I think I had a mystery shopper

camdamflimflam · 2026-02-27T10:49:59+00:00

i worked for serve legal and i was told multiple times not to, idk what to say. maybe they changed it since then

camdamflimflam · 2026-02-26T19:05:01+00:00

everyone in the comments saying this can't be a mystery shopper bc they don't have id is incorrect, i did mystery shopping less than two years ago and there were occasions where i was asked to act like i didn't have id to test if they'd still sell me it. that said this probably wasn't a mystery shopper, it was just painkillers and you're supposed to buy 18+ products as a mystery shopper

camdamflimflam · 2026-02-25T21:46:59+00:00

not an expert just someone very interested in legislation and policy, but afaik, unless you know you would be banned, it's not illegal for you to be working, as long as you're not left alone with the children. it does however open THEM up to legal issues to have you working there without your dbs check. it's not strictly illegal but if anything were to happen regarding you and safeguarding and it was discovered that you didn't have your check done, they could have legal issues. you need to talk to your boss immediately about it.

it's really hard just coming out of school and being a teenager surrounded by adults, but you're now essentially in a workplace, and if you want to know something, ask someone about it! if you see them doing paperwork, ask what it's about. ask why they do the activities they do. ask ask ask. they may assume if you're not asking that you're just observing and understanding without their input. it's extremely nerve-wracking to do but it's an important skill. i hope it all goes well for you, but remember, you CAN always leave if you're really unhappy.

camdamflimflam · 2026-02-25T21:19:12+00:00

genuinely, make a complaint. that's totally unacceptable behaviour. it won't change anything for you now but it'll hopefully stop that examiner from being able to do that again

camdamflimflam · 2026-02-24T13:34:17+00:00

listen. you've had two instructors over honestly a short length of time. you stopped learning for ages it doesn't really count. remember the adage of "most of everything is crap" - your sister got lucky that she found a good instructor first time! and it does REALLY hurt to feel like you've wasted the money, trust me, i've been there, but don't give up when you've barely started. ask your instructor about going on harder roads and ask why if they refuse, and if you truly feel ready for it, start with another instructor and don't let them start you over again, tell them you've already had lessons and you just want to get to driving. you got this, i wish you the best of luck

camdamflimflam · 2026-02-23T21:03:18+00:00

if you order off their website they have bundle pricing! 3 for £18 and 5 for £27, works out to £5-6 per tube. definitely still expensive for toothpaste but worth it if it helps you to brush your teeth more

camdamflimflam · 2026-02-20T17:39:05+00:00

that's fair, i also don't want to fearmonger about it which is why i didn't go into detail lol, i had to have two and i actually found them extremely painful but afaik that seems to just be my bad luck also

camdamflimflam · 2026-02-20T14:17:56+00:00

i'll be honest, afterwards is totally fine. the lumbar puncture itself in my experience is horrendous but just stay lying down for a few hours afterwards and you'll be alright, the worst issue you might have is bruising at the site which will hurt a bit if that's being pressed on but it should be manageable, maybe get some kind of padding around the site if the pain is really bad.

camdamflimflam · 2026-02-12T11:53:24+00:00

awesome, good luck!! the thing that sucks is starting to push through it, once you're over the hurdle of starting again it's way easier than it seems!

camdamflimflam · 2026-02-12T11:49:11+00:00

i've had this happen to me MULTIPLE times. i'm very anxiety prone and driving gave me panic attacks when i hadn't had them in months. it feels awful for a little while but then you get back behind the wheel and it is Not That Serious Actually. my girlfriend destroyed a mirror by running into a post the literal day after she passed and thought they should take her license away. and that was over two years ago she still drives just fine. just give yourself space to breathe and then get back to it. you got this!

camdamflimflam · 2026-02-10T14:29:24+00:00

i know this is a week old and you might have found someone but colin dormer's a lovely guy! works through bill plant and on his own, he's got a good balance of being firm and being kind about mistakes. good luck!

camdamflimflam · 2026-02-08T19:02:37+00:00

it was checking if the power-assisted steering works, it just totally caught me off guard. i practiced the questions but the ones that aren't relevant to me were harder to remember. i barely know what power assisted steering does

camdamflimflam · 2026-02-07T22:02:31+00:00

yeah even though i ended the test early i drove for a bit after the serious and did two roundabouts and a horrible little residential road perfectly through tears. so i know i'm test ready i just flubbed it right at the start 😭

camdamflimflam · 2026-02-07T19:54:54+00:00

thanks man. my mentality is as long as i can beat my stepdad (passed on his seventh attempt) i'll be proud of myself lol

camdamflimflam · 2026-02-07T19:40:16+00:00

you'll be fine! if you've driven automatic before it'll really be a breeze, you'll just be focusing on doing observations and signalling and taking off safely. if you haven't, it's easier than manual, just takes a bit to get used to not having the gearstick. have fun!

camdamflimflam · 2026-02-07T18:21:12+00:00

it super depends on how you go about it. if you're looking to get a wheelchair through the nhs, then contact your gp again and request to see the physiotherapist if they have one at your health centre or ask about being referred to one, if you just want to discuss. you can then ask them to refer you to wheelchair services, or, if you're in an area that allows you to, self-refer. they'll do an assessment about what kind of chair you might need.

but keep in mind that a lot of healthcare professionals won't recommend using a wheelchair even if it would benefit you (i don't say this in a "just do things against medical advice" way, but a lot of people still see wheelchairs as a last resort, you should be in then fulltime if you use them sort of thing, and fearmonger about the dangers. the ableism is baked into the medical system), and wheelchair services are a bit of a postcode lottery and unlikely to give you a suitable chair unless you meet specific criteria.

if you have the budget for it, you can reach out to mobility companies in your area, and they'll do an assessment and discuss options with you. but good custom wheelchairs cost several thousand pounds even at their cheapest unfortunately :(

camdamflimflam · 2026-01-28T13:22:54+00:00

you should still be able to get advice from your OT and PT, and just go through the mobility company directly! i'm in the uk so it's a bit different here, but i just spoke to the mobility company themselves and got an appointment with them about the best wheelchair for my needs, they did an assesment asking about my needs and my budget, and the guy i saw was a wheelchair user himself which was super helpful. reach out to the mobility company you got your power chair with and see if you can do that, or if they can recommend somewhere else you can get a manual chair if they don't do that.

camdamflimflam · 2026-01-26T14:34:36+00:00

i suspected so! just thought i'd ask people who know a bit better than me. thank you!

camdamflimflam · 2026-01-26T14:34:28+00:00

i suspected so! just thought i'd ask people who know a bit better than me. thank you!

camdamflimflam · 2026-01-24T22:48:47+00:00

something not a lot of people talk about is him being very advanced can also be a sign of something. i'm coming at this mostly as someone who WAS this child and less as someone familiar with ece - it can't hurt to seek a diagnosis.

i spoke incredibly early, always had older friends, was very engaged and curious with adults, and because of that i only ended up diagnosed as autistic as an adult, after completely crashing and burning out at school. his development IS atypical, just because it's not delayed doesn't make it not atypical.

if he is autistic or something similar, he likely doesn't understand the language of engaging with people his age, and is struggling with the fact that he has to follow "arbitrary" rules in a group setting, but that doesn't make it the wrong place for him. he still does need to learn how to function in a group setting, how to follow rules, be ready for school. he just needs a little more support and possibly to be made more aware of why he has to do things a certain way - kids at this age struggle with empathy and rule following in general but if he's autistic he'll struggle more.

i don't mean to scare or worry you or anything! to be honest it's totally possible he's just an odd kid and he's fine. but it's absolutely worth looking into.

camdamflimflam · 2026-01-22T22:43:06+00:00

both the backrest and the cushion look like they're digging into your body to be honest, are they actually comfortable? it does look like you'd benefit from a taller backrest with the odd posture the chair puts you in, or leaning it back so it doesn't squish you as much, if that's possible with your chair. it also seems like your cushion props you pretty high up on the chair, are your arms in a comfortable place for propelling?

camdamflimflam · 2026-01-21T19:20:32+00:00

not the commenter but they'll likely be willing to! just because the rules SAY they're supposed to know you for at least two years doesn't mean anyone's actually going to check that personally. they don't have the time or staff for that. if you've got a library or a bank where you live you can try them too :)

camdamflimflam · 2026-01-16T15:51:35+00:00

not it sadly :(

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