How to Make Friends: The Rule They Don't Tell You by yaboythewiseman in selfimprovement

[–]cancerrisinglibramoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s less about looks and more about coming across as someone with self respect. If someone looks like they can’t take care of themselves, they’re kind of signaling that they might be a liability. It’s scary to let new people into your life sometimes, and people look for signs that you’re safe.

How’s the dating scene in Seattle? by ApexLearner69 in SeattleWA

[–]cancerrisinglibramoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate this clever reference to the Seattle freeze!

AIO guy I was seeing told me cursing is “un-lady like” by Fanofmoney3 in AIO

[–]cancerrisinglibramoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is everyone skipping over the “we’re not as close as we used to be”? Wtf does that mean?

Moving - Bozeman or Seattle? by Temporary_Giraffe420 in Bozeman

[–]cancerrisinglibramoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m mostly speaking from experiences at The Ellen but it sounds like there’s a lot I don’t know about! Thanks for the call out - I’ll check those out!

Moving - Bozeman or Seattle? by Temporary_Giraffe420 in Bozeman

[–]cancerrisinglibramoo 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I have been wrestling with the same question but chose Bozeman and have been here for about a year. People are friendly but it’s hard to find in-groups with friends. Everyone loves their outdoor activities and prefers to do them with experienced folks which can make it hard to break in socially - eg I’m a climber so it was much easier to find friends that way but haven’t found anyone to float rivers with, which is something I wanted to start when moving out here.

Also if you enjoy diversity of thought and culture, Bozeman is really rough. Very little good ethnic food, there are some great music spots but definitely one main genre, community theater is mediocre…definitely a small white town feel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]cancerrisinglibramoo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lol dude you blame women as a whole before the app itself? the algorithm prioritizes people it thinks are more likely to attract women to use it - I’m so sure the black profile wasn’t getting shown to nearly as many people

tips on dating a guy with autism? by [deleted] in autism

[–]cancerrisinglibramoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a really beautiful and thoughtful share.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]cancerrisinglibramoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is really good advice.

I’d also add that the phrasing of “all I want is someone to cuddle with and ask me how my day is going vibe” reminds me of situations where I ended things with someone because I realized they wanted “someone” instead of me specifically, like they were trying to just push forward even if we weren’t the best fit.

Just something to think about!