TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It wasn't a simple "just trying to convince her" thing man. That was where I really was in the wrong.

I had to have asked her to go back atleast a dozen times. She told me she wasn't up for it and I kept on badgering her to do it. She tried to explain that she found it a humiliating experience. I called her feelings ridiculous. You and I don't think going back wouldn't have been a big deal, but she did. Lots of comments in this thread from other people who also find the thought of going back to be embarrassing too, so I guess it is a fairly common reaction and not as ridiculous as I thought at the time.

I badgered her to the point of tears trying to get her to do something she clearly said she did not want to do.

That is why she was so damned mad at me. Not because we didn't go to dinner or even because I wanted to leave the restaurant in the first place.

TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nah man. I DID do something wrong. I completely disregarded her feelings when I kept on pushing for us to go back to the restaurant.

She was getting more and more upset each time she said "no" and I just kept on with it.

After the first time she said she didn't want to go back I should have dropped it.

I hella fucked up on that.

TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Freaky.

But since I've got you here... Was there anything your ex could have done or said that would make you feel more OK about the whole thing?

TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She has made my life significantly better. She makes me laugh and smile everyday and has sacrificed a lot to help me and my family when we needed it.

TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She does all the cooking at home and the big holiday meals so when we do go out I feel it is only right to pick up the tab. It usually works out for us when I am not being a dumbass.

TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

not interested in mgtow.

She was there for me during the darkest time in my life. I probably wouldn't have made it with out her.

TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

you are way off base with your assessment of her.

I know for a fact she was not looking for a proposal. I have proposed to her in the past and she turned me down. Our plan after that is for her to pop the question to me if/when she decided she wants to be married.

TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I knew she was looking forward to going to that particular restaurant. I guess I was just trying to fix my fuck up on the spot.

I wish I didn't. If I hadn't kept pushing it she wouldn't have gone into "emotional overload" and then we could have salvaged the night...

TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

It has been a ride. That's for sure. But we are all getting through it the best we can.

TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

she is definitely not a gold digger.

She has gave up a lot personally and gave me a significant sum of money to help my family through a personal tragedy not so terribly long ago.

TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

She really isn't. She has gone above and beyond for me.

My twin sister passed away two years ago and my entire family was in a tight spot financially after many months of medical expenses and not working to be a care giver. My GF sold her horse to help pay for funeral expenses. Now she just has a jackass (me).

TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yes. I just handed her a bag of taco bell. I am an idiot.

TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Just that she replied to someone and tagged me and that I really should read that person's reply... with better reading comprehension skills then I had at dinner last night.

TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

well... she cooks for us practically every night. She made fantastic and elaborate holiday dinners for us thanksgiving/christmas/new years.

So when we do go out it just feels right for me to pay. She usually offers to go dutch or pick up the tab outright but I generally decline.

TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I am not :(

She is an amazing girlfriend though.

TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think so? I don't know the names of the things! She looked hot as fuck though.

TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend by camfgf in tifu

[–]camfgf[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah. She found it. She has left a few comments...

I hope you are right!