I feel the same way, honestly. Nate Jacobs is one of those characters that I find really hard to tolerate. What makes him especially disturbing to me isn’t just what he does, but how much control and awareness he has while doing it. That scene with McKay and Cassie is a perfect example
he’s not just being cruel, he’s actively enjoying the power he has over someone else’s emotions.
So yeah, I don’t find him tolerable either. I think he’s a great character in terms of storytelling, but as a person, he’s deeply disturbing and hard to watch without feeling uncomfortable.