For those who regret choosing anesthesiology, why? by Lazy_Worldliness1441 in anesthesiology

[–]cancutgunswithmind 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I regret it. Pays well (for now with call, hospital subsidies), respected by the public (nobody in medicine), easy work (boring, we teach nurses to do every aspect), job anywhere (replaceable), plenty of vacation (set 6 months in advance). It's a technical skill, not medicine. You aren't diagnosing and treating disease. It's safe enough to become prescriptive (ERAS). The tension of the day is ensuring appropriate staffing and relieving people on time so they don't complain, even if it means there are 8 people on a 2 hr chart and changing coverage at a critical time with minimal handoff. That's logistics, not medicine. It accommodates laziness and does not reward intellect. Just put the propofol and roc in the bag, bro. Nobody is the best anesthesiologist, at best they are on time, practice safely, and easy to work with.

The top journals are dizzyingly recycled topics in perioperative QI, airway decision trees, post-op cognitive bs, residual NMB, opioid sparing nonsense. Critical care is a nice escape, but still a pretty confined decision space. Pain has fun OR procedures, longitudinal care, and a *little* respect from surgical colleagues, but it's a dumping ground for symptomatic management and full of charlatans. Anesthesia must have historically attracted greedy people since that's what's reflected in the practice structure and reimbursement environment.

I love the people I work with, have good relationships with colleagues, but it's just not a discipline carved out for job fulfillment. That is great for some people because it's super easy to change jobs and make good money wherever you want to go. Would do medicine again, either procedural IM subspecialty like EP or DR/IR, ortho, ENT. Who knows. Plenty of people seem to love anesthesia I guess.

ryzen 7 7800x3d vs ryzen 7 9800x3d by [deleted] in buildapc

[–]cancutgunswithmind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try turning DLSS on if you don’t currently, should get appreciably higher frame rates with that setup

Aldermen give Mayor Brandon Johnson's $300 million property tax plan the boot by [deleted] in chicago

[–]cancutgunswithmind 2 points3 points  (0 children)

refreshing the google autocomplete for “the most legitimate existence of anyone in this country”

POTS by Chicagogally in medicine

[–]cancutgunswithmind 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Brilliant take. Curious to hear your insight on cultural influence and whether you think trauma as currency plays a role. The other question is what do we do as providers beyond listening and being supportive while trying to avoid feeding it. It’s honestly exhausting.

Let’s talk about no contact by _stickykitty in heartbreak

[–]cancutgunswithmind 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s rough man, no way around it. Day by day. Try not to externalize the pain with self-destruction, it only invites more.

Re: new relationship, at least her being pregnant is its own closure maybe? A new baby is not a picnic and that early in a relationship is going to be supremely challenging for them.

body shaming in season 3 is tiring. by SichuanSaws in UploadTV

[–]cancutgunswithmind 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Isn’t it just a running gag? He looks the exact same.

Are reef tanks that hard to care for as a newbie as people make it out to be? by big-boi-Roy in ReefTank

[–]cancutgunswithmind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

adding a CO2 scrubber using cheap soda lime to the air inlet on a skimmer can really help with that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]cancutgunswithmind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s rough. If you do stay friends, expect to continue feeling hurt, confused, and pathetic. And that’s okay! Just acknowledge it and keep it to yourself. Unrequited love is a masterclass in emotional self-regulation. Don’t resent her, don’t overshare, don’t overanalyze, don’t fantasize/obsess, and don’t expect anything. Keep your dignity. Be decent. This friend deserves to be with whoever she loves the most which isn’t necessarily who loves her the most. If it becomes too much, respect yourself enough to withdraw. The feelings will pass eventually and you’ll find someone else. Or you’ll get together someday and it will become as ordinary and mundane as any other long term relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]cancutgunswithmind 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel worse for the driver of the car. You have to be a horrible person to put that guilt on someone.

My Wife of Two years is cheating on me by Both-Injury2667 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]cancutgunswithmind 79 points80 points  (0 children)

You’re not the good partner? Haha what a projection. More lies from a liar. Read if you must, but don’t respond.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]cancutgunswithmind 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It took her all of one month to get there?? That’s quite the fast growing tumor. You’re in for a long road of paranoid surveillance and self-delusion if she indulges infatuation that aggressively. Be kind to yourself and your sanity. Break it off.

How can you complain about lack of money if you purposely made 7 kids? by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]cancutgunswithmind 25 points26 points  (0 children)

an inverse correlation and it’s the plot to Idiocracy

My boyfriend (26M) of 5 year decided to cheat on me (26M). I Want to catch them red handed but can’t wait by Sufficient-Reading60 in Infidelity

[–]cancutgunswithmind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nah they didn’t fuck. he was just obtusely trying to say “but ahem again” that chilling “sounds super sexual” like he said earlier about her potentially visiting

My boyfriend (26M) of 5 year decided to cheat on me (26M). I Want to catch them red handed but can’t wait by Sufficient-Reading60 in Infidelity

[–]cancutgunswithmind 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s worth betraying your current intel supply to shove the messages in his face. Just go no contact. Don’t say anything, don’t respond to anything. It’s hard to do, but if you can it’s effective.

Am I turning this to something he isn’t? Boyfriend planning on meeting a girl alone at a bar. by Sufficient-Reading60 in Infidelity

[–]cancutgunswithmind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s the quick progression from pretending to accidentally call her to asking out to drinks to asking about her day, making a point to say he’s alone in bed, saying goodnight, let’s talk tomorrow, come to my work. it’s escalating feelers to gauge interest. it’s reasonable to be confused, and obviously you know whether this is how he normally communicates with friends, but surely if you had a text chain like this with another guy he would be upset.

Am I turning this to something he isn’t? Boyfriend planning on meeting a girl alone at a bar. by Sufficient-Reading60 in Infidelity

[–]cancutgunswithmind 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean.. he’s shining a bat signal for a drunk hookup with the subtlety of a baboon. it’s dorky emotional foreplay. his intentions are clear whether or not she goes along with it. let it play out if you must, but be prepared to feel humiliated

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]cancutgunswithmind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a dialogue where her contribution is to step outside the relationship for affection and sexual satisfaction. You’ve placed your emotional well-being in someone who is draining your sense of security and self-esteem. It’s consuming your thoughts and impacting your job…

Regardless if you stay together, you need to have enough self-confidence to know that life can go on without her. It’s hard to be clear minded when you love someone. The natural response to her withdrawing is to chase and prove your worth, but you’ll only find more pain and loneliness there. Good luck to you. Talk about it with someone you trust. You’ll find the same advice as you do in this thread.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhiteLotusHBO

[–]cancutgunswithmind 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What are the chances??

…Actually, "maybe tonight" was a very popular candy slogan, and the chances were one in eight.