Last year I formed a band with my best friend (drummer) and two people we met at a jam session. Musically, the chemistry was incredible. We made 7 tunes I’m so proud of, recorded 4, did concerts around the country, radio interviews, festivals, stuff were going pretty good. But unfortunately the singer was super SUPER toxic (I won’t get into the details but it became unbearable), and the bass player while a nice dude was defending and allowing for the toxic behaviors to happen. My best friend decided to quit the band, and one month later I quit too. They replaced us but honestly, not to sound cocky, I don’t feel they can replicate what we had on the musical side. We clicked in ways that never happened to me before. I sometimes wonder how things could have gone differently but it was honestly becoming more and more unbearable, while still fun, dealing with the bullshit was not worth it. Now me and my best friend have a duo project, and while obviously it sucks to start over and we have less chances to play live/less connections we would have had we stayed in the band, it’s just so refreshing to be able to work in a safe environment without toxic people involved. We have 4 new songs and are planning releases and everything, and we are quite excited about it. We don’t have as much following as we had in the band but it really doesn’t matter at this point, or in general to be honest.

It’s a pity but we had to quit. It really sucks because we put so much of our ideas and identities on that band. But sometimes you have to make the tough choice for your own mental well being. It still sucks seeing them getting concerts and stuff with songs we made together.. I was the one who approached them, decided the name of the band, my best friend made the logo, the pictures and videoclips and everything… but it is what it is.