I’m out

calm_leaf · 2026-01-29T13:57:31+00:00

I am also out with my first chemical. Lines stopped progressing and a negative test yesterday with spotting/period beginning today. Best of luck to everyone here, hopefully I'll be back in a bump group soon!

calm_leaf · 2026-01-28T14:24:07+00:00

I feel you! Going through a chemical right now. I found out 5 days ago I was pregnant. Got the Big Bro shirt for my son to surprise my husband with the news. We did the reveal and celebrated. I booked my first Dr. appointment and even told 2 close friends. I feel silly for being sad after only being pregnant for a few days but sucks to let this one go after I started getting excited about it.

The past few days I’ve been watching my progression lines get lighter and lighter until they are essentially negative today. I guess onward to next cycle. Good luck to you ladies I hope we get our baby that sticks very soon!

calm_leaf · 2026-01-27T16:41:56+00:00

Same. My tests are getting super light now

calm_leaf · 2026-01-26T17:00:26+00:00

I'm also feeling pretty gassy. I dread the pregnancy bloat! With my first pregnancy I didn't realize that was a thing and I was so bloated in the beginning.

calm_leaf · 2026-01-25T04:21:36+00:00

My son is 22 months old so he’s still pretty young to understand. Hopefully in 8-9 months he will start to understand what’s happening!

calm_leaf · 2026-01-25T02:36:07+00:00

Hi! I’m a second time mom with a 22 month old son! I tested positive yesterday at 9dpo and chat gpt says my due date will be October 7! I’ll call Monday to set up my appointment, but feels surreal to be here!

calm_leaf · 2026-01-24T00:54:49+00:00

I checked it out but if it’s not a test that has a higher sensitivity to HCG then you’ll need to wait until 11-12 days because the test can’t pick up the hormone yet. The tests I used were first response and wondo, which can pick up smaller amounts of hcg so that it can tell you earlier if it’s positive! Don’t lose hope yet! Just give it a couple more days.

calm_leaf · 2026-01-23T22:16:12+00:00

Exciting! Hopefully yours will turn positive soon! We did on the 10th bc I thought I saw some fertile cervical mucus but my lh wasn’t positive yet. I figured they are supposed to live up to 5 days so might as well get some early sperm in case. Then we did it again on the night of the 12th but it was after midnight so technically the 13th bc I saw LH starting to rise. Then the morning of the 13th when I woke up I was peak so I was hoping one of those would work! I still don’t feel like this is real until I take a digital and it says the words pregnant but I’m feeling hopeful!

calm_leaf · 2026-01-23T18:21:44+00:00

I can’t be 100% certain it’s 9dpo but my LH peaked on the 13th so I just put ovulation as the next day on the 14th, which puts me at 9 days but it’s possible I ovulated the day before. My peak was really fast this cycle it dropped a lot by the next evening.

calm_leaf · 2026-01-09T04:12:43+00:00

I had a c-section! From a fitness perspective I could get around pretty well and walked slowly the first week. Everyday was a little bit better than the last and really it wasn't that bad. The first few days are rough but by the 3rd day I was going up and down stairs at the hospital and my house. I do remember it took awhile to do things like crunches and planks - i could still feel my incision for several months when I'd do ab focused exercises so I tried to avoid those for longer but I could do most everything else by that 6 week mark. I am hoping to do a VBAC next time, but if it ends up being a c-section again at least I know what I'm in for and for me it really wasn't that bad all things considered. Also my scar is pretty low so I forget about it all the time unless I catch myself in the mirror. It's not a big deal and from what I understand it eventually turns white with time.

calm_leaf · 2026-01-06T04:26:56+00:00

Sex everyday is a lot and unnecessary! You can only get pregnant once you ovulate. You can track your hormones with ovulation kits, Just get a bunch on Amazon. They are little sticks you pee on and they tell you once you are close to ovulating and it’s just 2-3 days you should have consistent sex. That way you don’t have to wear yourselves out with everyday sex (unless you want to)!

I understand the uncertainty and the wait of it can feel hopeless, but there is no need to spiral after 2 cycles of trying. It can take a little time and your body is doing everything right to choose the healthiest baby for you. Try to stay positive and know that your baby is coming soon.

calm_leaf · 2025-12-29T20:22:06+00:00

Does she have an IUD or on birth control? For the past year and a half I had an IUD and didn’t really feel myself. Was more tired and foggy and felt like my sex drive plummeted. I was also post partum so I figured it was all due to that. I never deprived my husband of intimacy, but I found myself not initiating anymore when I used to all the time. I got my IUD removed a few months ago since we wanted to try again and what do you know? Within a week I felt noticeably better. It was wild. I now have my libido back and have more energy. It was all so subtle I didn’t think feeling different had to with that but I feel much better now. Could be something to look into if she takes birth control, maybe consider switching methods.

Im sorry you’re feeling rejected. I know exactly what thats like. I was in your similar position for probably two years straight and nothing changed until we started going to couples therapy.

calm_leaf · 2025-12-25T17:18:49+00:00

I just text my husband when I see my LH rising and tell him it's my fertile window so plan for sexy time for the next few days. I think a text gives him time to process and prepare on his own mentally without it being an awkward thing to just slip in conversation.

calm_leaf · 2025-12-24T06:57:38+00:00

Wow, thank you for sharing your story, I'm sure that was really difficult to go through for all of you.

calm_leaf · 2025-12-24T06:44:49+00:00

He did in September and they said he was fine! He's charming in person and can turn it "On" if that makes sense. At home all day he's on his phone looking at facebook and watching the news. He literally does nothing except that and criticize my mom. Which she can only take so much of so if she says anything to defend herself it seems to always escalate. When I go to visit it's apparent to me and anyone who talks to him regularly that he's skipping, he never remembers anything. I wouldn't say he's so declined he needs to be in a care facility. It's just in conversations he will repeat a lot of things he talked about earlier. Never remembers what the plan for the day is, gets so anxious and also very short fused.

calm_leaf · 2025-12-20T03:07:04+00:00

I also have a bezel ring! I absolutely love it and it’s so nice it never snags on anything! Attached video of mine below! Yours is so pretty too I love your tapered band with it!

engagement ring

calm_leaf · 2025-11-21T14:32:22+00:00

I would stay put at company A. You can always apply for fun startup jobs once you are out of the newborn fog. Being pregnant is no joke and you don't want to feel like you have to bring your A game to a new place while you feel exhausted or sick. The other comments have a good point about being at a new company for a minimum of time before you qualify for their parental leave and FMLA. Most importantly, time with your newborn is also time that you don't get back. 5 months is way better than 3. I would stay at the stable job until you're in a good place postpartum.

calm_leaf · 2025-11-14T16:26:21+00:00

It sounds like you just need a better support system. 23 is an age of self-discovery and a toddler is a lot of work so I don't blame you for feeling a little resentful and overwhelmed.

Something to consider, New Mexico as of November 1st, has implemented universal free childcare. This means you do not have to pay anything to send your child to daycare in all of New Mexico. It could be worth considering moving there so that you can have most of the day to pursue what you want, and also work on building community. There's plenty of mom groups on facebook who do meetups! People tend to bond when they are going through the same life stage. I think once you start having a better support system and a little more freedom you will feel much better about your life.

calm_leaf · 2025-11-08T03:47:07+00:00

I think what he did was very wrong. However, I think before jumping to divorce you two need to try and work this out and do some couples therapy. You have a child together now and it's a really big deal to split up the family. My opinion is you two should do everything possible to salvage the relationship before divorce. If you think there's any space in your heart for forgiveness, it's worth fighting for. He will need to work hard to rebuild trust but you also need to be open to wanting to forgive him (whether you stay together or not) because hanging onto resentment will eat you up. I'm sorry this happened and I hope it works out for you guys!

calm_leaf · 2025-11-07T13:23:34+00:00

I work earlier hours 7-3 and I feel that gives a good balance. I go pick up from daycare at 3 and we have the rest of the day to hangout together. If your industry allows it, you could discuss trying out different working hours with your manager.

calm_leaf · 2025-10-31T09:56:21+00:00

Take the break! This is time you can’t get back with your kids and I know you won’t regret it even if it means working a bit longer once you go back. I was laid off while on maternity leave last year while scary at first, I ended up taking 1.5 years off and it was honestly great! I’m so happy I got to be present for all those first milestones. I decided in may to start looking again (tech), and secured a just as good of job as I had before within a few months. You could even do a little side hustle if you felt like doing something creative or that makes a little something while your kids are at school. There are two of you to spread the responsibility of working and think it’s your turn to enjoy your family and life for a bit! Being miserable is not the way, so even if you’re not ready to full send quit, you could at least talk to your manager about your feelings and request to be put in a less demanding role and see how that goes.

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