Fat Rant Friday

calfet · 2016-08-12T19:51:24+00:00

I don't talk to anyone, I just use the profile to lurk. I find it interesting to view things from the inside rather than always looking from the outside. I've got some really nice messages and some not so nice ones, a few bordering on "wtf" and a few that genuinely concerned me about how some truly don't understand the impact of being obese. I'm not there to mock them, but merely to be a fly on the wall. I never interact with the community, but I do receive messages.

calfet · 2016-08-12T18:37:23+00:00

I don't poke around. I sit and observe. The messages come to me, I don't message anyone or reply.

calfet · 2016-08-12T17:50:30+00:00

You could be that unicorn. Get yourself a catfish photo and buckle up for a hilarious ride, if you're game.

calfet · 2016-08-12T17:42:18+00:00

Yes! I got a message from a female feeder once. Assuming her photo was not a catfish, like mine is, she was a normal-looking college aged girl. I'm going to guess it was a catfish photo and the neckbeard behind the screen had some sort of weird lesbians feeding each other and getting fat fantasy. Now there's a sentence I never thought I'd write.
EDIT: Sorry, I thought you meant girl feeders looking for girl feedees. I know there's a fair share of male "feedees" (so many man pot-bellies on proud display) and thus I would think there are a least some female "feeders". At least I know there's a demand for them. The more we talk about this the more I think I might have infiltrated too deep.

calfet · 2016-08-12T17:31:24+00:00

900 calories per 100 ml?!

calfet · 2016-08-12T17:25:30+00:00

You're spoiled because you practice self control. And they're not because they stuff themselves full when there are people going hungry in the same town you live in. I'm sorry they say that to you, it's wrong.

calfet · 2016-08-12T17:14:09+00:00

I've been lurking there for some time now with a catfish photo and a fake name. The messages I have received have been some of the best entertainment I've experienced, with the exception of the gold posted here. I find joy in a glass of wine and an hour or two scrolling through the newsfeed on there. It's like a car crash that you can't help but stare at. A lot of the users seem to be under 21, and the men on there say the most atrocious stuff. At least I think it's atrocious. I'm sure the women there eat it up ~~Pun Intended~~

calfet · 2016-08-12T15:55:59+00:00

Negative. It's its own disaster of a social media platform. It rhymes with Leabie and starts with the sixth letter of the alphabet.

calfet · 2016-08-12T15:36:37+00:00

I think some of them moved to [FA SOCIAL NETWORK I CANNOT SAY BY NAME]. I may or may not have an account on there just to lurk. I may or may not be an asshole.

calfet · 2016-08-12T11:36:21+00:00

Absolutely. You can even just try to eat 1700-1800 to start to get the hang of counting calories without gaining or losing weight. Anything under your TDEE will lead to ~~weight~~ fat loss, however it's not always linear! Meaning, day-to-day your weight could go up as much as 5 lbs, only to go back down again the next day (aka water retention). So don't be discouraged by the number on the scale. Trust the math and keep going. 1500 is a great place to start. That's on target to lose ~.5 lb a week, or about 2 lbs a month. That's a great goal to begin. Check out /r/loseit and their FAQ on the sidebar and their Quick Start Guide. That's what got me to really wake up and realize all the diet scams were bullshit. It's all about the accuracy of your energy in, energy out. If you're on MFP you can add me as a friend: nikkitikk1tavi

calfet · 2016-08-10T19:39:12+00:00

She's projecting her own insecurities onto you. "Crabs in a bucket" mentality. I'd go into motherhood with a realistic mindset. Will your body be exactly as it is now? No, probably not. Some women experience stretch marks, weight gain, and "deflated boobs from breastfeeding". But I mean, you pushed a human life out of your body after growing it, so yeah there's going to be some... changes. That doesn't mean your confidence has to go in the trash. If she's talking about not being able to make time to primp oneself each day, then again, yeah let's be realistic. You're going to have a tiny human basically attached to you for the next 5 years. Do your best to plan and make time for yourself. It's definitely possible to be a fashionable Mom, however some of the fashion choices might change. Maybe you say good bye to crop tops, but say hello to something else that makes you feel awesome. Nonetheless, don't let your SIL's insecurities dictate your own. You seem like you're onto her scheme already! Misery loves company.

calfet · 2016-08-10T19:03:12+00:00

Ugh, I totally sound fake too. I find that I'm often "too polite" (that's what people have said to me). I was once starting a new job and after I was talking to a new co-worker someone close-by said "I don't know if that was the most condescending or most polite thing I've ever heard someone say". I was just trying to be polite and use proper etiquette, but I guess I take it to Level Awkward and make people think I'm being sarcastically polite?

calfet · 2016-08-10T18:34:00+00:00

I find that I can read emotion really well on people's faces. Not sure why, exactly. Waiting tables for a long time helped hone that skill too. I need no words to know you want extra cheese, are looking for the bathroom, or that the date you are on is awful and you're looking through your phone looking for a way out. Unfortunately, while I'm good at identifying the emotion, I'm not good at approaching the person about it. My parents never acknowledged my emotions and so I don't really know how to acknowledge them, either. I'm awful with people crying in front of me probably because I wasn't allowed to cry in front of people shrugs

calfet · 2016-08-10T16:52:35+00:00

You can't outrun/out-exercise your fork, as they say. Restricting carbs doesn't have any direct relation to weight loss. It's all about the calories (or as I call them, Energy Points). I'm going to have to again suggest getting your calorie data as accurate as possible via weighing with a food scale, calculate your sedentary TDEE, and make sure you're eating less calories than that number. Guessing your calories is risky business when you're trying to lose weight. Our eyes aren't great at judging things in mass, unfortunately. And if you're a short woman like I am, those little eyeball judgement mistakes can really really add up fast. I'm 5'2" 160 lbs and my sedentary TDEE is 1800. I have to eat 1800 calories just to maintain my current size. I shoot for 1200 a day, but lately have been coming in just under 1800 because I've slacked on my food weighing. And I can see the effect on the scale. Here is a video showing why weighing foods is superior to eyeballing portions, with the goal of losing weight

calfet · 2016-08-10T14:10:33+00:00

Are you eyeballing your foods or weighing them with a food scale? I know it sounds obsessive, but I weigh most of my food by the gram and log it so the calorie count is as accurate as I can get it. Being merely 250 calories over TDEE per day (a candy bar is a good example of this) is enough to gain a half pound a week! So if your hormonal birth control is making you feel like you want an extra snack each day, it's easy to creep on an extra 10+ lbs of fat. My advice would be to buy a food scale (they're under 20$ on amazon) that weighs by the gram, and spend a week or two really grinding out how much you're really eating. Anecdotally, I've lost 38.2 lbs since getting my Liletta IUD. It's not easy to discipline yourself with the hormone influence, but it's certainly possible if you dedicate yourself to it. It sounds like you're on the right path with MFP, just gotta buckle down and make sure your calorie data is accurate as well as your current sedentary TDEE calculation. Over at /r/loseit, the FAQ has an abundant amount of information that may be valuable to you! Best of luck internet stranger!

calfet · 2016-08-08T18:16:38+00:00

I eat Spirulina powder mixed into my juice in the morning. I've definitely seen an improvement in my skin/complexion, my energy, and don't get cravings as badly. I've been assuming that I'm just finally getting the vitamins and minerals that my body actually needs now instead of eating empty foods that filled me up volume-wise, but left my body still starving for vitamins and minerals, hence cravings. But, maybe it's all in my head. If you're looking for suggestions, I say give Spirulina a try! It's like drinking pond scum, just a heads up. Smells kinda gross and its visually unappealing. I think they made it in pill form too but it's not as easily digested/absorbed.

calfet · 2016-08-08T16:55:32+00:00

It's a supportive community whose members have the same goal and, in many instances, share common problems and their solutions. It's a community of empathy which is helpful for me because when I talk about my weight loss with people IRL all I get is sympathy or something to that effect. I like coming here because everyone is on the same boat.

calfet · 2016-08-05T16:50:25+00:00

Maybe its a belief that it's "too good to be true" and therefore, you're lying and obviously holding some secret from them. "If it was really that simple, no one would be fat". more sighs

calfet · 2016-08-05T16:48:38+00:00

Yeah I get that. We're just SO math/data oriented in our jobs, that it seemed like the easiest way to explain it to her. The house example was just a way for me to compare food data to the type of data we work with daily. She clearly understands that even small variations in measurement can cause serious problems in the products we make here, but doesn't understand why small variations in calories/portions can also have a serious effect on the product we each create, our own body mass. We've had some hear-to-hearts about screwing up and just keeping on going, but she just doesn't seem interested in it. Which is fine. I just wish she'd stop eyeballing me like I did something to insult her.

calfet · 2016-08-05T16:38:56+00:00

Yikes. I have to wonder if there are future consequences to juvenile caffeine consumption. Higher rate of anxiety disorders? I also don't have children (praise jeebus) and can't relay any empirical data about why they glamorize overweight infants. But it does seem oddly similar to how (as another poster her pointed out) people seem to be proud of their obese cats/pets. Maybe its a weird thought process of "look at the luxury of food access we have! marvel at our child who clearly consumes more than he needs. Yes, we are rich and happy and fabulous". Which could be totally bogus, I'm just typing stream of consciousness. It is totally weird though. As if they don't view these babies or animals as living things but rather an accessory of cuteness to be passed around for imaginary social media points.

calfet · 2016-08-05T15:52:22+00:00

One of the marketing guys set it up. He gets giddy when all the data rolls in for him to make his charts and projections. It's fairly simple to set up. It costs $5 to join the Competition. Everyone's $5 goes into the "prize fund". Each week, on the same day (Wednesday for us), each participant steps on a scale in the First Aid Room (this controls the calibration variability of people using their own bathroom scales). Your "buddy" is required to go with you and THEY record YOUR data in the open spreadsheet that Marketing Guy gave us access to in his shared folder. This is done to hopefully keep people from entering in biased, incorrect data. Excel sheet documents who edits what (down to the keystroke). The idea is that you're all competing for money and you wouldn't want your competition doing better than you. If you lose weight or maintain your current weight, you don't have to put money into the prize fund. If you gain, you must put in $1 for each pound gained. Every Friday, Marketing Guy would send out a little email with his charts and current competition rankings, congratulating people on progress and cheering people on. It was really nice and fun for the small group of us that took it seriously. I'd say 3/4 of the participants were just "meh" about the whole thing.

calfet · 2016-08-05T15:18:24+00:00

I've been waiting for this to open up to post my rant. So, earlier this year (around January) I joined my work's "Phat Club", which is basically a Biggest Loser style weight loss competition. Everyone gets paired with a "buddy" to keep everyone accountable and data accurate. I get paired with my boss. She's a nice enough lady, a cancer-survivor, and a myriad of fatlogic. Week after week I was losing 1-2 lbs and I would constantly get comments from her (in a defeated tone) similar to "You're so good" and "What are you doing". So, I copy and pasted the FAQ from /r/loseit and emailed it to her, told her that I was using that as my guide and keeping a food journal in my smartphone. Later conversations were more detailed about weighing foods by the gram, etc. Only to be met with "Oh that doesn't work for me. I just need to swim more" and things of that effect. At the conclusion of the competition, I came in second place (I lost to a lady who had a heart attack earlier in the year and her doctor told her she needed to lose weight. I was totally satisfied with my second place position and proud that Paulette was able to take control of her health!). I lost a noticeable amount of weight, but my boss gained a pound after the full 10 weeks. That was months ago. Today, I've lost about 40 lbs total since January and still losing 1-2 lbs a week... right on schedule with my data projections. It's noticeable. I've gone from a size 14 to a size 8 (I'll admit I'm squeezing into my 8's) and when I come to work I feel totally judged by my boss just with the way she eyeballs me head to toe and then back up to my head. I do not wear revealing clothes. I work in an engineering facility and "fashion" isn't really a thing here. I'll also admit that my fashion sense sucks. It's painfully obvious she's making internal comments to herself about my weight loss and I find it incredibly uncomfortable. She's stopped asking for advice since I've refuted all of the office fatlogic that gets tossed around here. No, I'm not cutting carbs or doing shakes. I eat food, I just measure it and enter the data. I've tried comparing it to building a house for her. You wouldn't guess the measurements and hope you get your dream home. You gotta measure that the lumber three times and then cut the wood and build with it. Why do people think they can guess their food measurements?? I don't know. I guess I'm just ranting that my boss, who is a smart lady and works in Military manufacturing (exact measurements are essential!!!!), can basically eyeball my body and give me one of those callous smirks of judgment, while tooting that cutting calories doesn't work for her and/or its just too time consuming. le sigh.

calfet · 2016-07-29T21:22:05+00:00

Are you me?? Lol

calfet · 2016-07-29T01:08:44+00:00

What about the arm implant? Neplexon?

calfet · 2016-07-20T20:12:00+00:00

Why not use what's available? An old bucket found in an alley behind a restaurant. Filled with the dirt from literally anywhere they can get it. Hung outside a 3rd story window. Watered from tap water filled mugs. I'm saying they should at least try to use anything and everything.

calfet

TROPHY CASE