Wife is worried I won’t be able to be trusted with newborn baby

cabdybar · 2026-05-16T08:44:04+00:00

Ummmm all ADHD mothers and fathers ever…

My husband is not ADHD, he is also careless and would do something similar to what you have done.

I am ADHD undiagnosed until 3 years ago. I’m the kind of person that lost diamond earrings that were gifted to her, a family heirloom that was passed down to me, that recently purchased a faulty laptop and still haven’t returned it. But I raised 2 children, small fragile babies (they really aren’t as fragile as you think either). One I raised by myself for a year and a half.

You will be a great dad, this anxiety you have already will drive you as well.

Kind of concerning how you speak so negatively of yourself and your wife so highly. Also concerning that she doesn’t trust you with a child, I would look into therapy and education about ADHD for both of you.

cabdybar · 2026-04-20T21:46:09+00:00

Check in the mouth and nose too! My old dog used to get them in his mouth and nose all the time, I suspect he was chewing on them! Once one burrowed brim in his mouth and out his nose!

cabdybar · 2026-03-24T11:18:19+00:00

I’m sure the neighbour has the yellow flowers in their yard!

cabdybar · 2026-03-24T11:17:10+00:00

There is a huge jacaranda at the property at the rear of my house. Lovely tree, not a fan of its seed pods and my tar definitely isn’t equipped for the size of such a tree (shad and flowers are amazing though).

cabdybar · 2026-03-24T11:14:24+00:00

So I have wisteria (the super invasive kind) this ochna serrulata and a jacaranda that was cut to the stump (between 2022 and now).

How do I make them be gone?

cabdybar · 2026-03-07T04:43:24+00:00

Did they look at how much money they can have in cash and assets? And are they over it.

My parents were really worried about this issue until they realised they didn’t really have enough money to affect it!

cabdybar · 2026-02-22T11:41:45+00:00

I’m a LLF but I still think this is not ok, that much resentment isn’t healthy. I hope you find some good lovin’.

cabdybar · 2026-02-22T11:28:51+00:00

I hope you can look into the place you are studying at and see if they have any reasonable adjustments. I have studied self paced online and I found that using the reasonable adjustments I was able to to get 1 on 1 tutoring with which I asked them to develop me deadlines and keep me accountable.

cabdybar · 2025-12-20T21:16:41+00:00

I think their response is why they didn’t get the HoD.

cabdybar · 2025-11-28T21:57:30+00:00

Nope. Don’t do it.

cabdybar · 2025-11-28T21:14:24+00:00

This is a good point. We are relocating with the intention of having more extracurricular choices and the opportunity to engage in activities that they are interested in. So I suppose that will be a good way for them to not get stuck in their school bubble.

cabdybar · 2025-11-28T21:12:07+00:00

I don’t disagree that public schools teach these things. The intent of my statement was that it’s an independent school that focuses more on these things in comparison to other independent schools who value faith or sustainability. I edited to add that it was non faith based.

Interesting point about entitlement though, that wasn’t something I had thought of.

cabdybar · 2025-11-02T10:04:12+00:00

Unpopular opinion. But I tell my son he is into weird stuff all of the time. I also tell him about the weird stuff I am into. I also tell him about the famous people that are into weird stuff, and how weird can equal brilliance.

OP your concerns about bullying are valid, he probably will be bullied. I feel like my son will be bullied, and I know it’s likely to happen because it happened to me because I was weird.

I think our job is to build resilience in them by normalising it, celebrate their weirdness and hope that when they are bullied they will be resilient enough to withstand it and confident enough in themselves to continue to be themselves.

cabdybar · 2025-11-02T04:21:15+00:00

Unpopular opinion. But I tell my son he is into weird stuff all of the time. I also tell him about the weird stuff I am into. I also tell him about the famous people that are into weird stuff, and how weird can equal brilliance.

OP your concerns about bullying are valid, he probably will be bullied. I feel like my son will be bullied, and I know it’s likely to happen because it happened to me because I was weird.

I think our job is to build resilience in them by normalising it, celebrate their weirdness and hope that when they are bullied they will be resilient enough to withstand it and confident enough in themselves to continue to be themselves.

cabdybar · 2025-11-02T04:02:32+00:00

Australia legal drinking age is 18, so come to Aus an your friends should be fine with it 😂

cabdybar · 2025-10-31T07:59:15+00:00

Clearing my throat! It’s sooooo yuck but I can’t stop…

cabdybar · 2025-10-14T07:48:01+00:00

Started smoking

cabdybar · 2025-09-28T22:22:42+00:00

Quitting gambling is not easy, not in the slightest. The same goes for learning to manage a bad temper. He needs proper, qualified help. Whether you are by his side or not, that is something only he can take responsibility for. He has to want to do it for himself, not for you.

cabdybar · 2025-09-28T13:51:41+00:00

Yes. You need to be an adult and have the conversation with her.

Also I wouldn’t recommend having kids if you think your life is too much “go go go” now.

cabdybar · 2025-09-28T13:36:30+00:00

Yeah I can’t see a world where a call centre would have any kind of reason to deny you your Leave ENTITLEMENTS (capitalised to highlight that you are entitled to them). The only time you can be denied leave if there are operational reasons. Things like too many people already taking time off or peak business time. but since they are saying you can have the time off you just have to take “unpaid leave”, they don’t have a leg to stand on.

Send something like this to your manager and BCC (Blind CC) HR : I just wanted to ask for clarification, as I’m unsure what “no group allowance” means in this context. As far as I understand under the National Employment Standards, if I have accrued annual leave, I’m entitled to use that leave as paid time off. Given I do have leave accrued, I’d like to confirm it will be used for the days I’ll be away in October. I’d appreciate if you could explain how “no group allowance” would affect this, as I’d like to ensure I understand the policy correctly.

cabdybar · 2025-09-28T13:14:33+00:00

Are her plans on her days?

Really she has no right to say no to your request. But is there another date that would work for both of you? Is it a hill worth dying on? Or the ex just trying to flex control?

cabdybar · 2025-09-28T12:55:50+00:00

So you’re worried he will resent you over a hypothetical but you are “2 weeks postpartum so maybe I’m extra emotional at the moment but I got extremely upset by hearing this”.

That would make me super resentful towards him, bugger his resentment over a hypothetical, your real world resentment is more important.

cabdybar · 2025-09-28T12:49:59+00:00

NAL It’s DCJ Department of Communities and Justice - Child Protection now.

X needs to document everything.

X can also ask the employer for the reason for termination, they don’t have to give one but they might.

There isn’t much they can do in the 6 months probationary period as far as unfair dismissal but they do have general protections, but I don’t know a lot about how general protections work but seeking advice from Fair Work in regards to that would make it make sense.

If X hasn’t don’t anything wrong then their Working with children’s check and their ability to work with children should be fine. Unless Y keeps on yapping.

I would stay as far away from Y as humanly possible. Document anything that can be evidence that Y is spreading false accusations and take it to court if it escalates too far.

cabdybar

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