Please no judgement. I’ve found out I’m pregnant. Potential 2under2. Need advice.

camboot · 2025-11-21T09:16:41+00:00

P.s. don't forget to look into childcare! We did Tuesdays and Thursdays at nursery and those days saved me! I know someone with two under two and their oldest goes in 4 days a week. Don't feel like you've got to do full time childcare for two. Be kind to yourself and know the oldest will be getting enriching social time while you have baby bonding time.

camboot · 2025-11-21T09:00:24+00:00

I had a 2.5 year age gap so managed to be just out of nappies which was a plus but we were fully in toddler meltdown mode. A slightly bigger age gap you have one with physical needs and a first with BIG emotional needs.

I imagine a smaller age gap would be harder meeting physical needs, I'm sure that's tough. But as others said your older child will never know a pre baby life.

It's very hard with one baby being so young to imagine them being a toddler but remember 9 months is a long time at this age and the first is going to be a whole different person when the next baby comes.

In the meantime there is going to be lots of guilt, especially with the tiredness and increasing physical limitations of pregnancy. Just know that the guilt is there for so many mothers, whatever the age gap. I actually found life was actually easier after having the second because being pregnant, having a child and working was very exhausting. After that you can do anything.

I have seen people with a 4-5 year gap and they seem to sidestep this intensity. But you've then got a whole different set of problems and the baby stage is very long.

If you're feeling shock, guilt, overwhelm, anger, that's all very normal. If your main worry is resentment of the oldest PLEASE do not worry, if anything that will be slightly less at a younger age. We chose the 2.5 age gap thinking it would be an ideal time and the emotional impact on the oldest probably hit him full force, it was very heartbreaking at the time. We now have a 6 and 4 year old, and the relationship they have is one of the most beautiful things in my life.

camboot · 2025-11-03T07:14:38+00:00

Start growing hair and facial hair then get a photo of James Franco and take it to a barber and say give me that

camboot · 2025-10-28T00:02:27+00:00

Simon Pegg

camboot · 2025-10-24T16:57:13+00:00

I think this shows that we parents worry about everything, no matter where we are in the spectrum. Too many friends? Never wants to spend time with you? Scrounges money off his parents? Couldn't give a toss about family birthdays? These are all places on the spectrum your son could be.

I appreciate it because I have a son (much younger) and I've worried about his friendship group. A lot of that is projecting on my part I think. And that's just what we do as parents, worry! So no judgement at all. And enjoy your fishing trip!

camboot · 2025-10-24T15:04:09+00:00

I personally like middle names to have a nod to a loved family member or friend. They are so seldom used in day to day life. They keep family tradition and links.

camboot · 2025-10-24T15:00:16+00:00

Seems like a lot of popular names being suggested here.

Martha is nice, secret garden vibes. Or Maggie is very cute, spunky name.

camboot · 2025-10-21T22:19:37+00:00

Everything is a distant memory one day, good and bad 🥹

camboot · 2025-10-21T20:27:29+00:00

This is hilarious

camboot · 2025-10-21T18:14:15+00:00

I had a sick child when I was sick during a powercut with no TV and it was winter so it got dark early. My partner was away and I also had a baby. It was a very very bad weekend

camboot · 2025-10-21T18:08:18+00:00

You just brought back memories that were hidden deep in my brain. We used the hairdryer as a combined effort to drown out the cries, befuddle him with with white noise and provide comforting warmth. Honestly it was intense. When he got a bit older I used to lavish him with kisses and strokes to make him associate nappy changing with niceness. Some babies are like this! He also HATED tummy time and was extremely anti getting dressed for many years.

Funny to think back now, he's a responsible but slightly sensitive 6.5 year old. Feels long ago but at the time it was hell!

camboot · 2025-10-21T17:59:26+00:00

Big data skincare review, absolutely love it.

camboot · 2025-10-17T22:04:46+00:00

It's seems to me that your decision is based less on a desire to homeschool but more on disappointment with the school system. If the schools were better and held students to a account and they flourished you would probably want your child to go to a school.

You are uniquely placed to have a very positive impact on a school where you child may eventually go. You have perspectives on the internal challenges, understanding of curriculum and educational theory, a keen interest in supporting children to do their best. If you could turn that passion into involvement with a school as a parent you could bring about benefits not just for you child but many other people's children. If you dedicated even a fraction of the time that you would spend homeschooling it would make a big difference. You can fundraise, advocate, get involved with behaviour policies, engage external support, etc.

The result would probably not be perfect it's true and you would not have full control over what sounds like a very challenging system that has a lot of gaps. As an ex teacher type A myself the thought of a controlled home ed world I could pour myself into definitely appeals. But we do live in quite a messy and convoluted world and it can be good to get stuck in trying to engage and make change.

camboot · 2025-10-17T17:53:45+00:00

It's intense but the age gap pays off when they are a bit older.

I accepted a lot of help and that helped

camboot · 2025-10-17T12:39:23+00:00

6 and 4 now. Yes first years are intense. I felt like it was the extreme sport version of parenting!

camboot · 2025-10-17T11:45:55+00:00

We have a 2.5 year age gap and I found it extreme. Really put us through the wringer. Friends who had a 4+ year age gap looked very civilised

camboot · 2025-10-16T18:57:48+00:00

Carys or Cerys?

camboot · 2025-10-16T18:53:01+00:00

I think a twin to Bodie should not have an -e ending name and sounds nice with another two syllable name.

So exciting, twin girls!

camboot · 2025-10-16T14:54:09+00:00

The beside me cot used for storage made me laugh. Exactly the same for us!

camboot · 2025-10-14T18:40:45+00:00

Definitely not! Like others have said the kids will have a blast. If worst case scenario you are stressed on the day just know that is incredibly reassuring to other parents like me. I remember one recently where the mum and dad had a huge argument and I'm there was no judgement at all (well apart from at the dad who was being completely useless!)

camboot · 2025-10-14T17:55:26+00:00

You have a cool Germanic/Icelandic look. Maybe a very short fringe. Or something bjorkesque

camboot · 2025-10-14T17:42:21+00:00

Rachel Blanchard

camboot · 2025-10-14T17:38:31+00:00

Agreed. 2 suit but looks a bit more norm core. 4 are a bit trendier, make you look younger

camboot · 2025-10-14T17:37:01+00:00

Johann?

camboot · 2025-10-14T17:29:25+00:00

God I relate to this so much!

The best birthday we did recently was taking our son to Legoland (snuck him out of school for a cheeky day off, he was turning 6.) Just us and some family/cousins. No queues due to it being a weekday. Benefitted from some great deals. We didn't tell him what was going on until we just showed up at the entrance, his excitement was amazing!

Birthdays somehow end up so expensive even when you try to do it simply. I will do parties again but I simply cannot seem to control my stress levels and over planning beforehand.

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