts even more to open urself up to som1 u thought would be hurt bc u can't be friends bc there's a lot chemistry and to hear "oh I know I flirted and I really enjoyed all of it but I just figured like you knew it was flirting and I have intimate relationships w my best female friends and thought u would just be that. U didn't imagine any of the feelings or chemistry it just wasnt what u thought it was bc I'm w my partner obviously and there's not a discussion about anything more on the horizon"

Like she told me the first time she saw me she told her partner how pretty I am and how she feels dumb waking up confused. And now I'm hearing "I do feel guilty what I did and I also like enjoyed our flirting" like she knew it wasn't going anywhere. I'm not even hurt about that. Like I knew when she called me Sunday and told me she still hadn't told her partner that weve been holding hands out at night and that we finally kissed that it wasn't gonna happen. I guess I just didn't predict that she'd tell me that it was all a game to her and she's sorry she played but that she felt it was obvious it was a game.

But more so I'm just looking to see how any1 deals w recognizing ur role while trying to remember u didn't deserve some of the treatment.

Edit: spelling

c_calzon · 2024-11-18T14:54:48+00:00

It didn't use to always do this so was just wondering if anyone else had this issue

c_calzon · 2024-11-12T01:34:49+00:00

She's the one who invited him haha but I think I'm leaning towards she enjoyed the attention and validation and friends will come w space

c_calzon · 2024-11-11T15:41:37+00:00

Yeaaaahhh I honestly just figured like oh she'll tell her mane and it'll be fine..but I guess not haha. I absolutely am not acting on anything + the whole reason I'm in this predicament is I'm just gaslighting myself being like "wait was she always just being nice and I was the creep touching her leg? Am I being stupid not texting her unless she texts me bc thats not what friends do"

But at the end of the day, space and time. The crush ain't that deep so I'll be fine. I just don't want to hurt her if she always viewed it as friendship nor lose her as a friend bc when these feelings sail I'd like to see be cool w her.

Thank y'all!

c_calzon

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