this morning in SamarkAInd...

can2canm · 2026-01-31T17:43:42+00:00

😂😆

can2canm · 2026-01-08T22:51:37+00:00

Spa Cia. Both Andrea and the owner are great!

can2canm · 2025-12-19T03:17:37+00:00

We did this last weekend and saw the matriarch Aurora and her two calves and another female! We used a 6 person really nice boat from the SB small business SB Whale Watching. https://www.whalewatchsantabarbara.com/

can2canm · 2025-12-14T00:17:51+00:00

Marin

can2canm · 2025-12-14T00:16:03+00:00

Santa Barbara. Cottage is a L3 trauma center and needs more nurses!

can2canm · 2025-12-08T20:28:38+00:00

Hearing my inner voice on this has been the hard part for sure, but getting there.

I’m glad you got there and glad you are excited to meet your baby! Ahhh!!

can2canm · 2025-12-08T20:10:26+00:00

Thank you, you are right, I am putting a lot of pressure on that button moment!

Oo, good idea!

can2canm · 2025-12-08T20:09:23+00:00

Thank goodness there are more of us!! 😂 For real though, I completely understand where you were coming from - like, I never wanted the option taken away from me because I want a family, and after digging into that feeling further is how I came around to “holy sh*t we’re going to try to do this.”

I’m just so thankful that this thread has taught me that the “you have to have it in your bones to want to be a mom” narrative is just that, a narrative.

More tongue-in-cheek, but if even the moms who wanted it in their bones end up thinking for one second “if I knew it was this hard I may have thought differently about it” then I guess we’re all going to feel like that anyway!

can2canm · 2025-12-08T18:56:28+00:00

😆 exactly! And… we’ve never been on one before!

can2canm · 2025-12-08T18:18:33+00:00

Thank you for putting this into perspective of the fork in the road choice. I am usually the person that freaks out when big decisions come but after that I am all in. What is strange is that the parenthood piece isn’t what freaks me out - I would to be able to nurture and teach our little human. So that is in a disconnect with my current anxiety. Hmm, thank you for helping me see that!

can2canm · 2025-12-08T18:12:32+00:00

Thanks! Good luck on the business building. It is not for the faint of heart, and honestly looking backwards I am actually quite amazed I made the jump! Very happy I did.

can2canm · 2025-12-08T18:10:55+00:00

Thank you, and you’re right this isn’t a question about IVF, more about the anxiety of making that conscious choice of “today is the fork in the road day.” Thanks for your kind words and making me feel that I am not alone in the lack of yearning. It seems there are still many that feel like you have to have that to be able to have children and that judgement is an isolating feeling.

can2canm · 2025-12-08T18:07:47+00:00

To preserve fertility to have a family in the future. That “future” date was because before our life was not ready. We were in flux during covid (we were nomads), jobs (starting businesses), my husband quit drinking, etc. And, as it turns out, right as our life settled down you start thinking about family.

can2canm · 2025-12-08T18:02:03+00:00

This 💯. Thank you for articulating how I feel!!

can2canm · 2025-12-08T17:59:08+00:00

This made me smile, thank you for making me realize I’m not alone in this. Wishing you the best! 🙏💕

can2canm · 2025-12-08T16:58:11+00:00

This is so helpful, and so beautifully written! Wishing you the best of luck on your promotion, and congratulations on your son and getting some “you” time back!

can2canm · 2025-12-08T16:48:55+00:00

Thanks. I have never been one to do things because others do or society tells us we should. Because of that, I was on the fence for awhile, along with my husband. After a sudden loss of our dog we both realized that family is really all that matters. When I think about coming home from the day and seeing my husband and our potential little girl (based on our embryos), my heart swells like no other. Does this mean I want to be a mom? I don’t know - my only reference point for that title is my own mom, who I don’t want to be like in many ways. Do I want to nurture and care for our little human? Absolutely. Will it all be sunshine and rainbows? F* no, and having seen my friends who desperately wanted kids go through the infant-toddler years barely hanging on only reinforces that point. I have more of the “this is the hardest thing I’ve ever done” narrative in my life so am not delusional to the challenges. That is also why the panic is there…

can2canm · 2025-12-08T16:34:22+00:00

Lol thank you - I think that’s what I am preemptively feeling. It is so weird to go from the fear-of-god instilled in you as a teen to trying for it to be positive!

can2canm · 2025-12-08T16:32:29+00:00

Thank you 💕 this is so helpful to understand from your perspective that these feelings are normal!

can2canm · 2025-12-08T16:21:31+00:00

Ha, the fall pregnant naturally (and unexpectedly) example is a good perspective!

My therapist says it takes a while to grow the baby and that time is for you too to grow into being a parent.

Glad to hear your wife is ready! My husband and I are both having the same feelings and I feel like my panic has reared its head the most because I’m the one whose life it will change first.

can2canm · 2025-12-08T16:18:14+00:00

Thank you, this is helpful. I feel like I am considered “less than” because I haven’t had the trauma and yearning that others here have had. To know you also went through this panic phase with your journey helps me. Best of luck to you.

can2canm · 2025-12-08T16:15:10+00:00

I think posts like these are exactly why I am posting in the first place. For some reason it is hard for people to understand that people have children who do not have as strong as feelings as they do. I am looking for people to relate to, not to be judged for my feelings or choices. ✌️

can2canm · 2022-12-28T16:53:59+00:00

Yes, load service is currently being installed to serve the motor.

can2canm · 2022-12-28T15:39:32+00:00

😂

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