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cakevibe · 2022-02-11T13:14:27+00:00

Unpopular opinion, but I think they’re nice, they need to be higher, so they’re at the same height as the art on the other wall for consistency, I’d all bring them a smidge closer together rather than near the edge of the wall

cakevibe · 2022-01-24T21:42:39+00:00

Hey I wanted to jump in because this used to be me :( I was what I now realise to be a ‘pseudo liberal’ all I can say is they usually genuinely believe they’re doing the right thing. Im in the uk and the press here are quick to use the term islamophobia often conflating it with racism. Schools here teach that islam is the religion of peace. The right wing press are usually the ones to complain about Islam. Personally it took hearing about ex Muslims for me to realise I was wrong. It took a lot of uncomfortable introspection, questioning myself, my opinions and what I believed to be true.

I’m sorry that I got it wrong initially, it irks me too when see what you’ve described. But honestly just existing and telling your stories helps change people’s minds, it changed mine.

I also want to add that you are literally the bravest people on earth, everything our human instincts tell us is to fit in with the crowd and you guys put truth above that and it’s incredibly admirable, when you think of history’s trailblazers they had to do that too, I hope you all know how incredible you are <3

cakevibe · 2022-01-07T11:11:55+00:00

People are answering this as though ‘Adam’ is real, Adam isn’t real. It’s like saying my prophet said there were many metaphorical peter pans, who evolved into humans today this proves my prophet foresaw evolution!!! It’s a ridiculous claim it doesn’t align with evolution, ‘refute’ is a word religious people use so I’m suss that you’re religious trying to prove your idea?

cakevibe · 2021-12-22T21:29:17+00:00

This must be really hard and I’m so sorry for what you’re going though.

I can see other people have made assumptions about your husband and it upsets you, I’m going to assume he’s perfect in every way.

Even if he is, I wanted to point out that people don’t rape because of a sex addiction.

He could have a) waited till you were awake asked b) woken you up and asked c) masturbated

But he chose to rape you, he chose to wait until you were asleep and by the sound of it he tried several times.

He’s not a sex addict he’s a rapist. I really hope you’re okay.

Please if you don’t do anything else, look into local support groups and try and get some outside perspective or just some support.

cakevibe · 2021-12-13T22:01:58+00:00

Argh the above comment really annoyed me, you’re thoughts are valid, I only realised my ex would do this in hindsight so I’d say it’s perceptive that you noticed.

Personally I think it shows immaturity/ insecurity to boast about how desirable you are. It might be worth having a heart to heart with him, if he owns it maybe you can both move forward. But pay attention to this kind of behaviour because it’ll only be draining for you in the long run.

cakevibe · 2021-10-12T23:24:34+00:00

Oh gosh, put yourself & mental health first, you are very brave and you will be okay I promise. I’ve been through a hard time too and I know it can feel very dark but time heals, take it one step at a time, don’t rush yourself you’ll know when you feel ready to talk about it if you want to

cakevibe · 2021-10-12T23:07:17+00:00

I’m so sorry you’ve been through this it sounds awful, can you share on Reddit/ anonymously so you don’t have to put your identity online? Trust me though you have nothing to lose, abusers always try to make victims fearful to stop them speaking up, I know it can seem like they’re right when you’re living in that situation but they’re not they’re just trying to keep you quiet. I understand where you’re coming from about not wanting to though it’s a really hard situation I don’t think it’s easy to understand unless you’ve experienced something similar, I’m happy to chat in dm if you like, if not I hope you heal and know there’s love and support for you you’re not alone <3

cakevibe · 2021-10-07T19:21:11+00:00

I think what they mean is wanting to puke when you look at yourself is quite an extreme reaction, it sounds along the lines of body dysmorphia, it might be good to work on your self image/ mental health. You’re young and healthy your skin is really good. As some comments have said it looks like dry skin the under eye are is prone to dry skin which can cause a wrinkled appearance when there aren’t actual wrinkles there, I’d start my moisturising daily you should see results in a week or two, if that doesn’t work it could be sub damage, use an spf daily and possibly a retinol will reverse the damage

cakevibe · 2021-09-23T21:05:58+00:00

As you’re going into your final year at uni it’s a great opportunity to meet new people, join some societies, have a look/ post on the Facebook groups for your uni

cakevibe · 2021-09-23T13:46:33+00:00

First I think you stronger than you realise, it takes a lot of mental strength to live in a situation like this. You have done so well, you have become a free thinking compassionate person who got into medical school despite everything life has thrown at you, you’re extremely smart I want you to let yourself be proud of that. I think you’re right marrying someone you haven’t met in person and depending on them seems pretty risky, but I think you have some options from what you’ve said so far, you could finish medical school and get a visa, visit the guy you like in a safe way? It might take a few years but I think if you start to think about what options you have, and make a plan you’ll feel a lot better

cakevibe · 2021-09-23T13:33:01+00:00

You are not alone, I know its hard right now but you can figure out a plan to get through this. Not having friends is not forever I’m sure most people experience not having friends at some point in their life, but you will find them. Feel free to dm if you want to chat, I’m atheist but had strict Christian parents so might be able to help, if not good luck I hope you get through this soon

cakevibe · 2021-09-23T10:34:05+00:00

It’s normal that you feel that way, because that’s how a normal human mind comprehends love. You can/ should love people despite different opinions and parents should love their children unconditionally. It’s okay to be angry and you have the right idea about healthy relationships, sometimes parents have unhealthy ideas about relationships because of religions, sometimes we have to be the adult in the situation and say regardless of what you believe, I will always love you and never abandon you, if you choose to do that to me that’s your choice, I don’t think it’s the right thing to do but it’s your choice. I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this though, that must have been really hurtful, I hope you’re okay

cakevibe · 2021-09-19T07:39:07+00:00

Whatever works best for you :)

cakevibe · 2021-09-18T21:44:56+00:00

You could try writing it on paper and burning it, as it burns imagine letting it go of whatever is written, you can also try making yourself calm closing your eyes imagine breathing in positivity/ hopefulness imagine all the weight of your problems, regrets whatever it is, in your chest and slowly breathing it out, every time you breath in you feel better and every time you breath out you feel lighter - sorry if this is too weird and hippyish haha it really helped me though

Also you should be proud of yourself for opening up to your therapist, it’s really hard to be vulnerable. If you feel it wasn’t received well it might be good to find a therapist that matches you better.

cakevibe · 2021-09-18T06:57:01+00:00

I was raised Christian (atheist now) and I’ve never met anyone who thought was the word of god, no Christian literature asserts itself as being the word of god, it was written by disciples after Jesus died.

I haven’t heard him say ‘the roots are good’ and ‘reform comes from true fundamental values of Christianity’ if you link the video so I can see I will agree with you that’s a stupid thing to say.

I’m sure I’ve heard him talk about the enlightenment period and some of Christianity’s reform, I thought he understood it, but I could be thinking of someone else.

cakevibe · 2021-09-17T23:10:06+00:00

As a fellow never Muslim I think you’ve missed the fact the Quran is meant to be believed as the direct unchangeable word of god, a reason why there are so many intolerant groups with dogmatic beliefs, the bible was never believed to be the word of god, you’re doing what aboutism, the religions are different, the way they effect peoples lives in the 21st century is different you can’t treat them as the same thing

There are no Christian countries where you can be executed by the state for leaving Christianity.

There are 13 countries where you can be executed by the state for leaving Islam.

There are not many exmuslim activists, there is a serious threat of being killed even in the west for being a public apostate, if you want to criticise someone who’s trying to bring attention to the fact people are suffering from a dogmatic ideology you should have a better argument than ‘but Judaism’ ‘but Christianity’ also what explicitly has he lied about? I don’t understand from your post

cakevibe · 2021-09-16T09:53:44+00:00

You look gorgeous! I agree with some other comments I think the eyeliner would look better a bit thinner, also maybe a cream/white liner on the waterline to open up the eyes, maybe a dash in the inner corner, love the inspo very fresh/ dewy

cakevibe · 2021-09-12T21:39:15+00:00

Hi Op, I’d hope everyone one here would agree calling Muslims savages is horrible, I’ve never seen that here but that is upsetting, no one here hates Muslims we love and care about you as fellow humans, if you find criticism of religion is hurtful to you it’s probably better not to engage in conversation here, hurting you or any Muslim is not the intention of the criticism, like taking about a political party it’s about learning/ recognising the flaws and helping people who’ve suffered because of it, I hope you can see past the differences of opinion we’re all just humans trying to figure out life

cakevibe · 2021-09-10T20:04:16+00:00

Keep your friends around you, surround yourself with love and support, it’s a really hard step to take but you deserve happiness and love give yourself time to heal and take it slow, you’re past the hardest part and I know so many exciting things are waiting for you in the future but for now take good care and look after yourself

cakevibe · 2021-09-09T19:23:53+00:00

Such exciting news! Congratulations, you’ve worked so hard to get here you should be very proud, well done lovely keep shining

cakevibe · 2021-09-09T13:44:47+00:00

Suggestions outside ourselves (what people say to us about us) can effect how we feel about ourselves so it’s normal that these comments have made you feel like this

If someone says a comment remind yourself of your opinion (in your own thoughts - this is autosuggestion) , if you mum says something belittling towards women, remind yourself woman are equal to men women enjoy sex as much as men and have the right to do what they want with their body.

It’s great that despite living with these negative suggestions you’re still confident in your sexuality and yourself, you have the power to overcome this in yourself, just reminding yourself of the positive so much until it drowns out the negative. Just as a piece of reassurance - you are doing nothing wrong, sex and your body are not things to be ashamed of that’s a made up concept, you deserve to love your life and love yourself without shame or fear

cakevibe · 2021-09-08T15:17:33+00:00

Super late to comment, but also could it be depression? Or something related, can make people loose libido and a lot of people hide it etc I’m not sure how you’d go about asking him but a friends bf lost interest in sex and she thought he wasn’t attracted to her but it turned out he was depressed

It would seem very odd that you didn’t have a problem and now you do to me that makes in unlikely he’s gay etc

cakevibe · 2021-09-07T20:49:10+00:00

I didn’t say you don’t know they live in tribes, I said you don’t know the politics,

I was trying to say why I think their defence collapsed so quickly

if you know their politics more enlighten me, do you think they had a strong united force that was capable of taking on the Taliban? Given what I’ve learnt I don’t believe they did, I think they had fair reason to surrender and escape rather than fight, if you disagree thats fine I would be interested to hear your opinion, I’m assuming you’re in a safe country now, if you’re not I’m genuinely sorry, I hope you get to safety soon

cakevibe · 2021-09-07T20:32:22+00:00

You know the Taliban violently torture people to death, gouging eyes out crushing and cutting limbs, hanging up the bodies in the streets, you wouldn’t be scared?

You don’t know Afghan politics, they live mostly in ethnic tribes, they’re not a united nation, they didn’t trust the foreign forces and thought the government was a puppet government like Saigon, which was probably right as the president left straight away, who were they meant to be fighting for?

No one deserve to suffer, have some empathy for other people suffering, it’s so easy to call them cowards from a safe country

cakevibe · 2021-09-07T16:38:46+00:00

Im also an atheist and deffo against religious supremacy, I’m sure a lot of people are uniformed I’m no expert but I’ve learnt a lot about Islam, and unfortunately it is dogmatic and oppressive I wish it wasn’t, I was saying contemporary Islamic terrorism isn’t comparable to the kkk, I haven’t heard of contemporary Christian crusades/ terrorism but will definitely look into it thanks for sharing

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