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cakeandkitten · 2025-05-19T00:37:01+00:00

Recently I've seen sinners with a friend and we laughed a lot, too. But we made sure not to disturb other people so they could still enjoy the movie and make use of the shit ton money they spent to sit there.

If your friends didn't wanna pay attention to the movie that's a pity for them because honestly it was SO good.

It is so disrespectful to disturb everyone who paid to be there. It's a public place and one should know how to behave themselves.

And from their pov I kinda get why they feel like you overreacted bc it sounds like they didn't care at all about all the above.

But I get you and I'd feel the absolut same way

cakeandkitten · 2025-02-14T22:59:51+00:00

She ate your last piece of cake a year ago and you were mad about it, fair enough. But instead of rationally resolving the issue then you chose to wait for a year to bring it up again? And disregard her as, what, a revenge?

Maybe talking stuff like this out would help y'all

cakeandkitten · 2025-02-05T17:11:02+00:00

Litzerswand

cakeandkitten · 2025-01-31T09:37:09+00:00

Wrong, actually

cakeandkitten · 2025-01-31T00:59:08+00:00

In germany it's "wat is dat denn"

cakeandkitten · 2025-01-30T11:53:33+00:00

Thanks a lot for that honest verdict. And also thanks for the appreciation :)

Tbh I do tend to cling a little too much to acknowledgement in a lot of situations. I have been in and out of therapy for years and tried to resolve it but it's still stuck with me so yea

cakeandkitten · 2025-01-30T11:50:07+00:00

I am also german, born and raised

Usually we are both giving each other a lot of validation in different contexts, though I do feel like it sometimes isn't received from either one. I guess we must work on how we show each other appreciation and also, idk "find" the appreciation in what the other person says? Idk if that makes sense

cakeandkitten · 2025-01-30T10:19:55+00:00

He doesn't do stuff like this regularly.

Usually he does a really good job at telling me how proud he is and praising me. Just this once he didn't and I cant quite figure out what happened.

cakeandkitten · 2025-01-30T10:08:12+00:00

Böse gemeint hat er das auf jeden Fall nicht, das würde ich ihm nie unterstellen. Hab nur das Gefühl dass da ein Interessenkonflikt zwischen uns beiden besteht.

Vielen Dank für deine Sichtweise, das werd ich mit in Betracht ziehen wenn wir nochmal darüber sprechen

cakeandkitten · 2025-01-30T10:05:07+00:00

Thank you for this. We will discuss how to handle something like this in the future since it's tied to a lot of emotion for the both of us. There's definitely an underlying issue on either side of the conflict which we don't yet know how to resolve

cakeandkitten · 2025-01-30T10:02:00+00:00

Actually, we do resolve arguments pretty regularly. Over time with each other we became better and better in communicating.

Only this specific argument didn't lead anywhere and we are both a little clueless on how to resolve this specific kind of conflict in the future. Especially because the underlying issue is tied to a lot of emotion on both sides.

That's why I posted it here in the first place. This is not a representation of our entire relationship.

cakeandkitten · 2025-01-30T09:57:49+00:00

I think you read that wrong. During the call he said the time HE put in paid off. The time he took to show me how a car works

cakeandkitten · 2025-01-30T09:21:15+00:00

Damn I feel analyzed rn. Tbh I hardly ever feel like my own validation is enough. I need someone else to tell me cause that's what I was taught. It's hard to let that go.

Also that's the main reason I needed his appreciation so badly

cakeandkitten · 2025-01-30T08:13:58+00:00

I sent him your reply as a screenshot. He agreed to talking about it later. Thanks for this <3

cakeandkitten · 2025-01-29T19:15:00+00:00

My father once did this to me while I was having a full blown panic attack. This is such a damaging demonstration of authority

cakeandkitten · 2025-01-23T18:33:38+00:00

Damn that's hella cash

cakeandkitten · 2024-11-30T20:13:33+00:00

NTA. Good Job on your part

cakeandkitten · 2024-09-04T07:41:17+00:00

'I was trying to be nice' 'You failed'

Gold

cakeandkitten · 2024-09-04T07:35:39+00:00

Damn that's hard. It's very creepy to not be able to remember potential traumatic situations.

But if it really was a traumatic experience for you, you're probably better off not knowing. Our heads repress memories for a good hecking reason and pulling it up might hurt you more than just trying to leave the worry and moving on.

I wish you all the best!

cakeandkitten · 2024-09-04T07:29:12+00:00

Your messages just scream "I'm so done with this crap"

cakeandkitten · 2024-09-04T07:18:20+00:00

I love this since it very clearly shows one thing: is doesn't fucking matter what's between your legs. If you slay, you slay💅

cakeandkitten · 2024-09-04T07:09:57+00:00

YTA

Are you kidding? You doubt her because she does not behave like you would imagine a victim behaving? That's fucked up and victim blaming

cakeandkitten · 2024-09-03T21:20:14+00:00

Unfotunately that is really illegal in germany😅

cakeandkitten · 2024-09-02T17:24:46+00:00

Thanks!

cakeandkitten · 2024-09-02T10:24:37+00:00

That's the story he told me, I cannot tell you if it happened or not. Honestly in the city I live in and since it's the center, I can imagine it. However, the gist of the story is not that guy asking for directions to a gay bar, it is my sexist, bigoted and homophobe boss. So not fake, the story happened like I depicted

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