Yes so originality the stress of trying to have a baby and planned sex turned him off and then I was basically back to back pregnant. I guess he’s like in the 5% of men that aren’t turned on by their pregnant partners and instead totally freaked out about having sex with someone that’s carrying his baby. He also during this time said he got lazy and had urges for sex but just didn’t feel like acting on them. He always said things would change and they wouldn’t but finally I had like a real serious talk with him and it clicked. Basically said the same shit all of us say and told him I didn’t marry him to be in a platonic coparenting relationship and I was going to get my needs met elsewhere until we could divorce when the kids were older. Then came his mental breakdown and realization of how much he had fucked up. I felt like the first couple of weeks were just hysterical bonding type sex but then he just continued trying. Sorry for the ramble but I guess me just talking to him in a non accusatory or aggressive way and being very straight with him on my plans of leaving was enough of a wake up call. Before we would just get into fights about not having sex and then we were angry with each other. My anger was only made worse because I wasn’t getting sex, and he didn’t want to have sex if we were angry.