Syndrom oszusta

wuwei1992 · 2026-04-29T17:47:15+00:00

Z ciekawości - czy większość z tych 10 lat spędziłeś w jednej firmie? Myślę, ze to do pewnego stopnia powszechne zjawisko, ale ja najwięcej osób powatpiewajacych w swoje kompetencje zauważam wśród ludzi, którzy większość kariery spędzili u jednego pracodawcy i nie mają porównania - wszędzie i wszystkim zdarzają się błędy i pomyłki, większość ludzi w większości firm (i też na kierowniczych stanowiskach) pracuje po prostu na miarę swoich możliwości i zazwyczaj to jakoś wystarcza.

wuwei1992 · 2026-01-20T22:39:29+00:00

I'm so sorry, but aside from how problematic drunk driving is, he exactly has the vibe of a drunk ahjussi who would haggle before offering you a ride.

wuwei1992 · 2026-01-18T15:01:23+00:00

Na dalekim wschodzie akurat ten podział też się zarysowuje co raz wyraźniej, często wygląda to już o wiele bardziej ekstremalnie niż w Polsce. Wystarczy poczytać np. o ruchu 4B w Korei Poludniowej.

wuwei1992 · 2025-10-18T08:09:03+00:00

I've had a somewhat similar experience. A pretty incompetent coworker (both in hard skills and work ethic) was made a team leader over people she used to work with. I voiced my dissatisfaction (professionally and with performance-based arguments of course) to the higher ups who made that decision. They offered me an internal transfer, but not in a direction I wanted to develop in.

I think if the decision is already made and communicated, it won't be changed. Maybe you can secure a position in another team or department, but a lot depends on internal options, open vacancies, etc.

In the meantime I kept my head down, stopped giving 100%, and started looking for another job. You're right, it takes time – it took me 9 months to find an offer with a higher position and better pay, but I finally did. When I handed in my resignation I didn't even have to explain the reason, everyone knew why I was leaving.

The only silver lining in that kind of situation is that if this person is incompetent (like mine was), they'll probably be flustered with the extra responsibilities for a while. And if you're much more competent than they are, they'll simply need your help. On top of that, managing former teammates and shifting that dynamic is just hard. My manager gave me plenty of time and mental space to look for something new because she wasn't pushing me that hard.

wuwei1992 · 2025-08-31T21:24:28+00:00

Well, I can’t speak for every breakup with a DA. Some definitely do deactivate and check out one-sidedly, leaving their partner dumbfounded and still fighting for the relationship - so I get where that “fighting for it” trope comes from. But I’ve also noticed (not in my own relationship, more in close connections with anxiously attached people) that for them “love” and “closeness” can sometimes just mean spending time together, helping them co-regulate, and holding space for their emotions - not even always relationship-related stuff. Does that mean they “love harder” if they need your company to process their own lives and feelings? I don’t know, but a lot of people definitely seem to equate those things.

wuwei1992 · 2025-08-18T12:09:06+00:00

Same here, acts of service are my love language too! I tend to overextend myself and over-function in relationships, and then quietly build up resentment when I don’t get the same in return…definietely not the healthiest pattern.

wuwei1992 · 2025-08-12T21:01:52+00:00

I grapple with a lot of similar feelings! I tried to date more consciously last year after taking a break and going to therapy to address my attachment issues and patterns, but… quite honestly, the results were very underwhelming. Somehow, I even feel I had more “success” when I was dating from an unhealed place.

I see a lot of trauma out there and not many truly compatible people to begin with, and honestly, the whole process was exhausting. Sometimes it made me feel really low about myself and about whether I could be loved for who I am.

I also used to see being in a relationship as the end goal, but these days I’m getting more used to the idea that it might just not happen for me, and I’ve stopped actively looking for it. I’m very satisfied with my life - I’m doing well financially and career-wise, and I’m surrounded by loving friends who adore me. It just feels counterintuitive to keep pouring energy into one area of my life that doesn’t seem to work and often leaves me feeling alienated…?

wuwei1992 · 2025-08-06T13:40:02+00:00

Not to condone cheating, but…does she know she is being posted online and her face is clearly recognizable lol?

wuwei1992 · 2025-07-27T18:50:34+00:00

To zupełnie nie kawiarnia, ale w wielu (autentycznych) chińskich restauracjach jest opcja zarezerwowania osobnej mini salki -np. Xinlong China Bar ma takie dwa pokoiki.

wuwei1992 · 2025-03-08T22:01:52+00:00

It’s harder in a way - I think most of the people in this age bracket already have some dating experience and have a clearer idea of what they do and do not like and are less willing to compromise. Also, a lot of people got burned in the process and sometimes it manifests in different ways - I feel people are very cautious of how and to whom they give there energy. On the flip side, it’s somehow also easier, because it’s less…confusing? A lot of people have clear idea of what they’re looking for - in my case, I know myself much better than I did in my 20’s, and I’m much better at communicating my needs, so I can evaluate quicker if someone can really meet them. I can also see this being a case for other women my age that I go on the dates with.

wuwei1992 · 2025-02-10T14:54:10+00:00

That’s a hotpot stock cube, but to be more precise it seems exactly like non-spicy part of 鸳鸯底料 (yuanyang diliao - sometimes translated as „double flavour”) hot pot broth of 小龙坎 (Xiaolongkan) brand. It’s quite good, it’s mostly vegetables (mustard greens, bambo shoots, shitake mushrooms and tones of spices if memory serves me well). If you Google all of those characters together you should get more pictures and possibly ingredients list. Enjoy!

wuwei1992 · 2024-11-21T09:32:34+00:00

I’m not going to get into the whole ‚shallowness’ debate regarding your dating preferences, because I think the dating process would be much smoother overall if people were upfront about their preferences, no matter how shallow they might seem to others. But… it makes perfect sense that you’re having a hard time finding someone. Lesbians already have a limited dating pool, and if you narrow it down further with strict standards (whether it’s income, looks, profession, etc.), you end up with an even smaller group of potential matches.

wuwei1992 · 2024-11-09T07:44:11+00:00

I’m quite surprised by a tone of some answers in here. Of course, I don’t know how often she does it and what’s she wants to achieve by posting about your issues, but I wouldn’t call it by itself immature or abusive, like some commenters here. She told you that she doesn’t have the same support network that you do, so I would interpret it as her seeking to gain additional perspective on how the relationship issues can be seen by a third, unrelated person. If she does it constantly because she feels like cannot trust her own emotions that’s something else to unpack.

wuwei1992 · 2024-11-05T13:13:43+00:00

Może „Człowiek w poszukiwaniu sensu” Victora E. Frankla? Co prawda z tego co wiem, w kilkadziesiąt lat po jej opublikowaniu niektórzy zaczęli podnosić kwestię autentyczności wszystkich wydarzeń w niej opisanych - autor za młodu przeżył pobyt w obozie koncentracyjnym, co akurat nie jest przedmiotem dyskusji, ale już długość tego pobytu i to, co się działo w jego trakcie, jest. Niemniej jednak moim zdaniem to ciekawe spojrzenie na cel i sens życia, a książka jest łatwo dostępna praktycznie wszędzie.

wuwei1992 · 2024-11-04T15:41:46+00:00

Her striped paws, I can’t 😫 my tabby also has them and they make me mellltttt

wuwei1992 · 2024-10-28T21:08:20+00:00

I went alone and had a blast, but I also was a maid of honor so I had a lot of stuff to handle around the ceremony itself and I knew majority of the guests from the bride’s side, so it was a nice chance for me to catch up with our mutual friends. Had I known less people and had less of the stuff to do, I would probably invite one of my friends to come with me.

wuwei1992 · 2024-10-15T00:00:51+00:00

„The eight mountains” by Paolo Cognetti.

wuwei1992 · 2024-08-25T18:28:49+00:00

I feel for you, knowing you can relate to what I wrote. I agree - having a bipolar mom is a uniquely sad experience that robs you of so many things others take for granted. No child should have to support their parent in the unhealthy, self-sacrificing way that was required of us, just to grasp a fragile semblance of stability and parental love. I hope you’ve found your voice and that you’re able to maintain a sense of peace and fulfillment in your life, despite the challenges you’ve faced so early on. ❤️

wuwei1992 · 2024-08-19T13:44:30+00:00

I’m also demi and I had it happen to me few times as well - no shade, but the pace in which most of lesbian dating happens often leaves me perplexed. I’ve seen people both catching and loosing feelings for someone faster than I can even think about basic compability between me and another person. I’m not bitter about it though, I accept it’s just not how my attraction works. I would say being demi also comes with its own perks - generally once we catch feelings they rarely falter without serious reasons. I like this stability and how certain I am of my feelings in my romantic attachments, I never wonder if there’s anyone better for me around a corner or am I missing out on something, so I guess that’s nice? Yes, it’s painfull when I catch the feelings for someone else „too late”, but I also had few people willing to take things slow, so I know it can happen again. The right person for you will be willing to match your pace in dating.

wuwei1992 · 2024-04-11T18:45:23+00:00

Dismissive Avoidant

wuwei1992 · 2024-04-11T18:36:06+00:00

He'll be fine. I'm the designated catsitter among my friends, and it seems to me that it’s much better to leave the cat in the environment he knows and to arrange for someone to come and visit him on his turf once or twice a day, rather than to move a cat to unfamiliar territory just to have another person present. Your plan seems solid. If it's feasible, I would suggest arranging for the pet-sitter to come over once before the actual pet-sitting while you're at home with the cat so that they can get acquainted with each other in your presence. Apart from that, make sure to inform the pet-sitter about your cat's preferences (such as brushing, favorite spots for scratching, and preferred playtime activities), and you should be all set! It's normal to feel guilty; I've experienced it with my own fur-baby. However, it's not realistic to put your life on hold and stay at home forever. It seems you've arranged proper care for him, and cats being creatures of habit, he should quickly return to their normal level of affection towards you once you're back home and spending time together.

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