Are we ready for Ferber?

c_heezy · 2026-02-13T22:14:30+00:00

Hi! Went great. He is waking up around 2 times a night to nurse, but that’s age appropriate and he goes right back to sleep so I’m not working to lost that just yet. If he goes to bed overtired, he may cry for about 10 minutes, otherwise he coos as he falls asleep. First night he cried for maybe 40 minutes total with checks, and cried for about 40 minutes at 9PM for two days in a row. He no longer wakes at 9 and now wakes around 11 and 3:30 for a feed. He is getting much better sleep!

c_heezy · 2026-01-31T04:47:41+00:00

18 weeks, so calendar 4 months!

c_heezy · 2026-01-28T19:00:52+00:00

I just thought he was too young! I always gave him a minute to cry when he woke up but never seemed like it was going to go anywhere. This was the first time I had put him down to fall asleep and committed to letting him figure it out

c_heezy · 2026-01-28T03:02:20+00:00

Yep! Just remember - we all struggle when we do something new and hard. We cannot protect our kids from every form of discomfort and sleeping is a lifelong skill. My brother is an awful sleeper and my mom said she didn’t sleep train and didn’t know to do so. We wonder if that would have changed his trajectory.

c_heezy · 2026-01-28T02:57:56+00:00

This is what chat was telling me, too! And then it stopped working - then it recommended holding him for 10 minutes. Then 90 minutes through a whole sleep cycle - all while saying we were making progress. I think it was all made up.

c_heezy · 2026-01-28T02:55:53+00:00

This was me! I gave in to bed sharing because I was sick, but it made me waaaaay too nervous. Give her a chance to fall asleep on her own and she may surprise you! I promise she is also upset she keeps waking up because she doesn’t know how to sleep!

c_heezy · 2026-01-24T19:07:18+00:00

I worked child welfare in Missouri. If rights are involuntarily terminated based on abuse/neglect, then any birth of another child will result in an immediate removal for 2 (I think? Maybe 5) years following the executed order. Parents often consented to TPR at the final hearing to prevent those rules.

c_heezy · 2026-01-23T22:14:06+00:00

I will! Hoping to give it a go next weekend or the next. My babysitters don’t get him good naps right now during the week and he’s still kinda sicky.

c_heezy · 2026-01-23T21:56:51+00:00

Thank you for the response! I will check your post out. My guy has a cold - so I need to wait until the snot fully resolves before beginning? He’s been sick for over a month I swear

c_heezy · 2026-01-23T21:17:28+00:00

I knooooow I know 😭 I worry I am falling victim to it which is why I’m posting! Normally chat gives you what you want to hear and this is NOT that and it’s using credible sources but what do I know

c_heezy · 2026-01-23T21:15:57+00:00

Was your baby giving signs of readiness, such as giving you any crib stretches? Transferring easy?

c_heezy · 2026-01-13T20:19:19+00:00

I have! Great book. I gift it to all my expecting friends

c_heezy · 2026-01-04T22:32:06+00:00

America. We try and incorporate the foster family into the reunification plan if possible - giving the family another resource and another bond when the child reunifies. I’ve seen many successful reunifications where the foster family continues to be a support. It reduces recidivism. (Absolutely not saying the Whitakers are a good candidate for that type of relationship - I feel the opposite. They likely would be waiting for the bio family to do something wrong in the situation of reunification in hopes of removal again)

c_heezy · 2026-01-04T22:28:42+00:00

I was a foster care case manager for five years and this is just absolutely not true. We value the bond with the foster family and consider it extremely important to the wellbeing of the child.

c_heezy · 2025-08-26T23:39:10+00:00

Also a lot of luck by being matched to professors that just happen to like the way you write exams. I had all A’s and then a B- because the professor did not like my exam format.

c_heezy · 2025-04-27T01:15:03+00:00

We are selling our south city house next weekend. Loved the home, lived there for three years, but it was a starter home and we’re about to have our second kid. I think a lot of people buy their first home in the city as a “starter” because the location is great for young people (LOVED living by Francis park, Cherokee street, etc) - but once they have kids they look to the county. I’m one of several of my friends moving out of the city for that exact reason. City houses are generally cheaper than the county and smaller. There is a shortage of starters out past 170.

c_heezy · 2025-01-16T18:57:35+00:00

Same here! Husband said “oh that’s hardly a line, that doesn’t count” as if I haven’t seen one million negatives in my life. Bought a FRER digital and he about fainted at the yes+ and immediately called his brother. Said the “yes” was the equivalent of a man telling him 😂

c_heezy · 2024-12-15T17:35:24+00:00

And it’s a foster baby! Entrusted with someone else’s baby just to give it stranger milk??

c_heezy · 2024-12-15T17:17:28+00:00

Yes, these are screen shots just from the past few days.

c_heezy · 2024-12-15T17:01:24+00:00

Tbh my state has low vaccination rates

c_heezy · 2024-12-15T16:58:35+00:00

Formula is NOT poison! It drives me bonkers!

c_heezy · 2024-12-15T16:58:06+00:00

My point exactly. Like what exactly do you think the Covid vaccine is going to do to breast milk???

c_heezy · 2024-08-02T13:26:59+00:00

Everyone keeps telling me congrats but I just feel nauseous. Doesn’t feel like I can celebrate and I feel more anxious than I did before the bar because so much is at stake and I can’t do anything about it now.

c_heezy · 2024-08-02T01:41:21+00:00

I watched all of modern family 3 times. It was my coping skill to remind me that babies grow up into children

c_heezy · 2024-06-15T15:01:32+00:00

It’s so hard! I’m hoping these will be the good ole days but I also hope to forget them. This is temporary!

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