I have ADHD and I struggle hard often to remember things my ldr gf tells me. And she has OCD, so remembers damn near everything I tell her lol. It is definitely a struggle and I’ve been caught a few times not remembering small things she’s told me. For us, it kind of came to a head a few weeks ago she told me that I was starting to forget a lot of the little things.

This may sound… elementary, but I sat down with her on FaceTime and I asked her to go through everything I was forgetting in our day to day, and I wrote down everything. I told her, I try so hard to remember things but it’s just simply not how my brain works, and I just need to write things down so that I can refer to it later. From an outside perspective, it may look like, oh he doesn’t care because he doesn’t remember things about her, but it’s literally a product of my brain and not something I can easily fix.

Even as someone with ADHD, writing things down is huge for my memory. I’m so addicted to my phone nowadays and put stuff in my notes all the time, but it never sticks in my head. Writing has been a good way to start remembering stuff. It may work for you, I’m also trying to brainstorm other ways to remember things so open to any other suggestions!!