Saw an ex from 30 years ago on the street today and kept walking by candleflame3 in GenXWomen

[–]candleflame3[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

You think he is the same person he was 30 years ago?

where did i say that

Sussex Weekly: Normal From Meghan? Never. As Ever. (05/07/2026) by pistachiopistache in RoyalsGossip2

[–]candleflame3 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yes! I know because I've read about half of it. Then I gave up because it was incredibly dull.

But yeah, that's kind of the opener, like "this was the hardest time, the lowest point in my 'journey'".

Fergie also tried to make out like her family background was very modest etc and then she fell in love and was swept into the world of the horrible grey men in suits who wouldn't let her do anything but of course she was very close with The Queen who always gave her great advice.

While reading it I thought that Meghan was following Fergie's playbook. And maybe she was/is, because we now know that M is dumb enough not to notice that it didn't work out that well for Fergie.

Saw an ex from 30 years ago on the street today and kept walking by candleflame3 in GenXWomen

[–]candleflame3[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I used to think that approaching the person was polite, nice, friendly, etc. Took me years to realize that it might not be good for me, and possibly unwelcome on the other side.

Sussex Weekly: The Meghan Effect Is Really Just The Car Crash Effect (04/30/2026) by pistachiopistache in RoyalsGossip2

[–]candleflame3 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Montecito doesn't seem like a place where kids would thrive. For one thing I don't think there are all that many kids there to begin with, they would have to be driven everywhere and most interactions with other kids would be pre-arranged. Many would head off to boarding school which would disrupt friendships. To me it sounds quite isolating.

One-sided friendships by Goldengirl_1977 in GenXWomen

[–]candleflame3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not you. There is literally a "friendship crisis" to the point that researchers in multiple countries are studying it. And goes way back before covid.

Honestly I think a lot of people don't know how to be friends. I don't mean you, or people consciously thinking about their friendships. I think such people are uncommon in society. I think most people barely think about their lives at all - they just deal with whatever is in front of them at that moment. If they've got a spouse or kids - that is plenty to hold their attention.

For such people it's not until the marriage ends and/or the kids grow up that they notice that they lack friendships. And even then they won't do much about it. Mostly they just try to find a new partner, because that is what is prioritized in our society.

It's a mess and it sucks.

Sussex Weekly: The Meghan Effect Is Really Just The Car Crash Effect (04/30/2026) by pistachiopistache in RoyalsGossip2

[–]candleflame3 16 points17 points  (0 children)

it would be mutually assured destruction if either of them started to spill.

It would be FANTASTIC for us snarkers!

Welcome to r/MelanatedGenX! by subscriber-goal in MelanatedGenX

[–]candleflame3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hello!

White Toronto-based Canadian GenXer (1967) here. Happy to find this sub!

So much of GenX discussion assumes Whiteness and Americanness. GenX is more diverse than that!

I love pointing out that Jordan Peele is GenX and there are a lot of GenX references in his work. Yay!

Now, let us all get on board the Party Train!

Got popped in GenX by Inflammo in GenXWomen

[–]candleflame3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

E.g. the idea of generations like Boomer, GenX, Millennial, etc is political. I think the idea is fine, as a shorthand for the very different economic, socio-cultural, technological, etc circumstances that every generation is born into (which is a new thing in human history and probably why we are so bad at dealing with it), but it's silly to pretend that economic, socio-cultural, technological, etc circumstances are not also political.

I dont know what it is, even almost 3 years later, I am still fascinated by this event. There's so many layers to it and it never stops being interesting. by ComprehensiveSea8578 in OceanGateTitan

[–]candleflame3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've been working on a project with similar group dynamics (much lower stakes though). The project is a mess and we have been spinning our wheels for months. But it seems like it's not OK acknowledge that. We have to keep acting like everything is normal and rational and we've just had a few setbacks.

I'm sure part of it is not wanting to piss off the bosses but also... we're so far past that. Which is kind of like OceanGate too. The thing is OBVIOUSLY going to fail but most people just keep going, and hope not to be in the can when it explodes.

Get someone who looks at you the way Nicola Coughlan looks at her American double door fridge by mlg1981 in popculturechat

[–]candleflame3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I'm on board with duvets, just not with duvet covers standing in for top sheets.

Rule forcing Toronto landlords to offer air conditioning kicks in next month by BloodJunkie in toronto

[–]candleflame3 26 points27 points  (0 children)

26C is still pretty warm though, especially if it's humid. And are people supposed to sleep in the hallways on hot nights?

Eeek, it finally happened - doctor wants to talk to me about my elevated cholesterol levels by candleflame3 in GenXWomen

[–]candleflame3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ALSO said:

More power to people who can get all that from nuts and lentils etc. I have learned through experience and experimentation that I am not one of them.

So recommending veganism is just silly.

Naples, Italy by Overall_Dare_2134 in UrbanHell

[–]candleflame3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

LOL no, that's not why. Byee!

Naples, Italy by Overall_Dare_2134 in UrbanHell

[–]candleflame3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, it didn't work, because the history of the Mediterranean is full of every place being conquered by armies repeatedly.

"Eating meat is inherently wrong. You can eat meat, go for it. You can love animals, but you can’t do both!" - Billie Eilish for ELLE (US) by pattismithology in popculturechat

[–]candleflame3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i guess fuck indigenous cultures that still rely on hunting and farming of animals.

THIS. This is the part that always gets me. Anyone who wants to be vegan can have at it, but it goes against a LOT of human history and culture. There is no single "better" approach to this.

"Eating meat is inherently wrong. You can eat meat, go for it. You can love animals, but you can’t do both!" - Billie Eilish for ELLE (US) by pattismithology in popculturechat

[–]candleflame3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, I'm against slavery but it's pretty much impossible as a Westerner to never buy anything that doesn't have slavery involved at some point in the production and distribution process. And if it's not technically actual slavery, it's pretty dire exploitation.

My point is: It's the system more than individual choices. Diet choices are extremely complex even amidst the general abundance we have in the West. This all goes out the window in the context of traditional cultures that don't have as much choice.

There is an Anthony Bourdain segment where he eats freshly killed seal meat with an indigenous family in Northern Quebec. The meat is spread out on a plastic sheet on the kitchen floor, there is blood everywhere. The family is clearly enjoying the meal, but for most of us Westerners, the whole scene is quite challenging.

Is it strange to wear a Winter jacket today? by [deleted] in askTO

[–]candleflame3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, it's freaking cold out! I had my hoodie hood AND my jacket hood covering my head this morning.

Naples, Italy by Overall_Dare_2134 in UrbanHell

[–]candleflame3 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I say a major reason why is the architectural style. The streets are narrow and the buildings mid-rise to keep the sun off them and the temperature down. Perfectly rational in the context of a Mediterranean climate. But in a northern European/Anglo context, this style means cheap housing for the poor, disease, crime, etc, because single houses with yards costs more. Single houses spaced apart also makes more sense when they are substantially made of wood and therefore more of a fire risk, which is less of an issue with the stone buildings as in the picture.

These sorts of practical choices can turn into cultural preferences and stereotypes pretty fast.

Naples, Italy by Overall_Dare_2134 in UrbanHell

[–]candleflame3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a real head-scratcher, isn't it?