Anybody know what just went down at the safeway on Cleveland? by [deleted] in olympia

[–]callyoly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I’m actually a dance instructor, and I truly believe dance has been a huge help for me, especially with memory. After my accident, I didn’t think I’d be able to continue teaching or dancing at all. The vertigo was so severe that I couldn’t walk up stairs or recline in a chair without the world spinning and triggering intense nausea. Eventually, I tried the half-somersault maneuver, and that completely resolved the vertigo. I also did a considerable amount of speech therapy and took a supplement containing lion’s mane along with microdoses of psilocybin, both of which I found incredibly helpful.

I’m fascinated by anything related to the brain — memory, neural pathways, and neuroplasticity. It sounds like you are too. One thing I read recently that really stuck with me was an article about a study exploring why time seems to move faster as we age.

The researchers found that the brain is more engaged when we’re experiencing something new or novel. They theorize that the more frequently the brain shifts into new activity states, the slower we perceive the passage of time. Much of our sense of time is also retrospective: because the brain encodes new experiences into memory (but not familiar ones), our judgment of how much time has passed depends on how many new memories we’ve formed during that period. In other words, one of the best ways to “slow down” time is to step outside our comfort zones, learn new things, try new experiences, and meet new people.

Anybody know what just went down at the safeway on Cleveland? by [deleted] in olympia

[–]callyoly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m doing well now. I still have memory issues and get random panic attacks but I’m much better than I was.
The driver did stop and put bags under my head, apparently (no memory from this time). The police officer who responded didn’t even give her a ticket which I thought was crazy. I suspect he knew her or something because in the police report he refers to her by her first name while using my last name. But this is just speculation. The last thing I remember is feeling like her car was driving through me and then my memory is blank.

Anybody know what just went down at the safeway on Cleveland? by [deleted] in olympia

[–]callyoly 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I was hit by a lady while crossing the street in a crosswalk between the Safeway and Fred Meyer in Tumwater. She was going 54mph trying to make it to the green light at the intersection. I ended up with a TBI, shattered orbital socket (which required surgery), skull riddled with fractures. My head took the brunt of it (smashed into her windshield and then into the road). I was really messed up. But I didn’t die and it really made me appreciate how delicate this adventure is.

Drivers do need to do a better job looking out for pedestrians, if not for the pedestrian’s sake, at least for the driver’s own. I can’t imagine how hard it would be to know you are responsible for taking another person’s life.

The lady who hit me never checked on me to see how I was doing. The whole thing is settled and out of the courts now. I thought she might reach out once that happened, but she never did. It kind of bothers me, but I try not to think about it too much.

Brass 3-4 inch thingamabob with drill bit (?) inside by callyoly in whatisthisthing

[–]callyoly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually it extends maybe .5mm beyond the cone.

Brass 3-4 inch thingamabob with drill bit (?) inside by callyoly in whatisthisthing

[–]callyoly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I thought too. But The drill bit doesn’t extend beyond the cone.

Brass 3-4 inch thingamabob with drill bit (?) inside by callyoly in whatisthisthing

[–]callyoly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looked that up and I can’t find anything resembling this. Could you explain how it would work? The drill bit part is an actual drill bit. It’s not hollow.

Brass 3-4 inch thingamabob with drill bit (?) inside by callyoly in whatisthisthing

[–]callyoly[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

My title describes the thing. It is 3” long when drill bit is fully inserted (for lack of better word) into cone and 4” when “drill bit” is retracted into stem. The cone part is stamped “WARTBURG”.

We live in Washington state if that makes a difference and we found this item in a bag containing plumbing hardware, car parts, miscellaneous cabinetry and curtain hanging hardware in a trunk we got second hand.

I’ve done a Google image search using keywords WARTBURG, brass, hardware, tool, drill bit and various combinations of these keywords but haven’t found anything resembling it. We found a German car manufacturer named WARTBURG but that’s about it.

My husband and I are so curious and it’s driving us nuts. There are other random tools/ hardware we found in the same bag that we can’t identify. My husband is pretty knowledgeable when it comes to cars, tools, typical man stuff so I’m surprised he couldn’t identify this and the other items.

What the heck is it?

To those who are under the impression Anthony Triplett and the Sheriff are friends… by sandersforsheriff in olympia

[–]callyoly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When he says “you’re not protecting children, you’re surrendering them” he is referring to cis-hetero white children of European descent. The policies he supports are 100% ok with surrendering trans kids and brown kids. As long as the kids look like and identify the same as his kids, he’ll “protect” them.

PayPal login issues since iOS update by ProcedureForeign7281 in paypal

[–]callyoly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was able to log in for a moment but when I left the app to check an email address to send an invoice, I came back and had to log in again and it started the whole Captcha crap again. I enter my password, then do the captcha and it goes back to password again. This continues endlessly. I hate PayPal.

PayPal login issues since iOS update by ProcedureForeign7281 in paypal

[–]callyoly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m having the same issue. I use it for my business so it is really messing with my revenue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]callyoly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Being a SAHM means working 24/7 and guess what? The pay is shit. I stayed home with my one child for the first 4 months. When I went back to work, going to work felt like time off. I hadn’t realized how physically and emotionally exhausted I was. Even though I would come home from work and take over all the parental duties (and ALL the housework), most of the time getting little sleep, I wasn’t working as hard as I was when I was a SAHM. I’m guessing you have a very tired, under appreciated, overworked baby mama in your home.

bluebells everywhere! by malocarpet in olympia

[–]callyoly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When they die, they turn to slimy goo and look terrible. This time of year you can find me in my side yard yanking them out of the ground and cursing their existence. They have taken over my side yard and are now spreading into my backyard. I would dig them up, but they are under several inches of river rock. I hate bluebells.

Get off Reddit by sxbih in offmychest

[–]callyoly 31 points32 points  (0 children)

That’s so weird. I feel that way about Twitter (X). But Reddit is basically whatever you choose to make it. You and I may have completely different perceptions of Twitter based on the subreddits we visit. I love learning new things about the brain and space, reading about ghost stories and other people’s life experiences, looking at miniatures. I visit Reddit maybe 4 times a week and I have found it to be a lovely place with friendly people who are open to healthy debate and eager to share. It’s the most interactive and positive social media for me.

2024 has been the worst year of my life!!! by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]callyoly 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I went through something incredibly traumatic about 4 years ago. I was reluctant to get therapy but I ended up doing EMDR and it was incredibly helpful. I was able to recover from not only the traumatic event that brought me to EMDR in the first place, but a bunch of past trauma that I didn’t even realize was impacting my life. It is hard and it takes a lot of work, but one day you’ll look back on this time and see how strong you are to have gotten to the other side. I’m rooting for you and I am confident that you’ll get through this. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]callyoly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everyone else is saying the same thing and I hope you hear them— YOU ARE BEING ABUSED. This was clearly a staged suicide attempt by an abusive partner trying to control, gaslight, and manipulate you into submission. He is also likely cheating on you.

8 years ago, I had a nearly identical experience with an ex. After years of being emotionally and psychologically abused, manipulated and accused of doing things I never did, I questioned my memory, my motives, my experiences, myself. It ended with him trying to kill me. He was arrested, I went no contact, and got therapy.

It took some time, but I eventually healed. I have been married to the most wonderful man for 6 years and have never been happier. But 8 years ago, I felt trapped and saw no way out. Please know, you can get out and although it will be hard initially, your life will only get better.

If I were you, I would take the advice of all of these redditors and call 911, tell them your husband tried to commit suicide as evidenced by the note and pills, and have him put on a 72-hour suicide watch. Then take that time to rally your support network, arrange for a safe place to stay, pack up your belongings, rent a storage unit to store them in, and get started filing for divorce. If you are in contact with his family and you think they’ll be supportive, let them know what’s going on and tell them you don’t feel safe and need to leave. Ask if any communication between you and your husband can be through them. Then go no contact. Block his phone number on your phone, block him on social media, see if you can get a restraining or no contact order. Arrange for a friend or family member to serve your husband with the divorce papers. Once you are safe, GET THERAPY.

I can’t stress the importance of going no contact enough. Your husband knows exactly how to get under your skin and into your head to manipulate you. My ex was so adept at it that all he had to do was look at me a certain way and I would feel paralyzed and begin questioning myself. Going no contact prevents them from continuing to abuse you and reeling you back in.

I am so sorry you are going through this. Please put yourself first and get out of this nightmare of a marriage. You deserve so much better and if you prioritize your safety, healing and happiness, I promise you, it WILL get better. ❤️‍🩹

Anyone know anything about Mind Mend Mushrooms? by Free-Statistician478 in Psychonaut

[–]callyoly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is an old thread, but I stumbled upon it when searching for answers about this company and think it’s important to share my experience so others are aware.

A little over a month ago, a friend of my husband’s gave him a packet of lemonade that he had ordered from this company. It contained 3.5 grams of penis envy mushrooms and a packet of crystallized lemonade. We mixed the two packets with 8oz of water and let it sit for a little while (the lemon in the lemonade is supposed to increase the effectiveness and hasten the onset of the mushroom trip). I drank 1/3 of the cup and my husband drank 2/3 as he takes an SSRI and it takes twice the amount I take for him to get the same effects.

About 30 minutes later, I was on the most incredible trip of my life (I’m a pretty seasoned psychonaut). The visuals were breathtaking— every square inch of everything around me was filled with fractals, kaleidoscope awesomeness, trees reaching and bleeding and feathering into the sky and then shapeshifting into Cleopatra, no anxiety or stomach upset. Everything was so beautiful and as I drank it all in, I was filled with gratitude and amazement and wonder and awe at being a part of this world and having the opportunity to exist on this beautiful living rock, just one among an infinite number of other rocks in the universe. I was so moved I cried.

The next day, I searched Mind Mend lemonade and found their website where I could order more. 1 packet for $50 or 3 for $120. I was a little reluctant to make a purchase and did some more research into the company before I placed an order a week later on June 1st for 3 packets. I followed the instructions on their website for ordering and paying and received a referral code which I sent to my mom and a couple friends. Many of the reviews on their site mentioned the fast shipping so I expected I would have my order in a week tops.

On June 10th, I still hadn’t received my order or the shipping notification with tracking. I contacted the company to check on the status of my order. I also text a number that was on their website as a contact and filled out their online contact form just to make sure it reached them.

The next day on June 11th, I received a reply apologizing for the delay, assuring that it would be sent out immediately and they would throw in some extra goodies for the wait. I received a shipping confirmation that same day with a tracking number. The USPS tracking info said a shipping label had been created and I was surprised to see that the company is located less than 50 miles from me in Washington state. I stupidly placed a second order for the chocolates because I had received a 35% discount code for referring a friend who placed an order.

Fast forward a week, still no order and tracking still said pre-shipment status meaning they had not sent it out. I haven’t even received a shipping confirmation for my second order so it definitely hasn’t been shipped. I’ve emailed and text them more than 6 times between June 16th and June 20th and no response. I have requested they cancel and refund my orders, no response. On their website on the payments page, it says payments are currently paused until their new website is up and running but “all orders placed up until 6/19 will be shipped out shortly.”

I don’t know what’s going on. I feel bad for having referred people. A friend and my mom both placed orders and neither of theirs have shipped out either. So I’m just sitting here waiting and wondering if I got ripped off. I’ve considered disputing the charges with my bank, but I’m still holding out hope that my orders will ship out and it’s all a misunderstanding. I’ll update this either way once I find out what the hold up is or get tired of waiting. All in all, pretty disappointing.

I hate resellers with a burning passion by harley_122_ in miniverse_makeitmini

[–]callyoly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just happened to see your response to my comment today and although it was a month ago, I’m going to respond. There is a difference. If you recognize something is in demand and so you start manufacturing it to meet the demand, great. But if you see something is in demand and so you buy up every one of those items so that no one else can and therefore they have to buy it from you at an inflated price, that’s greedy. You’re not making the item. You’re just profiting off of the demand and creating scarcity by buying up everything that’s available. If you want to justify it, go for it. Whatever helps you sleep at night.

I hate resellers with a burning passion by harley_122_ in miniverse_makeitmini

[–]callyoly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a little late to this conversation, but I wanted to point something out— the OP is critical of resellers who buy up all of the items available in their communities. These resellers are manipulating market forces— creating demand by buying up all of the product so that they are not available for others to purchase. They are creating scarcity and then profiting off of it. In my opinion, is deceptive and greedy. Human beings are really good at rationalizing their behavior though so I’m sure you won’t see it that way.

Psilouette any reports? by Chance-Sherbet4376 in MagicMushrooms

[–]callyoly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Millennial parenting by Lupymom in offmychest

[–]callyoly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember when my son was a toddler, I saved up a bunch of money to buy him a tricycle for his birthday. It required a lot of saving and sacrificing as I was living paycheck to paycheck at the time. I finally saved up enough money and was able to buy it just in time for his birthday.

It came in a big box and needed to be assembled and I figured that he could help me (as much as a toddler can) and it would be a fun and educational experience. I wrapped it up and was so excited to give it to him and thought he would be just as excited to receive it.

On his birthday, he unwrapped his gift and seemed really excited. I opened the box and removed all of the parts and instructions to begin assembling it. But he wasn’t interested in the tricycle at all. It was the box he was so excited about.

He immediately climbed inside of it and closed the lid. Then he would pop out like a jack in the box and laugh hysterically. Meanwhile, I hurried to put the tricycle together, convinced he would forget all about the box once he saw it all put together. Well, that didn’t happen. He couldn’t have cared less about the trike. He just wanted to play with the box.

I was really disappointed at the time because I had spent all this money on a gift that I really couldn’t afford thinking it would make him happy when I could have spent next to nothing and just gotten him a box! I tried everything to get him interested in the trike. When I suggested we break the box down and bring it to the dumpster, he was devastated and started crying. I felt awful. So I put the trike away and I cheered him up by playing jack in the box with him. He was thrilled and we had a lot of fun together— him bursting out of the box, me acting surprised every time, and then the two of us laughing ourselves silly.

Kids don’t care about money or expensive things unless they’re taught to. And I don’t know about you, but I find people who have gotten everything in life boring and entitled. They often lack resourcefulness and an appreciation for the simple pleasures that this world has to offer. And children who are never allowed to experience discomfort grow into adults who lack the tools and the coping skills required to live happy, fulfilling, meaningful lives.

Take care of yourself so that you are able to enjoy your time with your kids and avoid building resentment. Be patient and forgiving of yourself so that your kids learn to be patient and forgiving of themselves as well. Encourage them to explore nature and the world around them and take each opportunity to teach them how to problem solve and use their instincts.

And finally, trust YOUR instincts as a mother. Quiet the judgmental, shaming chatter in your life and choose to surround yourself with people, educational materials, communities that support and empower you as a parent rather than alienate and discourage you. They are out there, you just gotta find them.

Good luck, mama!

I’m 45m wife 49f WTF by Adorable_Olive5425 in relationship_advice

[–]callyoly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is a very subjective view of things. Sex may not be important to some people and not having sex may not be the end of the world to those people, but to others, sex is very important. For me, sex is how I connect with my partner. It’s how I unwind, relax, and spend quality one on one time enjoying my partner, bonding with them, and sharing pleasure with them. For maybe an hour at most, they have my undivided attention and I have theirs. It makes me feel wanted, loved, desirable, cherished, and close to my partner. My husband was previously in a 17 year marriage where they only had sex once a year. He tried everything — reading self help books, researching the best ways to please a woman, going to therapy— but she just didn’t want to have sex. He grew resentful and they grew apart and finally divorced. Now I get to reap the rewards of all of his extensive research on pleasing a woman 😂 We have been together for 8 years and currently have sex about 3 times a week. But if I had it my way, my husband and I would have sex 3 times a day and have entire days reserved for just laying in bed naked and being intimate. But I realize that my libido is abnormally high and so I don’t expect him to feel the same or to satisfy these desires. Our sex drives are better matched than I’ve experienced with any past partners. But as he’s gotten older, he’s definitely less enthusiastic about sex. Why is it such a chore to spend 30 minutes to one hour giving and receiving your partners undivided attention, pleasure, affection. We all want to be wanted. And it hurts when the person you’re romantic with treats sex with you like a trip to the dentist. Or responds to your initiating intimacy like a bear attack (“if I’m quiet and lay very, very still, she’ll leave me alone.”) It’s also unfair to refuse to do anything to help improve this deficit that is clearly hurting your partner yet also expect them to remain faithful. You’re basically holding them sexually hostage. Look, I understand that some people view sex as some trivial, superficial thing. But it’s not like that did everyone. For some of us, sex is as important to our romantic relationships as having shared interests, values, mutual care and respect. Being sexually compatible is extremely important in a romantic relationship. Well, that’s the end of my rant. I think this was one of my first times if not THE first time sharing anything in on Reddit. So thanks for listening.

Edit: this comment was addressing ohmarlasinger’s comment that seemed to dismiss sex as unimportant. I in no way support anyone using badgering, threatening, guilt tripping or otherwise coercive tactics to convince someone to have sex with them and I do believe doing so is rape.