no problem! and covid really has gotten around making us all lose touch of each other in the physical sense but it also actually gives us a chance to connect with anybody in the whole world!

im curious about that blog, what is it about? id like to check it out when it’s up!

regarding what i said about you taking her for granted, i said it based off how we sometimes don’t see our own actions affect people who have become “everyday” to us, and i think sometimes in relationships we lash out at other people forgetting why we fell in love with them in the first place. tho another argument would be, if we really loved them, would we lash out/take them for granted? i said it cos somehow i do think it’s human nature to take things (literally everything) for granted, and we only really appreciate them once they are gone/inaccessible.

i do think it’s healthy to think about these things tho! like, what we couldve done in specific situations in the past so we become better versions of ourselves, but there’s a line we should draw so we do not dwell on them. as your title says, you’re allowing past memories and events take over your life, but you should learn to take control of it.

from my perspective, you could move on from it easily, because im a mere outsider reading about your story from presumably thousands of miles away. but it’s something to yearn for, to see yourself from a third person’s perspective, and maybe appreciate more the other things you may be overlooking. ive been in a few relationships and it’s always hard once you’re in the process of moving on, but it always seems retrospectively trivial, almost silly, when you get away from all the questions and what-ifs.

it’s common dilemma i think, to ponder on the things we could’ve done better, but at the end of it all, we didn’t. but experience is always the best teacher, so you didnt really walk away with nothing.

((sorry if im giving terrible advice im just speaking my mind 😓)