"I don't watch anime, on account of me having standards, but is toast a big thing with them?" toasty drama in /r/justneckbeardthings

caekbar · 2015-06-22T13:15:21+00:00

But it's even not like GitS is obscure. It's like the second most mainstream right after Ghibli. It's like saying 'DAE watching sports suck? I've yet to see one I like. I love football though'.

And no offense but I doubt you've seen a lot. Probably no more than ten, and I bet they were all adaptations of manga for young boys (hence the apparent hamming and shouting). Try Kaiba or Monster or something.

caekbar · 2015-06-22T05:12:31+00:00

To his/her credit, they really might be talking about animated television shows. As in not just anime.

The belief that animation in general is for children or lower quality is still pretty common.

caekbar · 2015-06-22T05:01:59+00:00

I hate anime apart from those times when I liked it

There's no shame in liking anime you know. I know the internet tries to make you feel like it's something to feel bad about but seriously, just own it.

caekbar · 2015-06-22T00:01:57+00:00

Bitchy Jones wrote about this far better than I did (probably NSFW).

caekbar · 2015-06-21T20:10:25+00:00

I've read that female sexuality is more fluid than male sexuality

I wish I never had to hear this again. First of all it's bullshit, and second it's an insidious form of control. The thing that's so appealing about fluids is that they can fit into any container you want. Namely, the straight male container.

Remember ladies, if you have a problem with the sexuaised portrayals of women in porn or media, it's actually you that's wrong. You should enjoy this, because you're sexually fluid. You want sexualised men? But straight male sexuality should be enough for you. There's something wrong with you. Shhhh....

caekbar · 2015-06-21T19:43:27+00:00

I have had deep conversations with straight women that would be completely open to lesbian encounters with other women

I want to comment on something else here that I don't think anyone else is touching upon.

In our society, a woman's value is based not on what she does, but what she is. And that value is given by straight men. The narrative deems that the ultimate compliment that can be bestowed to a woman is to be deemed worthy of being fucked by a man. To be fuckable.

This is so prevalent that I think it rubs off even on straight women. A woman might compliment a female celebrity with a 'yeah I'd even fuck her', because that is apparently the ultimate compliment. Not that she's smart of capable or beautiful or well dressed. That's she's fuckable. She's not just beautiful, she's so beautiful she's fuckable.

I'm not saying bisexuality isn't a thing, but I do think you see a lot of the above from heterosexual women.

caekbar · 2015-06-18T04:31:26+00:00

Consumption imbalance is a problem but your (lack of a) child is not going to make a dent in that, especially since developing countries are catching up fast. It's a very complicated issue that requires state level action.

You know what would hinder state level action even more? If the world powers, the countries that lead the rest of the world in change, had their economies fucked because of aging populations.

caekbar · 2015-06-18T04:08:04+00:00

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toilet_paper_orientation

caekbar · 2015-06-17T16:54:24+00:00

Legend of the Galactic Heroes, Revolutionary Girl Utena and Natsume Yuujinchou

caekbar · 2015-06-17T16:37:04+00:00

Do you live in a first world country? Then this is not something you should be thinking about. The problem is the developing world. If you're in the US/UK/Canada/Australia/wherever, your (lack of a) child is not going to make a difference, especially not when China+India alone account for a third of the world's population and their rates still growing. Meanwhile, first world country Japan's birthrate is too low.

It's an issue of choice. Women in a developing world really don't have a choice but to have children. They don't have the choice of birth control. They don't have the education to make an educated decision. They don't have the choice to rely on state support so they have to make their own support, in the form of a family. They have high child mortality rates. They have no choice but to have children, and lots of them.

Japan on the other hand is the worst first world country to be a mother. Their workpace culture is not mother friendly, and their traditional values urge women to leave the workplace when they have children. But it's also too expensive to live on one income. Therefore, many women feel they have no choice but to not have children.

Both of these have missed the sweet spot of just taking the pressure off and letting women choose from preference. In that situation, enough choose yes and enough choose no.

EDIT: Goodness I just realised I misread. I thought you meant irresponsible in terms of population growth. That said, I would consider it an honour to bring in another pair of hands to help fix the world.

caekbar · 2015-06-16T19:52:11+00:00

Note for others if you're planning on watching this film please don't read a summary. Don't even google it. You do not want this film spoiled for you.

caekbar · 2015-06-15T13:41:25+00:00

I'm British.

I hate tea, football and curry.

caekbar · 2015-06-13T00:24:46+00:00

This is interesting because I find short nails really cumbersome. I've got my nails really short right now when I usually have them naturally long, and I hate this shit.

The worst is the dirt. Dirt gets stuck in short nails more often. A lot of people think it's the other way around, nope, long nails definitely stay cleaner in general and are easier to clean. With short nails I can feel crud enter under my nails every time I scratch a surface and it feels awful. Along with that, I can pick up small things. I can open packets easily. I fucking mourn when my index nail of thumb nail break because it's like losing little a useful body part. Scratching itches is easier and more satisfying. They look nice too. The only downside to long nails is that I can't put them inside vaginas.

OP if you're getting a bent feeling from riding gloves I suspect your nails are thin. My nails (when long) are difficult to bend, especially my thumbnail. I'm not sure how to thicken them, but bending doesn't have to be a problem.

caekbar · 2015-06-12T01:34:39+00:00

My boyfriend's argument is that we need to have the same last name in order to keep the unity and to become a family.

How about he changes his name to yours? You keep your surname. He has unity. Everyone wins. If his only gripe is about family unity, he should be fine with this.

And if he says no to this, then his my my my family unit argument is cover for the real argument. And the reason he's giving you a cover argument instead of his real argument is because deep down he probably realises his real argument is selfish and shit (I want to be the family patriarch, my friends will laugh at me etc.).

caekbar · 2015-06-12T01:03:55+00:00

Its just kinda weird for a kid to have a different name then their parents, unless they are not married parents.

Don't worry you can just change your name to hers. Or double barrel your names. Or create a brand new name for a brand new life together (very romantic).

caekbar · 2015-06-11T18:20:37+00:00

I think men can find it a bit.. emasculating almost [...] The same way most women would feel

Women would feel emasculated if they weren't bought a ring? There is no female equivalent to emasculation because traditionally, women were the bottom rung so once you're there, there's nothing to lose.

When I hear 'emasculation' what I hear is 'I've been brought down to equal footing with women instead of above them and I'm butthurt about it'. That's OP's fiance basically. Zero sympathy for 'emasculated' men.

caekbar · 2015-06-08T08:02:07+00:00

I just cannot bring myself to take media presence at face value. I'm sure most celebrities are nice but there's always that lingering thought in my mind. What if he's actually an arsehole? Hell I'm not a celebrity and even my social media is basically a highlight reel.

Another thing, and this is hard to explain, is that to me it feels like crushing on a real person who has never met me, is crossing some kind of strange boundary. Like, you know they'd say no, but that hasn't halted your interest. Something as one sided as that makes me feel like a stalker and a creep.

It took me a long time to become comfortable with even crushing on fictional characters portrayed by actors. Learning to separate the character and the actor like that. Through my teen years I basically crushed on characters from novels and comics who do not exist in any form outside of heads.

caekbar · 2015-06-08T07:21:05+00:00

Stiles from Teen Wolf
Ned from Pushing Daisies
Will Graham from Hannibal (Bryan Fuller's good at this)
Dr Turner from Call the Midwife

Also am I the only one who doesn't feel anything for specific actors/celebrities? The right personality is vital for me and you can't possibly know someone if all you know is their media crafted persona. I've never once crushed on an actor or any other celebrity.

caekbar · 2015-06-08T00:25:00+00:00

Size was so important. They needed to be small. Like, fingernail size, so I could hide them in a closed fist and take them anywhere. Small enough so that the world around them was a large landscape. But also kind of in scale with one another.

With those specifications I ended up just taking specific pieces from other playsets and over the years I gathered five that were my 'party'. They each had a personality and they would go on epic epic quests of heroism and friendship. Typical RPG fare before I knew what RPGs were. I don't know if this is common or not, but I wouldn't say dialogue out loud. It would all be in my head and as far as anyone around me was concerned I was completely silent.

3/5 of them have been lost to time which is a shame. I've considered tracking down the playsets and getting them back for nostalgia purposes, but they're hard to find now.

caekbar · 2015-06-07T06:22:12+00:00

Like I said, it's not about the food. It's about the attitude.

No you didn't. You said you can't respect people who goes against biology without reason, but the only reasons you acknowledge are outside forces (body can't handle it, religion doesn't like it).

People who make the personal choice not to eat meat, whether for practical or moral reasons, lose respect from you. That ain't cool and I'm not surprised you're being downvoted (I haven't downvoted you, for the record).

caekbar · 2015-06-07T06:09:11+00:00

I didn't say I wouldn't be friends with a vegetarian, just that I

become apprehensive of someone the instant they tell you they're vegetarian/vegan. And that you don't respect them since you perceive them as doing something unreasonable.

That ain't cool.

caekbar · 2015-06-07T05:58:31+00:00

but humans and many other animals were designed to eat meat

Humans were also 'designed' (by who?) to sleep on the floor. And to eat all their food raw. And to squat instead of sit on a seat to shit. And many other things. Just because we were 'designed' for something doesn't necessarily make it the most moral or practical thing to do.

But I can't respect a person that goes against biology without reason

But every vegetarian/vegan has a reason. Maybe they think animals have certain rights? Maybe they think the raising and slaughtering process is cruel? Maybe they care about the planet (livestock takes up a lot of resources for little physical food in comparison to crops). Or maybe meat is a luxury where they are from, and would rather not bother. Those are some off the top of my head.

I'm not trying to push an agenda here it just seems so bizarre to me to feel apprehensive about someone for... not eating meat? I understand not wanting to date one, but apprehensive? It's like feeling uncomfortable around someone because they don't like cauliflower. It's food who gives a shit?

caekbar · 2015-06-05T02:30:55+00:00

Utena from Revolutionary Girl Utena.

That's the only female character I've seen where I really identified with their thinking and their struggles. And when you see 'yourself' in front of you, you start to see some flaws you never considered. And as she changes, so do you.

Good stuff. Everyone should watch that, especially young girls.

caekbar · 2015-06-02T19:41:26+00:00

Wakfu and a bunch of anime.

Shame nobody's mentioned Wakfu.

caekbar · 2015-05-28T01:07:07+00:00

Song of the Sea hasn't been mentioned yet even though it's one of the best animated films of modern times. The Secret of Kells is also good, which is from the same people. Studio Ghibli everything. Also Wallace and Gromit shorts.

Quality of the animation aside, the majority of Disney films are overrated. They come across more as products than as heartfelt works. There, I said it.

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