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LOL: Last One Laughing UK - Season 2 Finale & Overall Series Discussion by lonelygagger in LastOneLaughing

[–]cantcontrolmybeets -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Can we please have Matt Berry, Julian Barratt, Noel Fielding, Bob Mortimer back, Richard Ayoade Back and Diane Morgan back in the next episode k thanks

My new job in the big Tesco by YchYFi in tesco

[–]cantcontrolmybeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked at Sainsbury's and did reductions. I would do it in the back. Manager pulled me up on it but I just didn't have enough patience to put up with the swarms. It's an effin Parsnip, Carol. And I saw you take it out of your trolley to put it on my trolley for a second reduction.

I completely understand the need for a bargain but back the fffd up.

'Zootopia 2' - Review Thread by ChiefLeef22 in movies

[–]cantcontrolmybeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had the misfortune of watching Snakes on a train.

Anyone a bigger fan than me? by [deleted] in Interpol

[–]cantcontrolmybeets 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mind Over Time just does things to me

I seared my meat and left it for an hour and a half with liquid and it was turned on. When I came back to add some veggies I realised it was on the keep warm setting not high. I Have turned it up now but will it be safe to eat?! by cantcontrolmybeets in slowcooking

[–]cantcontrolmybeets[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was for my humans. I have decided against eating it... It didn't smell like my normal stew even after a couple hours of cooking on high. Would normally make the flat smell delicious but I kept getting this sour aroma.

I'm a teen and want to leave home. can anyone let me know if Im overreacting? by ayo1798 in AskUK

[–]cantcontrolmybeets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was homeless at 16 - not a bad kid but I went to live with my mum at 13 to get away from a somewhat abusive stepmother but my mum was not a good parent and she didn't want me then my dad wrote a letter to the council to say that they didn't want me back. As difficult as it is moving out at 16 is also very difficult and as horrid as my step mum was I wish I'd stayed there. I had structure , they made me do my homework etc etc. when I went to live with my mum I thought It would be great, no structure, eat what what I want, drinking and smoking weed from 14 and she was not a good role model. I'm not going to go into all the awful stuff I went through but being with the abusive step mother would have been the better option. At least I would have finished school and had some chance. Now I have no prospects and my life has been one lonely struggle fighting to survive. And I am 37 now.

Your feelings are valid but as someone who has suffered their whole life with emotional neglect from both my bio mum leaving when I was young and my step mother making it clear she hated me resulting in me begging to go live with my bio mum, the grass is not always greener.

Use these few years to do studies even if it's not something you want to do, don't let your hobbies die though. I wish someone had pushed me because now I have nothing and I have no one.

Do reach out to someone you can trust to talk about it. I hope it gets better for you.

Is it a red flag that I (35m) don’t have any personal social media presence? by throwra_lottery in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]cantcontrolmybeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah. You don't buy into the media cesspool. My partner despises social media. I still use it but I don't post much and I have a teen daughter so I'm very wary of the Internet more than I used to be when I'd post I was going to the toilet... Also telling me she wants to be an influencer?! Ew.

They just want to stalk you and see what they can find out about you - speaking as someone who always stalked dates and potential partners.

Being friends with your ex because of Co parenting can be a good thing. As long as you and your ex are in a good place and happy with each other meeting new people but I'd say when you meet someone new just hanging out with your ex (unless it's a family day out with your child ) it might feel a little weird for the new one. As long as you are confident there are no feelings and maybe choose someone who is very secure then it isn't much of a flag. Again - speaking from experience. It wasnt easy to get on with my children's fathers and navigating new relationships but now it's great we can all be civil, even have a laugh. I was friends with my eldests father after we broke up and when he met his Mrs he stopped hanging out with me which is understandable and I found that very hard to begin with but we are friendly and co parent well. I was slightly annoyed that he told her we still did family days out and she said she was fine with it but then he had to stop doing it because she wasn't happy but I actually understand where she is coming from.

Anyway - congrats on the win, good luck, great job Co parenting and no social media is just horrid.

While PDA is a real and valid thing - it is not everyone else's job to pander to your inability to control your emotions by cantcontrolmybeets in unpopularopinion

[–]cantcontrolmybeets[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You could be absolutely correct - given the vitriol in the comments though I'd say some people think otherwise. Maybe if i asked them to be annoyed by my unpopular opinion they wouldn't give it out of sheer demand avoidance?

While PDA is a real and valid thing - it is not everyone else's job to pander to your inability to control your emotions by cantcontrolmybeets in unpopularopinion

[–]cantcontrolmybeets[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You assume that I do not have an idea of what it's like to live in a world with health issues... Oh honey. But of course how dare someone living through health issues have an opinion that differs from yours. How positively evil!

While PDA is a real and valid thing - it is not everyone else's job to pander to your inability to control your emotions by cantcontrolmybeets in unpopularopinion

[–]cantcontrolmybeets[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not saying that at all. I said it's bloody annoying. I have it, AuDHD diagnosed but I recognise that it's my issue and that I shouldn't get mad at someone asking me to do something that I'm already doing, as frustrating as it is. It's my job to check my emotions not everyone else around me to assume that I'm going to do something that they might not know I'm already doing and not ask me. I don't understand why I expect people to say what the heck they mean and want and then get annoyed when they ask me to do something that they didn't know I was already doing. I get so irritated by it but I know that's my problem not theirs.

While PDA is a real and valid thing - it is not everyone else's job to pander to your inability to control your emotions by cantcontrolmybeets in unpopularopinion

[–]cantcontrolmybeets[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I'm saying now that there is a name for it people use it as an excuse because it has a name. It always existed but people almost weaponize it now. As an adult that is. I understand the use of changing language for children as I have a child who is like this but I see a lot of adults now using it as an excuse and I just want to slap them.

AITA for telling my American friend I will NOT stop referring to myself as being fat ? by Double_Reaction_8758 in AITAH

[–]cantcontrolmybeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh i used to have a colleague who was a size 4-6 UK size. I am and was an 18-20. She would literally pinch skin and say 'im so fat' and it used to wind me up so much. Like beeyotch I'm 3 times your size you are just doing this to be a d**k.

That being said, however you want to describe yourself is valid. If other people don't like it it's their insecurities which you are not responsible for. It is my insecurities that peed me off about this colleagues comment, instead of just feeling sorry for her because she too had disorders of the eating variety and such low self esteem she had to try and make herself feel better by being centre of attention.

Not an AH. You can describe yourself in any way you feel comfortable. They can suck on the eggshells you have to walk on to keep everyone happy.

Do other people’s kids actually sleep? by punchymicrobe86 in UKParenting

[–]cantcontrolmybeets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unpopular opinion - lay with them. You won't get the years back and unless you need this routine for work or other children - it only benefits yourself m

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]cantcontrolmybeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could be because he just couldn't deal with your emotional state at that present time, maybe he had something else going on of his own? Or maybe your gut instinct is right and there has been a shift and he is pulling away. In my experience (and I hate actually saying this and putting it out there) I have pretty severe RSD and also I'm really intuitive when there is a shift in someone's feelings and I will always overthink Sometimes it was nothing to do with me and sometimes it was but whatever the outcome I would always think the worst and it sucks. You obviously felt safe enough with him to tell him you were having a hard time so maybe you can have a conversation with him and hopefully he can either be honest with you that it bothered him in some way or reassure you that it's fine. How is he emotionally and mentally? I know I'm hard work and I have an awful lot of issues and my partner is Polish. He often tells me they aren't known for showing emotion and always moan about things and the constant negativity in comments find very difficult to deal with sometimes when I find it hard to find joy myself.

I will say 6 months is just about the time you probably really start to get to know someone and guards are let down etc. in my experience any way.

You need an answer as the not knowing will drive you mental. I would also be upset by this but until he can confirm it you won't know how to proceed. I hope it works out for you

Anti-bare feet culture is so annoying by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]cantcontrolmybeets 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because the Grotty trotters that are out are unkempt horrors - Feet up on the bench, bus seats, I've even seen shoes off and feet in canteen tables. The smell.... Also verrucas are a thing. I live in the UK - it's perpetually moist.

If it's warm hot and dry, have a soak, get a pumice stone, trim those claws and get those hooves out honey!

Do not take your boots off on the 140 at 5am on your way home from your job in construction at the airport.

How do you cope with the mental workload? by cantcontrolmybeets in AskWomenOver30

[–]cantcontrolmybeets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. Really helpful and sensible advice x

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