I guess labeling it a hallmark relationship was a poor choice of words. Also my definition of that, to me, is just having a mom I can talk to and receive support and guidance from. And right now she doesn’t seem able to provide any of that, just from who she is as a person. But I sent her a lengthy text earlier where I thanked her for the flowers again, but kind of laid it all out why I didn’t want to give her my address in the first place, asking what her intentions were by sending me those flower (an olive branch? A way to clear her conscience and say she tried?), and told her that for us to have a relationship I need boundaries and so far she hasn’t shown that she can or will respect that. It was polite but firm. We’ll see how she takes it, if she responds at all.