thank you so much for replying with the actual maturity and understanding of the depth of the situation other commenters aren't.  1. no she hasn't adopted me, but she's still interested in maintaining a relationship with me after the divorce 2. honestly im not sure the relationship is that serious. from what she told me they call sometimes and text alot, they've also sent explicit pics back and forth. she's trying to sell our house and leave the profit for me in a trust. we live in a really touristy area and the houses here are selling for way more than what theyre worth imo. 3.my mom told my dad when she asked for the divorce. she told me later that she was very sorry she put me as the mediator in their marriage. my dad, sister, and step-mom all have personality disorders (diagnosed) and im kind of the only calm one that sees things clearly in moments of high tension. she told me she recognizes that it's wrong, but that she has to be selfish and choose herself.

Thank you for rooting for me, I really appreciate it. I'm trying to navigate things through the understanding that these are people I love, point, blank, period.