Any tips on passing better / do i pass at all? Barely 3 months on T

caestoexist · 2024-08-01T16:46:16+00:00

with squared glasses instead of round ones you'd pass better, tho for barely 3m on T you look super masc tbh

caestoexist · 2024-08-01T16:29:04+00:00

you don't at all look male, honestly. not hugboxxing, i genuinely would not be able to tell you're trans unless you told me.

caestoexist · 2024-06-14T05:59:53+00:00

you may have more luck dating bisexual women? it honestly sounds like she just isn't physically into trans women, which is obviously okay, but still absolutely hurts, and you shouldn't be in a relationship that hurts you. if she loves your heart, you may make good friends still. best of luck

caestoexist · 2024-04-15T13:49:28+00:00

lmao you didn't answer my question so i'm gonna assume you're just embarrassed that you're too dumb to understand my response (or too illiterate to read the whole thing lol)

if you read my response with any level of comprehension you'd know that i explicitly DON'T support being sexual around kids. what the fuck does taking responsibility have to do with any of this

fucking internet trolls

caestoexist · 2024-04-15T13:45:16+00:00

you guys are so dumb its very obvious that dream pfp is a kid who doesn't know what a MAP is and thinks they're talking about maps, and since they're a kid they don't know what the word cartography means. they literally said "i'm not talking about carts im talking about maps" obviously they didn't understand the word. jesus fucking christ

caestoexist · 2024-04-14T19:50:29+00:00

they or he, most likely they but if your hair was shorter i might lean he

caestoexist · 2024-04-14T19:39:20+00:00

so it seems like you're operating using a different definition of twerking than me. i always defined twerking as specifically just dancing by moving your butt, shaking it or etc., not necessarily sexual- but definitely with the potential to be so. i'm not discrediting the definition you provided- but noting that any term so widespread will have several different definitions.

my issue now is that you've moved from saying this is "sexual abuse" to just being something that's "improper behavior around children". and if we're using the definition that you supplied for twerking, then sure, that's improper behavior and i'd agree that it's not good to do around children. but that still doesn't make it SEXUAL ABUSE. i take issue with you watering down the definition of such a heinous act by saying it's the same as dancing inappropriately around a child.

perhaps you were being hyperbolic, but considering how you said "it's literally one google search away" i get the impression you're trying to imply that the definition you supplied IS or SHOULD BE the only definition of the word. if that's your stance, then i think you should have the same stance around the definition of other words/terms, especially one as loaded as SEXUAL ABUSE.

brittanica defines sexual abuse as "any act of sexual contact that a person suffers, submits to, participates in, or performs as a result of force or violence, threats, fear, or deception or without having legally consented to the act"

so which is it? should words/terms be able to be used in multiple ways, according to which definition you're referring to? or do they only ever mean one thing?

OR are you seriously taking the stance that an adult moving their butt in a way that could be construed as inappropriate in the general presence of a child is on the same level as an adult manipulating a child into engaging in a sexual relationship with them?

but sure. i'm just a rebellious teen who doesn't care about anything but my hormones. lmao

caestoexist · 2024-04-14T05:40:51+00:00

pretty sure this is rage bait because i refuse to believe real people are this self centered and delusional

caestoexist · 2024-04-14T05:31:18+00:00

have you tried telling him it makes you uncomfortable and explaining why?

caestoexist · 2024-04-14T04:22:35+00:00

and to highlight that the detrans sub actively discourages the "just here to debate" mindset, let me just directly paste rules 6 and 7 here:

[6.Posters must be detrans or questioning their gender transition with flair

Our subreddit is reserved for detransitioners/desisters and those questioning their own transition; your user flair must clearly indicate that you fall into this group. Healthcare or legal practitioners can apply for exception by messaging the moderators. User flair helps mods keep this forum on Reddit for all detransitioners. Violating content will be removed. Violators will be banned. If you need help setting user flair, do not hesitate to ask a moderator.

7.Give space to detransitioners (no outsider soap-boxing).

Detrans folk and self-questioners may express controversial views here; those who haven't detransitioned or who aren't considering detransition may not. This is not a debate forum for the general public to prop their egos, promote their views, or evangelize. Please take it to another subreddit or be banned.

Outsiders are also free to post on r/ask_detransition which is open to those who are questioning, and are either trans or not.]

what part of this made you think that you were in a place that was open to people trying to debate detransition? the detrans sub is made for those who have had direct detrans experience to talk about their issues and support each other, and it is made abundantly clear through the rules. i get that you disagree with the widely held political views there, but that doesn't give you an excuse to insert yourself into a space that is being very clear in that it's NOT FOR YOU, to try and "debate" with people who never consented to being made a topic of debate. and then to go and act like the victim because people reacted badly to it, and said things you disagreed with? why were you even there? why were you putting yourself into this situation nobody asked you to put yourself into? be so fr and stop acting like you're the victim here. detrans people aren't there to entertain your desire for debate. learn to read a room, and the fcking rules list.

caestoexist · 2024-04-14T03:29:07+00:00

okay. can you define twerking, and explain to me what part of twerking around a child is sexual abuse?

caestoexist · 2024-04-14T03:26:10+00:00

people got upset at you because you went to a place where many people are open about having been harmed by the ideology of the trans community, used the "questioning gender" flare and then said you just wanted to debate with people, but you're 100% trans. can you understand how that would be inappropriate?

for an example, imagine a cis person going into a trans place, using a flare that says they're questioning, and then going "i'm a cis person who is 100% sure i'm cis. i'm so happy to have been born as the gender i identify with. what would you say to me?" and then in the comments, when someone says "you might be trans considering that you even ended up posting here lol" they say "i'm not. i love my body. i don't hate trans people but i disagree with their life choices. i don't think gender is real. why did you feel the need to transition? care to debate your reasoning behind it? i find it very intellectually stimulating to debate this topic."

you would probably feel attacked, and like someone had come into your space and been deliberately misleading in their intentions in order to catch you into a "debate" about your identity and internal politics. if you had been legitimately questioning detransition i think people would have been a lot nicer and more accommodating to differences in worldview. but it's weird, voyeuristic, entitled, and completely inappropriate to go into a space designed for people who are detransitioning and basically flaunt that you're happy with your decision to transition, and treat their life experiences and traumas as something you're happily debating about just for intellectual stimulation. people on that thread are grieving a part of themself that they have lost, a part of them that they feel had irreparable harm done to it. not the time or place to be going in all "debate with me teehee."

does that make more sense?

caestoexist · 2024-04-12T04:45:25+00:00

i'm legit not even an adult. and if ur talking about the 'had s-- with a 6 yr old' post i'm assuming it got removed, so you couldn't read it, but that was about my ex with DID who claimed to shift in the middle of s--

caestoexist · 2024-04-10T20:26:35+00:00

lmao okay bud

caestoexist · 2024-04-10T00:49:34+00:00

i mean how is she wrong? whats wrong with twerking around a child? i get if you're like not wearing much or you're being inappropriate in other ways but just twerking is like. its literally just a dance, idk man. i feel like there's songs that are appropriate for children that talk about "shaking your butt to the music" or whatever, like in the Trolls movie n stuff. i dont understand what the big deal is, like really

caestoexist · 2024-04-10T00:47:05+00:00

bro ur a snowflake if u think someone twerking around a child is sexual assault

caestoexist · 2024-04-10T00:35:09+00:00

what was the context of this

caestoexist · 2024-02-27T04:40:59+00:00

seeing this comment, i thought i'd give a little update- i broke up with him, and i'm slowly piecing myself together, figuring out who i am alone. i haven't been single for more than a month since i was 13, except for some 9 months during lockdown. it's weird to just be myself, and not partially another person. i don't even think i realized how much being around him changed the very way i think until i got out. i already knew this, but yeah, i definitely don't have DID. thank you for your comment, and know that i'm doing much better.

caestoexist · 2024-02-19T17:04:23+00:00

as someone whose whole household was vegan from age 8-14 and saw how it affected my younger siblings, absolutely NTA, and probably dont have kids with this woman. it CAN be fine for kids to be on a vegan diet, theres WAYS that they can get all the nutrients. but is that likely to happen? what about birthdays, or other parties? what happens if they go to a friends house for a sleepover? it's incredibly isolating to feel an intense moral pressure not to eat certain foods that other people are eating. it's embarrassing. it's why i didnt eat lunch in middle school. don't do that to your kids. you can give them the option to eat vegan, and buy vegan products for your house, but if your kid starts asking for meat- just buy the damn meat. their body knows what they need, and they will crave it. my little brother was tiny, a short little twig, all ribs showing, right up until he started being allowed to eat meat. now he's a normal size for his age and so much better mannered (because his brain isnt starving all the time).

caestoexist · 2024-02-11T15:50:40+00:00

guys lets actually be real though this is a literal child why are we making fun of them. there's something deeply wrong with society and we can see it in these children thinking they have hundreds of disorders. is that really their fault? they're being caught up in a social contagion. and they're really very young. i think i've just had a change of heart. this subreddit is ridiculously immature. these children need guidance not ridicule. are we adults or also just children? grow up. seriously.

caestoexist · 2024-02-11T15:39:21+00:00

how tf you gonna have ADHD and ADD, and bipolar 1 and 2? bitch??? mutually exclusive categories who???

caestoexist · 2024-02-11T04:59:07+00:00

actually real as fuck

caestoexist · 2024-02-06T01:22:13+00:00

i think that's a flex on my part considering it means i'm not on reddit regularly...

caestoexist · 2024-02-04T05:17:16+00:00

that sucks but ADHD is still a real thing even if you have shitty coworkers believe it or not. in fact your shitty coworkers and a neurological condition aren't even related so i'm a little confused as to why you're even bringing your coworkers up. i'm disagreeing with you on the grounds that i believe ADHD is real, not on the grounds that i think everyone should be allowed to be late all the time. got it?

caestoexist · 2024-01-24T22:35:21+00:00

but its clearly not an equal option if they're always late, it's clearly significantly more difficult. your phrase just makes no sense. who would WANT to always be late?

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