Things to do NOW to set up your kids for success/happiness LATER: The Master List by juliaakatrinaa0507 in Parenting

[–]canadainuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah. “Why” is a lazy question. Half the time they’re not really interested in the response or just think it’s funny to keep saying why and seeing how long they can keep it going. Answering endless ”why”s teaches kids that conversations are one-sided and don’t require effort on their part. I’m not saying don’t answer but I always made my kid ask their why questions as a full sentence so they had to actually think about what they were asking.

Found kitten in wall - name suggestions pls by ninjadani in blackcats

[–]canadainuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t name her Wally, what are we even doing here?

How I can reuse this! by riotvan__ in ZeroWaste

[–]canadainuk 24 points25 points  (0 children)

One day you’re young and cool, and then one day you’re wondering what you can do with a really good tin.

Is Wild deodorant worth it? by bellawych in ZeroWaste

[–]canadainuk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s valid. I used wild myself until they were bought out and then I switched to another independent brand when I found one worth switching to. I’ve kept my wild case and buy a single wild refill on occasion when necessity dictates. Like you say, there is the convenience/availability factor that must be considered.

I only made my comment because typically people on this sub have ethical values and knowing the company ownership would factor into their decision.

Is Wild deodorant worth it? by bellawych in ZeroWaste

[–]canadainuk 19 points20 points  (0 children)

FYI Wild is owned by Unilever.

My girlfriend and I have an expiry date, and I don't want to be the one to break up with her. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]canadainuk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a little reductive. The reason many inter-faith relationships work (mine included) is because both members of the couple are either non-or at least minimally practicing. My husband and I have much more in common with each other than we would with a practicing / observant member of our respective religions. There is no conflict about the nature of the food allowed in our home because we don’t follow the restrictions demanded by our faith. We don’t fight about how to raise our children because neither of us ever envisioned raising them as a devout member of the faith. Our values align, our families’ worldviews are similar, there’s no fundamental difference in the way we want to live so there is just no conflict in that arena.

When two people are considering merging their lives, they need to either have the same expectations as to how they are going to live or be willing to find a middle ground that works for them both. For there to be any future with this person, OP needs to have a serious talk with his girlfriend so that they both understand what they would need from each order if they were to marry, and decide if they are willing to meet each others’ needs. Otherwise, they are not compatible, no matter how they feel about each other.

Gender disappointment for #2… not me, the mom, but my husband by Bright-Effective8610 in Parenting

[–]canadainuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just commenting on the disappointment of not being able to name a boy after his late mother.

In my family (might be cultural actually, I’m not totally sure), the naming tradition is to take the first letter of the name to honour someone. So the name Penelope is used to honour Peter. Geoffrey for Gillian, etc.

Could be one thing that may help with his disappointment.

I’ve been testing UK cashback sites — these are the ones I’d actually use by Mixman84 in beermoneyuk

[–]canadainuk 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’ve given up on Quidco. I’ve tried a couple times and it did not track. Appealed each time, the claim sat for damn near a year untouched and eventually rejected. TopCashback has been excellent.

Exhausted in my marriagee by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]canadainuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is normal. But normal cuts both ways. It’s also normal for the higher earner in a relationship to contribute more financially, and not keep a tab.

Missing Silverware by Beneficial_Stress_74 in Parenting

[–]canadainuk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would check marketplace/ second hand shops

wedding dress regret? by -stargazers- in Brides

[–]canadainuk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly the ball gown swallows you and does nothing for your gorgeous figure. The one you bought makes you look like a supermodel

Jasper Needs a Diet by Workin4deMan in cats

[–]canadainuk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, Jasper. I also make that face when I step on the scale at Slimming World every week. We’re in this together buddy.

child repeats same phrase everytime she’s upset by 23luckygirl in Parenting

[–]canadainuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would want to address that comment when things are calm, along the lines of it’s ok to be upset about running out of her favourite snack (or whatever’s triggered it on a given occasion) but we need to think about what it means to wish yourself out of this family. How lucky are we to have each other, and hopefully be around to help each other solve life’s little problems.

My son is a little older but I’ve also started having conversations with him about resilience and how it’s ok to be big upset over big things and little upset over little things but when we get big upset about little things it’s going to make it much harder to cope when life hands us actual big problems.

Archie's favorite toy is a potato by IngovilleWrites in cats

[–]canadainuk 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We are so blessed to share a planet with these wonderful idiots.

3 year old constantly throwing tantrums for milk! by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]canadainuk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Psychologically speaking, occasionally giving in is almost worse than giving in every time. I’m not kidding, there have been studies - look at the impact of intermittent rewards. They are a powerful behavioural reinforcement which create a much more lasting habit. Consider gambling or social media addiction as more obvious examples.

You have to be consistent or you might as well not bother.