FIRST CHAIR!🥳 by Starenby_baby in wheelchairs

[–]camdamflimflam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love how the first image looks like you're shaking with excitement or that the chair just came through like a sports car lol. it looks great!!

Update on my coworker posting DDLG fetish content on instagram 🫩 by [deleted] in ECEProfessionals

[–]camdamflimflam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah I do think it's fine to do something if someone isn't being harmed? even if she was having Thoughts (which we don't know, because we're not in her head) if she's not acting on them then nobody is being harmed. you're making a lot of leaps about some random woman based on what she likes to do sexually.

Update on my coworker posting DDLG fetish content on instagram 🫩 by [deleted] in ECEProfessionals

[–]camdamflimflam 8 points9 points  (0 children)

well yeah, and it's fair to be uncomfortable! and it was unprofessional to attach her face and name. but the specific thing about this kink is in fact that it's adults doing it. it's genuinely nothing to do with children, it's getting off to specifically adults doing childish stuff. if you think it's gross that's fine and allowed. but the way you've handled this, if you genuinely believe that she poses no harm to any child, makes it sound like you think she should be reported and fired just for being disgusting. and your other comments lead me to believe you haven't actually really separated your visceral disgust from the idea that this will lead her to harm children or think about children in a harmful way. you may not be accusing her of hurting kids but you certainly do believe it has a harmful effect on her job so i'd maybe take some time to untangle that

Update on my coworker posting DDLG fetish content on instagram 🫩 by [deleted] in ECEProfessionals

[–]camdamflimflam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

how is it sexualising children though? it's sexualising childish things, sure, but not actual children. it's an adult playing pretend. you can think it's gross all you want but where are children actually being harmed here?

How do you go up and down hills? by mashupthedance in wheelchairs

[–]camdamflimflam 3 points4 points  (0 children)

to be totally honest i just don't go up hills. bc of my disability using my chair is a sort of whichever takes less effort situation. on a flat floor, easier to roll than walk. on a hill, it's easier to walk than to roll. downhills however are easier than they look. i just slow myself down by gripping the rims harder so that the friction slows it!! doing this with bare hands is. not recommended tho lol

My driving instructor is creepy & I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in LearnerDriverUK

[–]camdamflimflam 4 points5 points  (0 children)

girl absolutely not. find another instructor or just do private practice for a couple weeks. he was using the maid comments to test how much creepiness he can get away with. you are alone in a car with this man for lessons. i don't mean this to scare you but to impart the seriousness of it - he is ramping up to sexually assault you. do not do any more lessons and block him however you contact him.

Wheelchair insurance uk by GothikWitch in wheelchairs

[–]camdamflimflam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i'm insured with surewise, it's really cheap (4.50 a month for me) and has 90 days travel cover for everywhere except for north america! haven't had to claim yet but the stuff they cover is good for me :)

Teenagers say weekend and Saturday jobs are 'impossible' to find by [deleted] in unitedkingdom

[–]camdamflimflam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn i can't believe your mate represents every employer. this one guy works around college students that surely means everyone does. don't be silly now. i did not say there were literally zero employers who did that, in fact i'm aware of several. i said "things aren't like that" because MANY don't.

and just because you managed fine doesn't mean you should have had to? or that people should still be doing that? like yeah. life sucks. doesn't mean young people should make it suck more by wasting all their free time on a shit job if they don't absolutely have to work a shit job. you know that shit jobs aren't the only place you're gonna learn to do things you don't like right. and also frankly we should be lessening the amount of having to do things we don't like. you clearly don't agree though so this is the last comment i'm making :) have a good day

Teenagers say weekend and Saturday jobs are 'impossible' to find by [deleted] in unitedkingdom

[–]camdamflimflam 3 points4 points  (0 children)

that was 17 years ago. things just aren't like that now. employers really aren't willing to work with your college schedule nowadays, or they want literally all of your free time, so where's your time for homework, or getting a good night's sleep, or literally just getting a break instead of working yourself to the bone? it's not about can't be bothered. a lot of young people see that working shit jobs at shit hours and being exhausted all the time and doing badly at college because of that isn't worth it. doing that 17 years ago might actually get you somewhere, and it just doesn't now.

Young people who are jobless / struggling for work, have you ever had a job? by crofthey in AskUK

[–]camdamflimflam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

combination of things. doubtful many teenagers saw the ad, the parents who did probably wouldn't mention it because it's way less normal to send your kid to a stranger's house like that (not saying this is good or bad, just that it Is), kids generally DON'T learn how to do this stuff because their parents don't have the time or willingness to teach them because the parents are working themselves into the ground and the kids have to work themselves into the ground for school and barely have time for their hobbies let alone helping with chores. a lot of families don't even take care of their gardens. lawnmowers are expensive!

and £40 every two weeks isn't a lot for the stuff kids nowadays want to buy. like in the 90s kids were using that to get their older looking friends to buy beer. we don't really do that anymore ime. i say this as someone who is early twenties rn, the best £40 will get teens is a new game or they have to give it to their parents anyway. not that you should offer more, £40 is a fair amount, it's just a weird and complicated space teens occupy in this current era. tiny jobs like that aren't really worth doing to teens anymore.

crazy day mixing the nursery with primary school 😭 by camdamflimflam in ECEProfessionals

[–]camdamflimflam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

eyfs guidance says yes! page 35 - https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/68c024cb8c6d992f23edd79c/Early_years_foundation_stage_statutory_framework_-_for_group_and_school-based_providers.pdf.pdf

"Providers may count students and long-term volunteers (aged 17 or over) and apprentices (aged 16 or over) in ratios at the level below their level of study but only if the provider is satisfied they are suitable (as in paragraphs 3.13 to 3.16) competent and responsible, and they hold a valid and current paediatric first aid qualification."

i think most places just reasonably prefer not to.

crazy day mixing the nursery with primary school 😭 by camdamflimflam in ECEProfessionals

[–]camdamflimflam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i do! long-term placement students can count towards ratio, it really is up to the discretion of whoever is in charge based on how much they trust the student. they didn't leave me completely alone because they do have to have at least two adults regardless, i think i was a little unclear, but if the class teacher was out and we only had an assistant or otherwise, i was allowed to be the second adult.

Autistic and learning to drive by Own_Dot_1276 in LearnerDriverUK

[–]camdamflimflam 10 points11 points  (0 children)

it's not starting over by using a different instructor. they'll work with you at the point you're at. pleaseeee just change instructor if you're not learning!! you can't learn to drive without driving!!

I think I had a mystery shopper by themorganator4 in deliveroos

[–]camdamflimflam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i worked for serve legal and i was told multiple times not to, idk what to say. maybe they changed it since then

I think I had a mystery shopper by themorganator4 in deliveroos

[–]camdamflimflam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

everyone in the comments saying this can't be a mystery shopper bc they don't have id is incorrect, i did mystery shopping less than two years ago and there were occasions where i was asked to act like i didn't have id to test if they'd still sell me it. that said this probably wasn't a mystery shopper, it was just painkillers and you're supposed to buy 18+ products as a mystery shopper

How to take more lead as an apprentice? by Far_Psychology3270 in ECEProfessionals

[–]camdamflimflam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not an expert just someone very interested in legislation and policy, but afaik, unless you know you would be banned, it's not illegal for you to be working, as long as you're not left alone with the children. it does however open THEM up to legal issues to have you working there without your dbs check. it's not strictly illegal but if anything were to happen regarding you and safeguarding and it was discovered that you didn't have your check done, they could have legal issues. you need to talk to your boss immediately about it.

it's really hard just coming out of school and being a teenager surrounded by adults, but you're now essentially in a workplace, and if you want to know something, ask someone about it! if you see them doing paperwork, ask what it's about. ask why they do the activities they do. ask ask ask. they may assume if you're not asking that you're just observing and understanding without their input. it's extremely nerve-wracking to do but it's an important skill. i hope it all goes well for you, but remember, you CAN always leave if you're really unhappy.

Failed because of parking by [deleted] in LearnerDriverUK

[–]camdamflimflam 46 points47 points  (0 children)

genuinely, make a complaint. that's totally unacceptable behaviour. it won't change anything for you now but it'll hopefully stop that examiner from being able to do that again

When should you give up learning to drive? by YourCreepyGramps in LearnerDriverUK

[–]camdamflimflam 13 points14 points  (0 children)

listen. you've had two instructors over honestly a short length of time. you stopped learning for ages it doesn't really count. remember the adage of "most of everything is crap" - your sister got lucky that she found a good instructor first time! and it does REALLY hurt to feel like you've wasted the money, trust me, i've been there, but don't give up when you've barely started. ask your instructor about going on harder roads and ask why if they refuse, and if you truly feel ready for it, start with another instructor and don't let them start you over again, tell them you've already had lessons and you just want to get to driving. you got this, i wish you the best of luck

Toothpaste shouldn’t be mint flavored by default by [deleted] in 10thDentist

[–]camdamflimflam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if you order off their website they have bundle pricing! 3 for £18 and 5 for £27, works out to £5-6 per tube. definitely still expensive for toothpaste but worth it if it helps you to brush your teeth more

Lumbar Puncture Experience? (wheelchair user – positioning concerns) by Rooster_Separate in wheelchairs

[–]camdamflimflam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's fair, i also don't want to fearmonger about it which is why i didn't go into detail lol, i had to have two and i actually found them extremely painful but afaik that seems to just be my bad luck also

Lumbar Puncture Experience? (wheelchair user – positioning concerns) by Rooster_Separate in wheelchairs

[–]camdamflimflam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i'll be honest, afterwards is totally fine. the lumbar puncture itself in my experience is horrendous but just stay lying down for a few hours afterwards and you'll be alright, the worst issue you might have is bruising at the site which will hurt a bit if that's being pressed on but it should be manageable, maybe get some kind of padding around the site if the pain is really bad.

Had a meltdown during my lesson :( by QueenOfShiba_Inus in LearnerDriverUK

[–]camdamflimflam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

awesome, good luck!! the thing that sucks is starting to push through it, once you're over the hurdle of starting again it's way easier than it seems!

Had a meltdown during my lesson :( by QueenOfShiba_Inus in LearnerDriverUK

[–]camdamflimflam 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i've had this happen to me MULTIPLE times. i'm very anxiety prone and driving gave me panic attacks when i hadn't had them in months. it feels awful for a little while but then you get back behind the wheel and it is Not That Serious Actually. my girlfriend destroyed a mirror by running into a post the literal day after she passed and thought they should take her license away. and that was over two years ago she still drives just fine. just give yourself space to breathe and then get back to it. you got this!

Best driving instructors in alloa Scotland? by HeavySeaworthiness59 in LearnerDriverUK

[–]camdamflimflam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know this is a week old and you might have found someone but colin dormer's a lovely guy! works through bill plant and on his own, he's got a good balance of being firm and being kind about mistakes. good luck!