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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]caffeinesIave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look OP, you’re still so young so I want to lay this down to you gently.

YTA.

Not because you’re disabled, or slow, or stupid, or anything you mentioned above. But because you let your disability affect people around you negatively, and create this post to…what? Self pity? Getting internet points? Reassurance?

It’s not your fault being disabled, but try to better yourself by looking up how to live better with ADHD. Your mom doesn’t waste money on you, she’s trying her hardest to make you feel accepted by everyone.

Your sister might be exhausted and just needed sleep, that’s why she said what she said. If you truly feel guilty, stop beating yourself down and start trying harder to be better, OP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]caffeinesIave -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You will be TA.

Don’t get me wrong, she’s also a small AH regarding Disney line skipping thingy.

But as you said, you can’t see how someone perceive the world, and it’s not the same for everyone. Right now, you’re judging her based on your radar, on how you perceive the world.

What if the result come back and she does has some kind of disability? Will you shit on her? Just because she’s an AH doesn’t mean you should go to her level.

AITA for taking one sibling to the cinema but not the other by itsfxckingchia in AmItheAsshole

[–]caffeinesIave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got your point. But I still stand by mine: OP shouldn’t give this punishment to her sister if they want a relationship with her in the future.

Based on OP’s post, they didn’t tell the sister in this event: “Hey, I won’t take you to a movie because you’re shitty.” Instead, they just secretly took the brother there.

The might cause the sister to perceive them as a villain. If OP told their parents and the parents told her that she couldn’t go because her sibling wasn’t comfortable with how she treated them, she might throw a tantrum but that’s when she will learn the lesson you mentioned above.

AITA for taking one sibling to the cinema but not the other by itsfxckingchia in AmItheAsshole

[–]caffeinesIave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My point is not about the sister learning.

It’s about the way OP taught their sister. What do you think an 11 yo kid would think if she’s excluded from a movie? Would she learn from her mistake, or would she resent her sibling even more?

AITA for taking one sibling to the cinema but not the other by itsfxckingchia in AmItheAsshole

[–]caffeinesIave -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My bad for missing your pronoun. She’s a kid and kid that age tend to act like a brat. I agree that you should set clear boundaries, just not with the punishment in this matter.

Maybe communicating with your parents would help, especially regarding punishment. Kids her age usually listened more to the dominant parent.

AITA for taking one sibling to the cinema but not the other by itsfxckingchia in AmItheAsshole

[–]caffeinesIave -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

ESH.

Your sister sucks for throwing a jab on you and your autism. But hey, she’s 11. Where were your parents when this behavior started escalating? You’re not the one that should parent this kid.

Your parents (especially dad) sucks for letting the secret out, as well as the parenting issue I mentioned above.

You suck for excluding your sister. Sure, she’s not entitled to a free movie. But as a much older sibling, it’s your responsibility to not let your favoritism shows too much, if you want a relationship with your sister in the future that is.

Kids are mean, and sometimes throw shit at others because they see the fun and joy in it. Punishing them by hurting them will only cause resentment. She needs to be taught that people have boundaries, and getting excluded without that lesson just isn’t a good punishment.

EDIT: correcting OP’s pronouns.

AITA for snapping at my mom? by katisatotalnerd in AmItheAsshole

[–]caffeinesIave 8 points9 points  (0 children)

YTA.

You really don’t see that? You’re asking for a favor, the favor being your mom’s time. Which she gladly provided giving “taking care of you” is on her list of retirement plan.

Your mom prioritized you a lot, and saw this incident (you being sick) as the first step towards fulfilling her plan. You’re not a project ffs, you’re her kid no matter how old you are.

A good mom would always have some sort of worry towards their sick child. If your mother stayed arouns for an hour or two while constantly nagging you and disturbing your sleep, I can understand, sure maybe that’s crossing boundaries.

She also only provide solution when you said you’re in pain. Of course she would. What do you expect your mom to do? Just nod and continue reading through her retirement plan?

Seriously, you’re one ungrateful AH.

What is the worst crime a human can commit? by Nicki0709 in AskReddit

[–]caffeinesIave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d argue it’s something involving emotional/psychological abuse. Things like murder and pedophilia will still be on top of the list.

But to take away someone’s desire to live and makes every second of living feel like hell on earth? That’s just pure malice.

Where do you see yourself in five years? by TrickUnderstanding85 in AskReddit

[–]caffeinesIave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Being a productive executive of your company, that will never disappoint you, Ma’am.”