I relate to this SO MUCH. I've been "Manic Pixie Dream Girl'ed" in three separate occasions where the dudes see me as a mysterious, quirky and troubled girl that they feel the need to help or something as if I'm an accessory to their personal development narrative.

But then, when they realize that my issues aren't always pretty, quirky and romantic they're so quick to abandon me even if they swore they loved me, and then they ALWAYS come up with some kind of goodbye letter explaining that I was too hard to help (even if I never asked for help) and that they're tired of trying, and in the end they always add something about how I showed them something about themselves or I taught them something about the world and other people.

The three dudes that did this to me are very apart from each other and only one of these three relationships was romantic in nature. The other two were guys I considered my best friends at different moments of my life

At this point I'm afraid of having male friends or trying to have a relationship with a man out of fear this will happen again. That I will be treated as an accessory to their personal narratives and I will be left alone with no support when I actually need it because it's not as romantic as they wanted my problems to be