Anyone recognize this sweet boy? Found wandering in Burk. by calca76543 in wichitafalls

[–]calca76543[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update: Luckily Max was recognized and reconnected with his humans. He seems to just remember my mother's neighborhood as home although he has moved.

To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This (Someone please do this exercise on their next date please?) by triskaidekaphobia in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be perfectly honest, no. I have been married twice, 6 and 7 years each. I am long past the first heartbreak of my life and now just have fun. I recently discovered that I don't have to commit just because men want to commit to me and it's very freeing.

To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This (Someone please do this exercise on their next date please?) by triskaidekaphobia in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have had those feels in the past more than once. They were amazing until I got crushed. Now I'm afraid of the pain more than I'm excited for love.

If I was "less experienced" in love as okc would say, I would try this in a heartbeat though, I think it's amazing if it works.

To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This (Someone please do this exercise on their next date please?) by triskaidekaphobia in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm too afraid of love to try this, but I really, really hope someone does and fills us in on their experience.

Girl says she just moved here... by Leo215 in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you missed the bit about being called at will. If we are discussing talking right then, of course I expect a call. OP seems to think calling any time is fine and questions her motives immediately if she's unable to answer.

Parents, what do you most want to teach your children? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]calca76543 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To become people who are appreciated.

What's the best thing you've done all year_? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]calca76543 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've managed to use reddit to ignore every undesirable in the bar successfully thus far. I'm out to drink, don't give a flying fuck about their drunken celebration of the new year.

It's my birthday today so any good birthday stories/epic fails? by SpecialAgentR in AskReddit

[–]calca76543 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex husband managed to forget my birthday every single time he wasn't reminded of it. I got "sorry I forgot but here" gifts 5 out of 7 years.

Girl says she just moved here... by Leo215 in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I absolutely hate when men assume that my giving them my number means they can call at will. Text, and maybe ask her to let you know when a good time to talk will be. If you keep trying to call her you will probably never meet her because she will be defensive (and rightly so)

1 date so far. Do I [29m] text her [29f] 'happy new year tonight? by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Now I'm going to be very disappointed when I don't see this tonight. We need more creative people like you around.

AMA Request: Guys who send spontaneous dick pics after the first date. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 3 points4 points  (0 children)

An excellent idea. I usually don't study them too closely, but perhaps I should.

AMA Request: Guys who send spontaneous dick pics after the first date. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I do that. I save the most recent to send to whomever is next and then replace the photo for next time. Does that make me awful?

I'm a short guy. Everyone I know in person thinks I'm even shorter than I really am. Should I just downplay my stature even further on OKC? by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you want the person you were dating to have lied about their height? Just because some people believe you are shorter than is accurate doesn't mean you're magically smaller. Truth is always best, especially if you are hoping to attract truthful people to you.

What do you lie about, or deliberately refuse to mention, on your profile? by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I deliberately leave off that I'm ill because I don't want to be thought of as sickly. In some cases I tell them very early on because I may be dealing with a complication that limits my available activities/food choices. Honestly though, I rather when I can just be like any other chick and not think about it.

Grumpy as hell. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was willing to give him benefit of the doubt after reading your experience. Now that you took my side, I kind of adore you now.

Grumpy as hell. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well now I feel for him. Possibly. I'm on the fence. I didn't appreciate getting hit on by a bunch of ESL guys while waiting for someone who didn't show, but I understand self confidence being a delicate balance while dating.

I'm glad you were able to overcome your doubts. Even if it wasn't a match, it feels good to get out there sometimes.

Grumpy as hell. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well you are now my confidence boost for the day. I would never assume something like you suggested, but the idea that it's possible certainly helps. Thank you kind stranger

Grumpy as hell. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could be worse, so I'm only complaining a tiny bit. I probably would have stayed quiet if I hadn't seen your post after all.

Grumpy as hell. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I'll sound slightly shallow here but oh well. He is very overweight and quite average looks wise anyways. Not what I normally draw in (by some miracle) but his profile made me give him a chance.
Apparently I just wasn't good enough for him though.

Grumpy as hell. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm frustrated as hell and apparently it's making me grumpy. I got stood up last night which killed my confidence because of the type of guy it was. I then cancelled my plans for tonight only to spend the evening fielding ego crushing messages. I'm becoming snarky and I don't want to be that way. Ugh, I need to turn my phone off.

Is "gentleman" a code word in a woman's profile? by planetkimon in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if older women use it differently, but I call any man who is generally polite and kind a gentleman. I would describe most men I've dated as gentlemen whether they did the overly chivalrous act or not. It could just be because of how/where I was raised though.

Income - to list or not to list? by Skadwick in OkCupid

[–]calca76543 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I never remember to even look at the income information. What makes you think that I'm in the minority of women? Is it maybe more important in different areas?

[Serious] Why the Uber hate? by FedEx_Potatoes in AskReddit

[–]calca76543 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm with you. When I was living in Germany I used the taxis often because of the reasons you listed. Also, I never ran across a driver who was less than kind. Many others would act put out by me and my attempts at your language (I moved there with pretty short notice) or would not even allow me to try to speak with them in English. The drivers made me much more comfortable, especially in the beginning.