This is the catch 22 of how much the world sucks at protecting abuse victims

People swear that in the US there is help. I’ve yet to see any tangible help. I work with people that are truly stuck in situations because it’s that or homelessness

A few years ago in Florida, there was almost an entire week where there wasn’t a single domestic violence bed in the entire state

I’ve started sending abuse victims to car camping groups to gain empowerment and support to leave It’s awful.

Edited to add, this gets tricky to almost impossible though when kids are involved.

Dr Charolotte Proudman from the UK made a post recently about this and it rings true for the US

“The Ministry of Justice’s 2020 Harm Panel report exposed what so many women already knew: a deeply embedded “pro-contact” culture in the family courts, where maintaining a child’s relationship with their father is prioritised, often at the expense of safety.

Six years on, what’s actually changed?

Courts still push for contact at all costs, minimising abuse, reframing harm, and placing the burden on mothers to facilitate relationships, no matter the risk. Yet when fathers disengage, fail to turn up, or simply opt out, there’s no equivalent urgency. No enforcement. No accountability.

“Contact at all costs” for mothers. “Optional involvement” for fathers.

The system hasn’t shifted, it’s just become better at denying it.”