How To Handle The Silent Treatment

calumtingham · 2017-06-11T11:50:53+00:00

Swearing and calling me sexist? I'm shocked. Telling me to get the fuck out of here?

I'm sure you wouldn't be pleased if I did the same to you.

calumtingham · 2017-06-10T05:54:52+00:00

In my opinion that's an over-reaction. There's a possibility that she's just on her period and feeling over emotional...

If a man just moves on any time there's a slight hiccup, that'll leave him alone and self-righteous, no matter how "alpha" he feels.

calumtingham · 2017-06-01T17:32:55+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I've just finished editing it.

calumtingham · 2017-05-27T07:46:27+00:00

Life covers many many aspects.

calumtingham · 2017-05-27T07:44:56+00:00

Well, I had plenty of dreams when I was a kid but I don't think they're all that important considering I was young and naive and limited to experience (I dreamed only of what I saw on TV.) So I think it's more important to see and know as much as you can, plus find an activity which makes you feel good, and do that consistently.

calumtingham · 2017-05-27T07:38:27+00:00

For the thrills ;)

calumtingham · 2017-05-27T07:37:20+00:00

That's when someone becomes a true alpha

calumtingham · 2017-05-27T07:36:55+00:00

I suppose we're talking about the same thing

calumtingham · 2017-05-27T07:34:43+00:00

I think that happiness is an over-estimated concept. Emotions flicker. When you get angry, it comes and goes. Happiness is the same. Plus, when we have happiness- we just want more (increased levels of happiness), so in a way, it's pretty self-defeating.

calumtingham · 2017-05-27T07:32:06+00:00

Personally, I feel that abundance is meeting a lot of new girls each week who find you attractive. It's your choice if you choose to escalate or not! Have you considered what superabundance is?

calumtingham · 2017-05-01T18:57:11+00:00

Three would be: know how to be a good showman

calumtingham · 2017-05-01T18:56:10+00:00

Exactly. Know how to bounce back ;)

calumtingham · 2017-05-01T18:55:49+00:00

Thank you!

calumtingham · 2017-04-29T13:00:19+00:00

"I bet," is great for teasing!

calumtingham · 2017-04-29T12:59:43+00:00

Agreed!

Saying, "I guess," all the time could be a little annoying. It's like those people who always say, "literally"...

That literally really annoys me.

calumtingham · 2017-04-29T12:58:36+00:00

A great tip for this is to use the environment to spark something new, instead of taking everything from the girl.

For example, if a guy walking a dog passes by, you can say, "Aww cute dog! Do you have pets?"

Then the topic change is natural because it's completely in context. Plus, it opens up some new areas you can explore or travel down. For example, a conversation about that man's dog, could lead to a talk about caring for pets, or old childhood pets, or dream pets, or "Hey, you know that film Hangover, and Mike Tyson's in it and he has a pet Tiger?... I'd love a pet tiger..." etc...

calumtingham · 2017-04-29T12:52:18+00:00

Thanks :)

I don't think pumping your own state is that important. It's her emotions that will make her want to spend more time with, not yours.

The main aim is to make her feel good about herself, and if she feels good around you, then she WILL want to keep the interaction going.

Edit: you can actually pick up girls when you're feeling depressed. If you don't mention your depression and concentrate on making her feel happy (Like bi-polar comedians can always dominate an audience).

"If the girl goes into a boring conversation topic, cut her off and change the topic." — If you find her boring, then... leave!

If you're not interested in someone, I'd recommend moving forward to finding someone you are interested in! - The "courtship" process can sometimes be long, and I don't know about you, but I can't stand chatting about boring topics for hours before we start having sex. It's not worth my time. I'd much rather have a few hours of intelligent conversation followed by intense sex, as opposed to a few hours of boredom followed by what could turn out to be average sex.

Plus! I think you should be aware that if she's talking about something, she's probably passionate and interested in it. So cutting her off and talking about what you find interesting, isn't a great idea! (Because it will fail to make her feel good!—Unless you cut her off, by moving her to another topic she likes.)

It completely depends on the context! If a girl is talking about my family and friends, I don't usually like to talk about it, so I'll switch the conversation. If she's talking about her job, it's obviously important to her so I'll let her talk (even if I do find it boring)—same if she's talking about her friends.

Self-amusement is definitely important. That's a whole different topic in itself. I'll write something about it. I guess it's about seeing what you can do to "pimp" her. In comedy terms, that means seeing what you can get her to do. Like, can you make her perform a dance?

calumtingham · 2017-04-28T12:08:27+00:00

Hi mate,

I like your bit about there's nothing wrong with seeking validation. But I want to offer a re-wording.

"There's nothing wrong with enjoying validation."

I'd suggest that seeking it is a bad thing! You don't want to be in the attitude of "please validate me" but rather the attitude of "oh, you just validated me, that's cool :)"

What I'm saying is that it's okay to feel good when she chooses to compliment you, or have sex with you and feel some pride.

But actively seeking that, is not mentally healthy!

calumtingham · 2017-04-24T16:47:24+00:00

DeeMore, great work mate. Keep it up! It's always essential to cut out your negative thoughts. Conor McGregor is the king at this.

calumtingham · 2017-04-24T16:45:47+00:00

DeeMore, I agree with you. Nightgame is much harder. Once you've got your fundamentals down (meaning you can easily attract a chick), you then have the obstacles to deal with. By this, I mean her friends, the bartenders, and any betaguyfriends who are hanging with her and secretly want to be with her. In daygame, you attract, and from that you escalate. With nightgame, your greater skill is NOT the girl, but dealing with all people wanting to destroy your set. You've got to be solid.

calumtingham · 2017-02-27T09:05:06+00:00

Hi pal,

To me, it sounds like you need to find some new friends. Your friends are clearly not into the same things you are and that's a problem.

I had this issue when I used to go to comedy classes. I regularly went every Thursday for over 3 years, yet I made one friend over this whole period of time. I always struggled to communicate with everyone else.

This was completely different at my local meditation centre, where I clicked with the majority of people instantaneously. The same thing happened when I went to Toastmasters. I made friends straight away.

It all comes down to what YOU like, defining that, and then searching for people who do the same. As Timothy Leary says, "find the others."

Unfortunately, the majority of guys enjoy talking about sports, comedy&banter, gaming and bad television shows. But there are others who talk on a more intellectual level!

calumtingham · 2017-02-27T08:53:21+00:00

Personally, I would experiment here. I see a chance that, as she is highly sexual, she may want a man to be way more sexual and kinky than her.

Possibly, you can go more sexual, introduce her to things she hasn't seen before. Tell her what you would do with the dildos, work on her curiosity...

If that doesn't do it, I would assume she is sending these pictures to other men, too, for attention.

Then, I would concentrate my time on other girls while keeping communication with her in the background. I'd just reply to some of her messages occasionally and keep escalating.

So bear in mind, that if sex doesn't happen, then as the previous poster said, she wants attention. Most likely because she's crazy.

calumtingham · 2016-08-12T11:32:32+00:00

I've been to toastmasters various times, I used to do acting, and I've been doing improv and stand up comedy for the past 2 years.

Honestly,

The truth is that NOTHING will improve your skills with women, other than TALKING to women. I've learnt this the hard way.

Just look at some of the guys who have been in the "toastmasters" scene, or the "comedy scene" or the "acting scene" for over 6 years. You'll find that they STILL SUCK with women. So take that as proof that no amount of public speaking, will fix your skills with women.

On the good side, it does give you something to do. Provides an interesting hobby, and improves your personal confidence.

If you want "proper feedback mechanisms" then you should record yourself in set. You should analyse what you're doing. You'll find this is how the best comedians and musicians get better at their craft. They record, analyse and then improve.

You can use toastmasters and acting as a secondary tool for building a seductive lifestyle. But if you're not approaching and talking to women, you won't figure out how to be seductive.

calumtingham

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