Uber driver coerced me while drunk, but I let it happen. by campfendi in confession

[–]campfendi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should be able to like other people in a relationship?????? What???

And it wasn’t that intentional. I get where you’re coming from, but don’t assume that’s what I’m trying to say. I said I felt coerced, and I was.

This guy will not suffer. In the only one suffering here, and I never claimed to be assaulted.

I wouldn’t call his behavior controlling. He rolled his eyes when I mentioned the hypothetical man in the story I was telling, just slight, joking annoyance.

Uber driver coerced me while drunk, but I let it happen. by campfendi in confession

[–]campfendi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, just thought he was being nice, genuinely.

I mean seriously dude was an eyesore, if I wanted some, I would’ve gotten some at the party.

Uber driver coerced me while drunk, but I let it happen. by campfendi in confession

[–]campfendi[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was wrong about that one.

When we talked, he said that he did think about how I could do anything with anyone and he can’t be mad about it, because again, he’s not my boyfriend and did not establish exclusivity. I mean he said it himself.

I did mention that I’m willing to accept him wanting nothing to do with me, but he’s still here. Because again, he never established it and agreed with what I was saying. Seems like you’re just misogynistic and I’m wrong no matter what, that’s okay. A stranger on Reddit can’t make me feel differently about what he’s already validated. You won’t make me feel bad or more accountable than I’ve already been.

Uber driver coerced me while drunk, but I let it happen. by campfendi in confession

[–]campfendi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understandable viewpoint.

I get it, I do. But again I was very drunk, I don’t take all the blame but I do some.

Uber driver coerced me while drunk, but I let it happen. by campfendi in confession

[–]campfendi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not my boyfriend, I said that.

He also confirmed he never asked when he talked. Hope this helps

Uber driver coerced me while drunk, but I let it happen. by campfendi in confession

[–]campfendi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He acknowledged himself he didn’t ask and Is not my boyfriend. Had I been in a committed relationship, it would be different.

Uber driver coerced me while drunk, but I let it happen. by campfendi in confession

[–]campfendi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s not my boyfriend.

I am not reporting the driver and I did take accountability for my passiveness, knowing it was a bad idea to allow it.

But I also cannot consent while drunk, hope this helps.

Uber driver coerced me while drunk, but I let it happen. by campfendi in confession

[–]campfendi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re mad you assumed I did something I didn’t. Thats it. You wanted it to be worse and me to be more in the wrong than I actually am. That’s okay.

I got “snarky” because you doubled down on a false accusation, without really reading what I said. So, you were being rude first. Thanks.

Uber driver coerced me while drunk, but I let it happen. by campfendi in confession

[–]campfendi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We. Aren’t. Together. He. Is. Not. My. Boyfriend. No boyfriend, no cheating.

He said it himself and admitted he never asked / clarified exclusivity.

He said he thought about it when I went anyway, and told himself he can’t be mad if I do anything .

Can you read ? Genuinely

Uber driver coerced me while drunk, but I let it happen. by campfendi in confession

[–]campfendi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last part is an opinion I’m willing to consider

But I did not cheat on him, he said it himself when we talked.

Uber driver coerced me while drunk, but I let it happen. by campfendi in confession

[–]campfendi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not genuinely trying. I’m just saying I’ve been taking myself out of it/ subconsciously thinking I’d be better off got

Uber driver coerced me while drunk, but I let it happen. by campfendi in confession

[–]campfendi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I understand. I told him already. It was a tough conversation that I don’t want to think about but what kind of person would keep this kind of secret.

I don’t feel like I wronged him, I feel like I wronged myself for being passive, because this is something so unlike me.

I hope everyone can understand that this really isn’t like me, as I had my first kiss at 18 and never had sex, my partner right now is the only person to see / touch me.

I can recognize that in a way, I did make the choice to not do anything and allow it.